Ndi bwino kulankhula ndi maofesi a pa intaneti pa za chibadwa cha abambo, ndipo nkhondo zovuta zimasewera pakati pa alendo, makamaka akazi. Amayi akutsutsa kuti molongosola molondola lingaliro la "abambo abwino", ndi makhalidwe otani amene munthuyu ayenera kukhala nawo, wina amaima pambali kuti palibe chibadwa cha bambo ndipo papa amayamba kulankhulana ndi ana awo pokhapokha zitakhala zosangalatsa (mukhoza kulankhula, kusewera mpira, ndi zina zotero.) Amayi ena amachitcha izi zamatsenga ndikuyankhula ndi mkwatulo pazobereka zawo, momwe bambo watsopanoyo adasinthira mwachikondi ana awo kuchokera kubadwa ndipo popanda kukwiya anawuka usiku kwa mwana wolira , HaVaYaH take wapatali kuchokera hafu ya shawa udindo "Papa-getter" amene chachikulu ntchito -. Kusamalira banja lathu, samathanso kulimbana ndi mayi mwana iwoeni. Ena saganizira za moyo wa banja popanda kuthandizidwa ndi kuthandizidwa ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo muzochita zonse: kuchokera kumasamalidwe okhudza zosamalira. Ngati kufalitsa koteroko kuli koyenera kwa onse awiri, palibe chotsutsana nacho, monga akunenera. Koma bwanji ngati zinthu sizikugwirizana ndi maphwando?
Idzatha liti?
"Pamene Alyosha wathu anabadwa, ine ndinali mu chisanu ndi chiwiri kumwamba ndi chisangalalo," adatero Nastya. "Ndipo mwamuna wanga ankawoneka kuti ali pambali nthawi zonse." Adzabwera kunyumba kuchokera kuntchito, adya chakudya chamadzulo ndikupita ku kompyuta kapena ku TV. Ndimamuuza za momwe tsiku lathu ndi mwana wanga wadutsamo, akugwedeza, koma zokambirana sizigwirizana. Monga ngati alibe chidwi. Posachedwapa ndinamupempha kuti akhale ndi Alyosha pamene ndikusamba. Pambuyo pa mphindi zisanu, iye anali atagwira kale pakhomo, chifukwa mwana wake anali wonyansa, ndipo bambo ake sangathe kusintha. "Mayi akakhala ndi khanda amatchedwa kuti mmodzi yekha payekha sizodziwika. kuti amvetsetse izi, koma choti achite chiyani? Kodi tingatani kuti titsimikizire kuti makolowo ali ndi chibadwa chotani? Koma mosiyana ndi maganizo olakwika, chibadwa cha abambo chimakhalapo, chikuwonekera ... kuteteza ana ake Mwachidule, pamene inu ndi mwana wanu simungapsezedwe , Bambo ali wodekha. chojambula, kudziwa chiwombankhanga, ntchentche, sichikugwiritsanso ntchito kukakamiza mavuto omwe angasokoneze moyo wa mwana, komano, chirichonse chikhoza kutchulidwa ndi thupi, ndipo yesetsani kusintha maganizo anu ku vuto ngati simungasinthe nokha. Ndi maso anu onse, ndi mahomoni anu omwe akukwiyitsa, ndipo machitidwe anu a amayi akunyengerera ena onse, mpaka kumangokhala kudzipulumutsa .Zomwekukugwirani inu, zimakhudza chilakolako chake chabwino kapena mpando wabwino. Ndipo mwamuna akhoza (ali ndi ufulu!) Osati kugawana nanu zokondweretsa zanu, osati chifukwa chakuti alibe chidwi. Mulole iye mwa njira yake yekha kuti akwaniritsidwe ndi chimwemwe cha abambo - mwa kunyada kwa mwana wake, pokondwera kulingalira zomwe wapindula, pokhulupirira kuti ndinu mayi wabwino ndipo ndi inu mwana ali wodzaza, wokonzekera bwino ndi wokondwa. Muziyamikira zomwe mutu wa banja umachita pa moyo wanu wonse: amapereka banja, amagwira ntchito (komwe, mwinamwake akutopa), amasamala za inu ndi mwana.
