Chilimwe ndi nthawi ya maholide. Ndipo chifukwa amayi ambiri akuyembekezera nthawi yabwinoyi kuti akwaniritse "theka lawo". Ndipo, ndithudi, mkazi aliyense alota kukhala ndi "theka" moyo wake wonse. Pano pano simungathe kupeza zomwe mukufuna. Ndiye mungatani kuti mupirire matenda ovutika maganizo pambuyo pa tchuthi? Tidzakambirana za izi m'nkhaniyi. Kodi simukuganiza kuti chikondi chenicheni ndi chinyengo chopanda pake?
Malingana ndi chiwerengero, imodzi mwa mabuku khumi omwe ali m'malowa amakula kukhala chikondi chenicheni, kenako kulowa muukwati. Azimayi ena amakhulupirira kuti mukakumana, nthawi ya chilimwe. Ndipo, poyamba masika, amayamba "nthenga zoyera" - kutaya thupi, kupita ku solarium, kugula zatsopano, zinthu zokongola. Koma kasupe msanga kapena mtsogolo imatha kumapeto, ndipo chidziwitso chokhumba chokha sichinachitikepo. Ndiyeno kukonzekera kudziwana kumasunthidwa ku nyengo yachilimwe ya chaka, chomwe chimathandiza kwambiri anthu atsopano.
Monga momwe moyo umasonyezera, ambiri mwa okwatirana tsopano anakumana mu chilimwe. Ndipo sizosadabwitsa, chifukwa chilimwe ndi nthawi yokonda kwambiri chaka. Dzuwa lokongola, kutentha kwa mvula yam'chilimwe, mbalame zikuimba, mabombe, nyanja ndi dzuwa lodabwitsa zimadzaza moyo wa munthu ndi chiyembekezo ndi chikondi. Choncho, amayi ambiri amaika chiyembekezo chawo m'chilimwe, ndipo nthawi yayitali asanakhumudwitse, akukonzekera mwachidwi, akulota kukakumana nawo kwinakwake pamalo okondana ndi nyanja. Pokhapokha ngati wina akuyembekeza kokha m'nyengo ya chilimwe ndi panyanja, ndiye kuti wina akhoza kuvutika maganizo. Pambuyo pake, kupuma panyanja sikuli kwamuyaya, posakhalitsa kapena mtsogolo, kuchokera ku nthano ndikofunikira kubwerera ku imvi, moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku.
Mwatsoka, kuchuluka kwa maukwati a tchuthi kumangokhala kukumbukira komwe kumawunikira moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku. Kodi mukuzindikira izi, kutenga zizindikiro za malo osungirako chidwi ndi mlendo wabwino? Kapena kodi mukuyembekeza kuti adzalandire mwamuna wanu, komanso bwanji? Kodi munakumanapo ndi amayi omwe ukwati wawo unachititsa kuti azikondana? Ngakhale ndondomeko yokonzedweratu ya "kulanda" kwa munthu, makamaka, imatsogolera pang'onopang'ono kupitiriza mwa mawonekedwe a mapepala, ma sms ndi mayitanidwe angapo. Ndipo ndizo zonse. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, ndipo izi zimatha, chifukwa nthawi zambiri anthu omwe alowerera nawo mu bukuli amakhala m'midzi yosiyana, m'mayiko kapena ngakhale m'mayiko osiyanasiyana.
Atabwerera kunyumba kwa achibale awo, koma makoma osokera, atasiya kuganiza kuti amasulidwa ndi kusasamala, anthu amakhala osasamala. Ndipo izi ndi zopanda pake. Zoonadi, moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku umachotsedwa ndi mitundu yambiri komanso zooneka bwino, koma ziyenera kuzindikirika ndi kuziwona mofatsa, monga zenizeni. Zoonadi, kuchoka pamasewero a tchuthi kumachitika ndipo zimasintha kwambiri. Koma monga tikudziwira, zosiyana zimatsimikizira ulamuliro. Ndipo kupatula pang'ono pokhaku kumathera ndi chikondwerero chaukwati.
Ngati cholinga chokha cha amayi pa nthawi yopuma ndi kupeza mwamuna pa mtengo uliwonse, ndiye izi zimawonekera kwambiri kwa amuna. Ndipo palibe njira iliyonse yomwe mukhoza kubisala, ngakhale kusamvetsetsa kwa amuna sikungathandize kusokoneza chikhumbochi.
