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Ena amati chikondi ndi mankhwala omwe amachititsa thupi komanso ubongo. Ndipo zonse zomwe si zachilendo, zimaimbidwa mu vesi, agulugufe onse m'mimba, kugunda kwa mtima, nyenyezi m'maso mwake, dziko limene limalira ndi kuvota mu kuvina ... zonsezi ndizimapangidwe ndi mahomoni. Chifundo chimene timamverera kwa munthu onse chimapangidwa ndi mahomoni, monga kukhulupirika, chimwemwe, chisangalalo, chikondi. Chikondi ndi mtundu wa mahomoni, zotsatira za mankhwala ndi zinthu zomwe zimatipangitsa kukhala osangalala komanso osangalala. Timakondwera, tili m'mwamba mwachisanu ndi chiwiri, ndipo mahomoni onsewa ndi zinthu zonyansa. Monga chikondi chokha. Kodi ndizoyenera kukhala ngati zinyama ndi ma tubes oyesa? Kupulumuka zonsezi? Ngozi? Zikuwoneka mwanjira ina osaganiza ...
Zikuoneka kuti ndakatulo zokongola za olemba ndakatulo, ma buku ndi mafilimu achikondi - zonsezi ndizochitika zokha zomwe zimapangitsa anthu kukhala osokonezeka. Kodi ndizofunika? Ndipotu, chilichonse chimene timaganiza kuti ndi chozizwitsa komanso mphatso yabwino kwambiri, chimachepetsedwa kokha ndi zomwe zimagwira ntchito komanso zofanana, ndipo timalingana ndi apesitiki a abulu omwe amafuna kuti akwaniritse chilakolako chawo ndi kulandira mlingo.
Pali lingaliro limodzi lokha. Chofunika chake ndi chakuti chikondi ndi chibadwa cha kubereka. Ndipo zonse zomwe tikukumana nazo ndizochinyengo za chirengedwe, msampha umene umatikopa kotero kuti tingo ... tibwererenso mtundu wathu wokha. Ndipotu, popanda zokopazi, zilakolako za "maso okongola omwe satilola kuti tigone usiku", anthu amatha kufa. Izi ndizofunika kwambiri za nyimbo, nyimbo pansi pa mwezi, maluwa ndi mphatso, kukondana, machitidwe ambiri a anthu ndi malingaliro athu onse. Zonsezi ndizopanga mbeu ndikukula. Munthu ali ofanana ndi nyani, ndi malingaliro ndi zachibadwa, zilakolako, zomwe zimakhudza kugonana.
Ndipo iwo omwe sali okondana kwambiri ndi khemistri ndi biology, angakuchititseni inu kuti chikondi ndi ndalama zokha. Kudzikonda komweko. Ndiponsotu, chikondi lero ndi chinyengo chofala, chinachake chimene chimapangitsa zinthu kukhala zofunika. Mabuku otchuka, mafilimu ndi nyimbo zokhudzana ndi chikondi. Mphatso zambiri zimaperekedwa "chifukwa cha chikondi". Atsikana amafuna kukhala okongola, kugula zodzozedwa kuti azikondedwa. Kodi tinganene chiyani za mafuta onunkhira, pamene anthu akufuna kununkhiza ngati maluwa, kukopa, kunyamula zokhudzana ndi wokondedwa wanu.
Lingaliro la chikondi lero likufanana kwenikweni ndi malonda aakulu. Iwe, monga munthu, umayimira chikhalidwe cha makhalidwe omwe angakhale opindulitsa kapena opanda phindu mu "malonda achikondi". Ngati muli ochepa, okongola, muli ndi miyendo yaitali ndi tsitsi lokongola - ndizosavuta kuti mupeze "mnzanu ndi wogula" kusiyana ndi otsika, amphumphu ... Chimene chimaoneka kuti chokongola chimawoneka chofunikira, chotero, mukuyembekezera wokondedwa, zomwe zidzakhala zofunikiranso za "chikondi". Pano, chikondi chokha chimayamba kufanana ndi ntchito yogulitsa ndi kugulitsa kopindulitsa, zina zomwe zimasinthana ndi ena, gulu limodzi la katundu ndi wina mogwirizana ndi zosowa za msika.
