Mukhoza kukhala otsimikiza kuti msungwana aliyense pa dziko lapansi adalowa mu mkhalidwe uno. Ndipo aliyense wa ife, kamodzi kamodzi m'moyo wanga, amaganizira za momwe mungagwirizane ndi munthu wina. Mlingaliro langa, chirichonse chiri chotheka, ndipo ngakhale chochuluka chotero, icho chiri cha theka lamphamvu la umunthu. Chinthu choyamba choyenera kuchita ndi kukhulupirira nokha, ndipo ena onse, monga akunenera, ndi nkhani yeniyeni ndi nthawi.
Monga mukudziwa, asungwana onse a Venus, ndi anyamata ochokera ku Mars, ndipo chifukwa chake, kukondana ndi mnyamata ayenera kukhala osamala kwambiri komanso osasuka, chifukwa nthawi zambiri amuna amaopa mphamvu yamphamvu, chifukwa aliyense wa iwo amadziona kuti ndi wovuta kwambiri. Ndipo tsopano ndikupatsani malangizowo momwe mungakwaniritsire maloto anu.
Choyamba , ngati poyamba mukuwona munthu amene ali mwa inu sali m'chikondi, ndiye kuti mumasintha fano lanu ndi kalembedwe, kotero kuti 100% amakuganizirani. Chifukwa si chinsinsi kwa aliyense yemwe atsikana amakonda makutu, koma anyamata - ndi maso awo. Pachifukwachi, ngakhale kavalidwe kanu kakang'ono kwambiri, ndiye kuti mungapereke mowonjezereka ndi ufulu ngati mutatsegula makatani angapo apamwamba pamtundu wanu. Komabe, ngati mumakonda kalembedwe yanu monga "vampu yazimayi", ndiye kuti mukuyenera kusintha mabatani awa. Kumbukirani kuti kukondana ndi munthu wina, sikuyenera kukhala kovuta.
Chachiwiri , muyenera kumalankhulana naye nthawi zonse, osati ndi mawu okha, kungokwanira kumwetulira, koma kumwetulira kodabwitsa, kotero kuti akakufunirani. Musaiwale kuti zatsimikiziridwa kale kuti kumwetulira kochokera pansi pamtima kungasinthe njira yolumikizana ndi anzanu m'malo mwa gulu lonse la mawu ofunda. Ndipo musanayambe kukondana ndi mwamuna, muyenera kukhala naye pa ubwenzi.
Chachitatu , musaiwale za kukhudzana ndi "maso". Yesetsani kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yochulukirapo mu malingaliro ake, ndi kumwetulira pamilomo yake, koma izi ziyenera kukhala zodabwitsa, osati zovuta. Simukusowa kunena kuti "hello", kudzakhala kokwanira ngati muyang'anitsitsa mosamala.
Ndiye , ngati n'kotheka, muyenera kudziwa za zofuna zake, zosangalatsa, ntchito nthawi yake yopuma. Ngati mumadziwa za zochita zake, nthawi zonse mukhoza kuthandiza kukambirana kokondweretsa. Ngati chilankhulo chofala ndi chinthu chokhumba chipezeka, ndiye kuti nkofunika kuti mutenge pang'ono. Ngati n'kotheka, funsani kuti amuthandize, kaya ndi mosiyana, mum'pemphe thandizo. Musaiwale kuti anyamata amakonda atsikana opanda chitetezo komanso oyenera, chifukwa amangoyamba kugwira ntchito zachilengedwe. Amuna amasangalala kukhala odziimira ndi olimba, choncho, kuti akondane ndi munthu wina, munthu ayenera kukhala wovuta pamaso pake. Simukuyenera kukhala mbuye wake mwamsanga, choyamba, kukhala bwenzi yemwe adzamulemekeze, ndipo ndani wodalirika. Mukamayankhula momasuka ndi munthu, mumamudziwa bwino mphamvu zake ndi zofooka zake, ndipo pamapeto pake mutha kusewera bwino.
Choyamba muyenera kudziwa momwe mungamvetsere ndikumvetsera womuthandizana kuti muzimukonda. Komabe, ngati wokondedwa wanu wokonda kucheza nawo, khalani ngati mukufuna kukambirana kwake ndikuyika "inde", "eya" m'malo abwino komanso nthawi zonse mumaganizo a mawu ake.
Kumbukirani kuti abambo achikondi ambiri anali ndi amuna ambiri omwe amakhala nawo chifukwa choti akhoza kukwaniritsa zokhumba zawo zokhudzana ndi kugonana komanso chifukwa amatha kumvetsera omvera awo. Pa chifukwa chimenechi, yesetsani kukhala mthandizi wake wabwino, makamaka pazochitika za "akazi".
Nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti mtsikanayo ndi wosamvetsetseka, choncho ngakhale panthawi yokambirana momasuka, kambiranani za inu nokha ndi moyo wanu, mwinamwake inu mudzakhala bwenzi lina lachiwiri, lomwe liri losasangalatsa komanso losasangalatsa. Maonekedwe anu onse muyenera kuyang'ana mwakachetechete, kusatsimikizika, kuti tsiku lirilonse munthu wanu akhoza kutsegula maso anu ambiri omwe adzamukopa ndi mphamvu yaikulu.
Malo apadera ayenera kuperekedwa kwachizoloŵezi, koma atsikana okonda kugonana. Kugonana kochezeka kumakhala pafupi ndi zonyansa, koma simukuloledwa kudutsa mzerewu. Pachifukwa ichi, chirichonse chimayamba kuchitapo kanthu: kuyang'ana mofatsa ndi kutsegula maulendo, kumakhudza nthawi, nthawi zina ngakhale kung'ung'udza m'makutu ako. Aliyense wa ife amadziwa choti achite kuti atenge chikondi ndi munthu wina.
N'zoona kuti sikoyenera kukangana ndi mwamuna nthawi zonse (makamaka poyamba), koma mumatha kukangana naye pang'ono (ndipo, ndithudi, kumupangitsa kuti apambane) kuti amve ngati wopambana wopambana. Izi sizidzangosangalatsa zokhazokha, koma zidzakusangalatsani.
Woimira aliyense wa hafu yokongola yaumunthu, amatha kupeza munthu aliyense, chinthu chachikulu ndikumudziwitsa kuti ndiwe yekhayo. Zovuta tsopano si nthawi, kotero kudzidalira kwa mlengalenga, ndi chidaliro chonse chimene mumasankha anthu, osati mosiyana. Ndi njirayi, osankhidwa anu sangokhala ndi mwayi. Chinthu chachikulu, nthawi zambiri kumwetulira, ndi kukumbukira kuti ndinuwopambana kwambiri. Chikondi chimapangitsa munthu kukhala wabwinoko, ndipo msungwanayo amawopseza ndipo amangochita zosasunthika komanso zodabwitsa, ndipo izi ndi zomwe muyenera kukondana ndi munthu wina.
Komabe, muyenera kumvetsera nthawi ino. Inde, palibe munthu amene angayime pamaso pa zofuna zanu, koma mwina chikondi chanu chenicheni chiri pafupi, ndipo simungamvetsetse ndikufuna kugwira galasi kumwamba.