Inde, kukondana kwa tchuthi ndi kosavuta kumangiriza, komanso mofulumira kumatha. Ndipo izi ndizo chifukwa chakuti amayi ambiri amayembekezera kupitiliza bukuli, ndipo amuna, ambiri, amakonda zinthu zochepa. Ndipo iwe, mwinamwake, uli ndi chidaliro chonse kuti iwe unakomana pa malo omwewo, amodzi okha? Ndipo kotero iwo anali atapadera kwambiri ku ulamulirowo? Ndipo ngati mukulakwitsa, nanga bwanji?
Tiyeni tipereke chitsanzo. Mkazi wina chaka chilichonse ankagwira ntchito mwakhama kuti apite, iye anakonza mphindi iliyonse ya mpumulo, amawerengera misonkhano yonse, ndipo imodzi mwa izi idzakhala yosangalatsa. Chaka chilichonse amapita kuzinthu zosiyana siyana zamabwinja, kupita kumapanga a mbiri yakale ndi zina zotero, ndi cholinga chimodzi - kupeza mwamuna wake. Zoonadi, zambiri zomwe anachita sizidakonda kwambiri - udzudzu, mapanga amadzi, koma akuvutika nazo zonsezi pofuna cholinga chake kupeza munthu amene akutsatira zofunikira zake.
Chifukwa cha tchuthi chotero, iye yekha amabwerera kunyumba, atatopa komanso woonda. Ndipo pafupifupi nthawi zonse zimabwera ndi kumverera kokhumudwitsa kwathunthu mwa amuna. Ndipo mmalo mwa tchuthi kotero, iye amakhoza kupita ku nyanja ndi kumangosuka kumeneko, kutentha dzuwa ndi kuiwala za mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku.
Ngati moyo uli wokonzedweratu kukomana ndi chikondi, ndiye kuti zichitikadi, ndipo wina sayenera kuopseza chikondi chifukwa choyesetsa kuti apeze. Chikondi chimadza pa zokha, mwadzidzidzi chimatulukira mumtima mwako popanda chilolezo chako.
Ngati nthawi ina mumakonda kukondana, musaiwale mfundo zotsatirazi, kuti musadandaule kenaka ndikukhala opanda chidwi. Pokhala pamalo osiyana ndi ozolowereka, mwachitsanzo pa tchuthi, anthu nthawi zambiri amachita zinthu mosiyana ndi nthawi zonse. Kwenikweni, muzochitika zoterezi, anthu amasangalala komanso amasulidwa, ndicho chifukwa chake ndizovuta kuganizira makhalidwe awa a umunthu chifukwa cha "chisangalalo" chotere. Musaiwale za izo, kuyankhula ndi mnyamata wanu.
Pafupifupi aliyense sasangalala kwambiri ndi zibwenzi za holide. Kuzindikira kuti nkhani zoterezi ndizokhalitsa chifukwa chakuti anthu amakhala nthawi zambiri osati m'midzi yosiyanasiyana, komanso m'mayiko osiyanasiyana, ndipo ngakhale holide ili ndi mapeto, imangopanikiza. Ndipo iwo amayesetsa mwachangu kugulitsa ndalama mu chikondwerero cha tchuthi koposa zonse, kotero kuti zinakhala zowala, zosangalatsa.
Chikondi cha tchuthi ndi mphongo mbale wa bukuli "m'maso." Inu simukudziwa chirichonse za munthu uyu, inu simukudziwana nawo bwino, kotero iye akhoza kunena mochuluka kwambiri monga momwe malingaliro ake aliri okwanira.
Ubale uliwonse uyenera kukhala wotetezeka. Izi sizikugwiranso ntchito pofuna kuteteza kugonana. Pali, mdziko lapansi, mwatsoka, anthu okwatirana, achiba komanso ochita zachiwerewere omwe angagwiritse ntchito mwayi wanu ndikusiya mapepala m'thumba lanu, akudziyesa kukhala okondana kwambiri.
Musati mutenge chirichonse. Mutha kukhala wozunzidwa pafupipafupi kuti mupumule bwino. Tengani bukuli lakale monga wamkulu - mosamala, akudziwa zonse zomwe zikuchitika.
Musaiwale za nthawi zofunika izi ndipo musadandaule ndi holideyi. N'zotheka kuti mudzakumbukirabe mwapadera ndipo mudzakumananso pa tchuthi moyo wanu wokondedwa, chifukwa chikondi chingapezeke paliponse ndi nthawi iliyonse.