Simukufuna kupirira mphamvu zoterezi? Chitani mwanzeru. Yambani pang'onopang'ono kukoka pamodzi bambo ndi mwana. Osati mwa kusintha kansalu, koma ndi zinthu zambiri zokondweretsa - khulupirirani bambo wodyetsedwa bwino ndi wokondwa kuti abweretse abambo kuti aziyankhulana kwa kanthawi, asiyeni iwo azisewera. Pa nthawi yomweyo, khala mbali ndi mbali ndikugwira nawo ntchitoyi, pokonzekera nthawi iliyonse kuti mutenge phokosolo.
Ndi chifundo chonse
Ella anati: "Bambo athu ndi kubadwa kwa Mashka kwasintha. - Dziko lonse lapansi tsopano likuzungulira mwana wake: Ndikumva ndekha: ndipo Mashenka amadya? Ndipo kodi mumamuveka chiyani kuti muyende? Bwanji osamuphunzitsa kuti awerenge? Pa nthawi yomweyi, bambo mwiniyo amaphunzira mabuku olerera ana, amasankha nthawi yowonjezera zakudya zowonjezera. Anzanga amandichitira nsanje, ndipo ndikukumva ... ndikukondweretsa mwana wanga wamkazi. "Inde, heroine wa nkhaniyo akuwoneka kuti ndi wokondwa, ndipo sakusangalala - kumakhala kuti mwamuna wake akulowerera kwambiri mu chilichonse, osakhala ndi malo ogwiritsira ntchito, ndipo wina akhoza kudandaula ndi mpumulo, kusunthira zonse kusamalirira mwana kwa papa, koma apo, pakadali pano, kusintha kwina kapena ngakhale kulembera maudindo kumachitika.Papa, kuwonjezera pa ntchito zake zaumunthu, amatenga amayi, osasiya akazi Ngati mkazi asanakhalepo mwana mu izi E atenge mbali ya mwana mwamuna wake, koma tsopano limafotokoza maganizo wosanganiza -. Nsanje, kumverera kwa kusiyidwa Komanso, ntchito imeneyi bambo sayankha mkazi kumva bwino kwambiri ngati mayi Choncho kusakhutira zikuchitika ..
Nthawi zina abambo amasonyeza kusunga malamulo komanso ... kuyesa kukondweretsa mkazi wake. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti abambo achifundo kwambiri ndi amuna omwe ali ndi miyeso yapamwamba ya estrogen - mahomoni achikazi. Kuchokera pamalingaliro a zamoyo, zonse ziri zoona: pali mahomoni omwe amachititsa mawonetseredwe ena aumunthu, motero, ngati mawonetseredwe mu khalidwe laumunthu amawonedwa, ndiye, ndi mahomoni ambiri. Inde, mwa munthu aliyense, mosasamala za chikhalidwe, pali mahomoni amphongo ndi abambo. Apo ayi, akazi "100%" amakhala ofewa kwambiri, ndipo amuna 100% ali ovuta kwambiri, chifukwa funsoli silikupezekapo kwa mahomoni, koma ndi chiŵerengero chawo. "Mahomoni ambiri azimuna mwa mwamuna, makhalidwe achikazi ambiri amawonetsedwa mwa iye. Mabanja okondwa amapezeka pamene chiŵerengero cha mahomoni mwa awiriwo ndi chophatikiza: Mwachitsanzo, ndi bambo wachikondi, mwininyumbayo amachita bwino ndi wopeza amayi amene amadziwika ndi ntchito ndi kulandira mwana neg (mwa kulankhula kwina, ndi mahomoni mwamuna zambiri ake). Kwa Masiku ano kuwombola ichi udindo ndi chovomerezeka ndi wamba. Mavuto zimachitika komwe kumachitika m'thupi ndi 'anagawira "wogawana. Mwachitsanzo, makolo onse akufuna kukhala omasuka, choncho amayi omwe atabadwa amakhala "akumangidwa ndi dzanja," amayamba kulemedwa ndi ntchito yake, amayesetsa kuonetsetsa kuti maudindowa amagawidwa mofanana, omwe amayi amatha kumvedwa: "Mwana uyu ndi Kwa ine woyamba kubadwa, sindinadziwe momwe ndingamuthandizire, koma ngati ndiphunzira, papa sayenera kuchita chiyani? " Atafika potsatizana, aliyense m'banja lino amasinthasintha: amasinthasintha kuti ayimilire kwa mwana pakati pa usiku, amasinthasintha kuti adye (ngati sizili zokhudza kuyamwitsa, ndithudi), atembenuke ndikuyenda. Ndipo ndalama mu bajeti ya banja ndi, monga lamulo, yopangidwa pakati.