Zowopa zathu, zinyengo, zoyembekeza
Popeza mwawerenga zonsezi, inu, mwinamwake, mumagwiritsira ntchito mawuwa tanthauzo ndi gawo la choonadi - zong'onong'onong'ono komanso zoipa. Ndipo tsopano kumbukirani abwenzi anu, pakati pawo omwe mwachoncho pali osakaniza mmodzi. Ndipo iye, skoreevsego, amavomereza ndi imodzi mwa ziphunzitso izi, chikondi chake ndi chinyengo, chinyengo, chinachake chopanda pake komanso chosayenera kusamala. Ndipo tsopano kumbukirani okondwa awiriwa. Kapena ngakhale wokwatira. Kapena mwamuna wachikondi yemwe amakonda kwenikweni munthu. Iwo adzaseka mawu oterowo ndi kunena kuti izi zonse ndizo "machitidwe a chikondi chachinyengo". Pambuyo pake, ambiri a iwo mwina analibe maganizo awa kale. Chimene chataya chimatipangitsa kukhala osatetezeka. Kotero, yemwe nthawiyina ankakonda ndi kukanidwa, amamutcha chikondi chikondi, chinyengo. Amati "wokhumudwa ndi chikondi chokhumudwa". Ndipo izo ziridi kwenikweni.
Anthu osangalala sayenera kuganiza za chikondi, monga za dodarmarketing, za kusintha kwa mankhwala. Amachita zomwe akuyenera kuti azisangalala nazo. Anthu okonda, chitani radebya ndipo sasamala za maganizo a ena. Iwo safunikira kuganizira za izo. Ndipo iwo amatsutsa kuti chikondi ndi chinyengo. Ndipotu, zomwe amamva ndizoona. Ndipo ndizo zabwino.
Nchifukwa chiyani pali malingaliro omwe chikondi ndi nthano? Izi zimachitika chifukwa chodandaula, kukhumudwa ndi iwo omwe sanapeze chikondi chawo ndi omwe amaopa kuti sadzapeza, omwe adautaya kamodzi, amene adatenthedwa ndi kukhumudwa, komanso omwe adawona chisoni ndi kusowa kwawo ena.
Nchifukwa chiyani izi zimachitika?
Mwa anthu pali mawu oti "chikondi ndi wakhungu." Nthawi zina timamuwona munthu - wokongola, wamphamvu, wotsatila pafupi ndi msungwana woipa, wovulaza, timakumbukira mwamsanga mawu awa. Kawirikawiri timawona "zosayenera" m'maganizo athu awiri awiri ndipo osamvetsetsa: ndi momwe anthu osiyanawo angasonkhane pamodzi? Kodi msungwana wonyansa kwambiri ngati mnyamata yemwe akuyendetsa mphindi iliyonse? Kodi anthu a mitundu yosiyanasiyana, mitundu, komanso ambiri amakhalapo bwanji, amakonda patali? Kaŵirikaŵiri zimachitika, ngati chisudzulo chikuchitika kapena anthu sagwirizana, amatsutsa mmodzi wa abwenzi. Izi ndi zolakwika. Ubale ndi ntchito kwa anthu awiri, kuchita chiyanjano, pomwe aliyense wa iwo amagwira ntchito yofunikira, amagwira nawo ntchito yomanga ubale, kupeza kumvetsetsa, ndi zina zotero.
Mayi nthawi zonse amamanga ubale ndi munthu wa msinkhu womwewo. Mkwatibwi mwa njira ina ndikudziwonetsera tokha, kotero ngati timutsutsa ndikumunyoza, ndiye kuti ndizolakwika monga momwe alili. Chikondi ndi chiyanjano, ndi chidziwitso choyenera, pomwe wina aliyense amakumana ndi zopempha zina. Chimene ife tikuchifuna, ife timachipeza. Palibe "chikondi chosaoneka", osagwirizana. Ndizowona kuti nthawi zina sitingamvetse kufunika kwa anthu ena, zomwe amakonda, apa tikuganiza zisanafike. Munthu aliyense amasankha yekha zomwe akufuna. Ngati tatsutsa izi kapena timatcha chiwonetsero, ndiye kuti ifeyo timalakwitsa. Ngati sitikumvetsa kanthu kapena kusagwirizana ndi mfundo ndi zokonda zathu, izi sizikutanthauza kuti chinthu ichi n'choipa, cholakwika kapena chonyenga. Chikondi ndi chinthu cha munthu aliyense ndipo yemwe amadziwa kukonda nthawi zonse amadziwa mtengo wake.