Tiyeni tiwone zotsatira
Adadi, monga amayi, ndi osiyana, ndipo sikungolandile kuwawerengera onse pamodzi. Banja ndilo moyo wamoyo, ndipo kusintha kulikonse kuyenera kukhala oboyudozhelannymi. Ndipo, ndithudi, ngati iwe uima pa malo, "Ine sindikutsutsa, ndipo iwe, monga nthawizonse, wonyenga," iwe ulibe zotsatira zabwino. Fufuzani zosokoneza, pitani kwa wina ndi mzake, ndipo musati mutseke. Koma choyamba ganizirani za papa wotani yomwe mungakhale nayo mutu wanu wa banja.
• Bambo ndi wopeza. Bambo awa amagwira ntchito zambiri ndipo ali pakhomo pang'onopang'ono. Ndipo pamene akuwonekera, ali wotopa ndipo "ndi bwino kuti asatembenuzire." Ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi bambo wothamanga ndi mwamuna womvera pafupi ndi iwe, iwe ... uyenera kusintha munthu, ndipo kodi ndikoyenera? Osati kuti, pokhala ndi mnzako m'moyo kapena "Kukhumudwitsa" kale kale, mudzakhutitsidwa. Pambuyo pake, zikhoza kukhala kuti mmalo mopeza ndalama, bambo angakonde kukhala ndi inu mchenga wa mchenga. Ndipo ndi ndani amene adzasamalira banja?
• Bambo-hen. Amamvetsera mwachikondi ndi mwanayo, amawerenga mabuku, amasewera naye komanso amakamba za moyo kwa nthawi yaitali. Ntchito iliyonse yamadzulo madzulo ndi sabata, mosakayikira adzasangalatsa zosangalatsa za banja. Popanda munthu woteroyo nthawi zonse mumamverera wokondedwa. Ngati mapindu a abambo akukhutiritsa zosowa za banja ndi zofuna zawo, ndiye kuti chibwenzi choterechi chikhoza kukwiyidwa. Ubale umenewu ndi wabwino kwa okwatirana, Muyenera kutsimikizira kuti abambo anu samalowetsa mwana wanu.
• Bambo wachilendo. Akuwoneka kuti ali ndi inu, koma ngati kuti samvetsa chilichonse. Ndizosangalatsa kwambiri kukhala ndi anzanga kusiyana ndi m'banja. Bambo nthawizonse amakhala pambali, ndipo sitinganene kuti ali wokonda moyo waumphawi - amasamala za moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku la banja. Chitsanzo choterechi chimapezeka pakati pa amuna amene adakhala atate "mosaganizira" - osakhala ndi maganizo okhudzana ndi ana, kukhala mwana weniweni, munthu amatsutsa, monga momwe zingakhalire, amamugwirira ntchitoyo.Kuyankhula kwina, amangothamanga kwa iye.Akada, chodabwitsa ichi chimapezeka pa malo athu, ndipo sakudziwika kumadzulo. Kumeneko amakwatirana mochedwa ndipo amakhala ndi ana pokhapokha atayamba kukwera mkati mwawo. Kodi mungachite chiyani muzochitika kale? Yesani kumuthandiza mwamuna wanu kukula koma osati ndikunyoza, koma mosiyana Chimene amakuchitirani inu ndi mwana, munene kuti ndinu wokondwa chifukwa chake amamusamalira komanso amamvetsera bwino, momwe amakuthandizira (ngakhale ngati siziri chomwecho!) Atagwiritsa ntchito mfundo yakuti ndi atate wa chirichonse mu yankho komanso mwakhama ndi zovuta zonsezi, mutu wa banja ukhoza kukhala iwo ndi kuchita.
• Bambo ndi mwana. Bambo woteroyo ali ndi chisangalalo chachikulu amaphatikizidwa ndi ana, koma ndizokha. zosangalatsa ndi zosangalatsa kwa iye. Sewani ndi mwanayo? Chonde! Inde, ndikukondwera! Mwa mwana, bambo samakonda chisokonezo, amakonza masewera olimbitsa thupi, amaganizira masewera okondweretsa, amakulolani kudya maswiti ndi ochepa, ndikuchotsa chilango cha amayi. ndi abambo, ndi abambo - tchuthi la munthu. Komano, ndi zabwino, ana amakhala ndi chinachake chosangalatsa, ndipo pamzake - sizikuwoneka kuti amayi "oipa" amawakonda. Kodi ndikofunikira kuti musinthe khalidwe la papa, mutagwirizana naye kuti musapange "apolisi oyipa" kuchokera kwa amayi anga, ndipo mwina, mutenge nawo masewera awo achiwerewere? Ndipo aliyense adzakhutitsidwa!
Ngati abambo akukhala mosiyana
Nthawi zina zimakhala kuti banja limasokonezeka panthawi yomwe mayi ali ndi mimba, kapena akukonzekera kulera mwana yekha. Kodi tingapeze bwanji munthu yemwe akusowa m'banja yemwe akusowa ndi mwanayo? Choyamba, tiyenera kuvomereza izi ndipo sitiziwona ngati chinachake cholakwika. Pozunzidwa ndi kudziona kuti ndi wolakwa pamaso pa mwana wake chifukwa amakulira m'banja losakwanira, mkazi amaika mgodi ndi zotsatira zochedwa kuyanjana ndi mwanayo. Choyamba, kumva kuti mayi anga ali ndi maganizo oipa, mwana yemwe ali kale kuyambira wamng'ono kwambiri angaphunzire kuti pali chinachake cholakwika ndi iye. Poganizira za momwemo, amayi anga ngati akuuza mwanayo kuti: "Ife sitinali ngati wina aliyense." Ndipo ngati kulekanitsa kwa mwamuna sikuchitika mwa kufuna kwa mkazi, ndiye kuti kusayanjanitsika kwake kungakhale kotsimikiziridwa ndi matemberero ake kwa mwamuna wake ndi kunena za moyo. Kodi mungachite chiyani pazifukwazi? Dziwani nokha lamulo: Mayi wokondwa amakhala wokondwa komanso mwana wake.Kodi mukakumana ndi mavuto, mwanayo adzazindikira chimodzimodzi, chifukwa akuyang'ana dziko lapansi ndi maso anu. Bambo ndizoyenera, koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti inu kapena mwana wanu muli olakwika kwambiri, choncho zinachitikadi! Chachiwiri, nkoyenera kusamalira kuti pali abambo omwe ali abambo, abambo anu okondedwa, abwenzi anu. chitsanzo cha khalidwe, ziwongoleni mbali imeneyi ya moyo.Zomwemonso, chithunzi chake cha dziko lapansi chidzakhazikitsidwa mwachindunji ndi cholondola.Pachifukwa ichi, kugonana kwa mwana sikofunikira.Kupezeka kwa mwamuna m'moyo wa mwanayo kuli kofunikira kwa anyamata omwe amaphunzira kuchokera kwa iwo kuti akhale amuna, kusonkhanitsa zosiyanasiyana zochitirana Ndine theka amphamvu a anthu.