Choyamba, kugonana - uku ndiko kusonyeza thupi pakati pa anthu. Koma sikuti aliyense amaganiza choncho, kuika chiyanjano choyambirira, kenako kumatulutsa zokoma. Malingana ndi amuna ambiri, ndi chikondi chokonda - ichi ndi chifukwa chachikulu chogonana. Koma ambiri aife sadziwa zenizeni za izi. Pambuyo pake, kugonana komweko, ngakhale kuyambira nthawi yaitali, ndi chibadwa, njira yopitilira banja komanso ngakhale kufunafuna ndalama. Nanga chikondichi ndi chiyani pambuyo pake? Zonsezi zinali zakale, mwamuna anali ndi mkazi, choyamba, kutsimikizira mphamvu ndi mphamvu zake, ndipo pokhapokha atasamalira kuchulukitsa chiwerengero cha mtunduwo. Pano muli ndi chikhalidwe cha amuna, chomwe chakhalapo mpaka lero. Ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani mwamuna amafunika kugonana, ndi chikondi cha mkazi ndipo ali ndi chikhalidwe chanji amene amachita ngati momwe amachitira?
Malinga ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo, anthu amakono samakhalabe ndi chibwenzi chawo monga chinthu chaumwini komanso chachikondi. Kwa ambiri, amuna ndi akazi, kugonana kumafunikira, monga cholinga chodziwonetsera, chitsimikizo chochotsa zovuta kapena njira yothetsera mavuto awo. Koma, ziribe kanthu momwe zinalili, maganizo okhudza akazi amasiyana kwambiri kuchokera kwa amphongo ndipo kotero ndizosangalatsa kwambiri kuti timve okondedwa "Ndimakukondani! "Kuposa zomwezo" Ndikufuna iwe! ". Pano muli ndi chikondi ndi kugonana, zomwe zimasiyanasiyana pakati pawo ngakhale pakumva.
Choncho, tiyeni tidziwe chimodzimodzi pa zifukwa zina zomwe zifukwa zazikulu zomwe amuna amafunira kugonana, komanso chiwerengero cha amai ndi chikhalidwe chawo.
Kugonana ndi ntchito .
Amuna ambiri amaganiza kuti mkazi wabwino ndi mkazi yemwe nthawi zonse amaphika chakudya chokoma, amameta malaya ake, ndipo mwamuna wake akangofuna, amayamba kugonana naye, ngakhale atatopa. Eya, ngati mkazi sakwaniritsa zosowa za mnzanuyo, ayang'ana mbali ndi kupita. Kwa mkazi, muukwati, chisamaliro chachikulu, kumusamalira iye ndi kumverera kuti akusowa mwamuna wake, ndipo pokhapokha ndiye kuti ali kale ndi conjugal duty. Pano pali chitsanzo choyamba cha okwatirana ambiri omwe ndi osiyana kwambiri.
Kudzidalira pogonana .
Kawirikawiri, zimawoneka kuti amuna amatha kuganiza kuti ndi kugonana ndikuwonetsa mphamvu zawo komanso ulemu wawo. Msungwana aliyense yemwe mwamuna amakokera pabedi, amadziona kuti ndi njira yodzidzimitsira yekha kuti sangatsutse. Izi zimabweretsa munthuyo kukhala wodekha komanso wodzidalira. Ndi kosavuta kuti mkazi akhale ndi chidaliro podziwa kuti amamukonda komanso amamukonda. Pambuyo pake, mkazi wokhulupirira ndi mkazi yemwe ali ndi mapewa a munthu wamphamvu, omwe mungadalire pa nthawi iliyonse yovuta.
Kugonana ndi kusungulumwa .
Amuna, ngati mawonekedwe otukumula atazungulira iwo, amaganiza kuti kugonana ndibwino koposa kupulumutsidwa ku kusungulumwa, ntchito yopusa kapena "nyumba yopanda kanthu". Akazi, mmalo mosiyana, yesetsani kudziimba mlandu chifukwa cholephera kusunga amuna pafupi pawokha. Chifukwa cha ichi, nthawi zambiri timadzibisa tokha ndikudziona kuti ndife opanda pake komanso osasamala. Ndipo ndizo zonse, chifukwa timasowa mwamuna, koma osati monga chibwenzi, koma ngati munthu amene angatsimikizire kuti ndizosiyana ndi kusungulumwa.
Zochita pa bedi zikufanana ndi masewera .
Amuna ambiri akhoza kufotokoza moyo wawo wa kugonana ndi ziwerengero zitatu: mwachitsanzo, 16, 25, 88. Pazinthu izi, 16 amatanthawuza kuyamba kwa kugonana, 25 ndi zaka zake zenizeni, 88 ndi chiwerengero cha ogonana nawo.
Kawirikawiri anthu oterowo amakhala okhudzidwa ndi "kusonkhanitsa" chiwerengero cha atsikana omwe agonana nawo. Ngakhale kuti akhoza kuiwala za chibwenzi chake masiku awiri. Amuna amaganiza kuti chinthu chofunikira kwa iwo ndi mawonekedwe abwino kwambiri a kugonana, chiwerengero cha atsikana omwe akhala pabedi ndi chiwerengero cha zisokonezo. Pano iwo ali, zizindikiro za macho awa, zomwe mkazi aliyense amawonedwa ngati njira yoyesera, amatsimikizira mphamvu zawo. Inde, akazi amadziwikanso ndi maonekedwe a akazi awo. Mwamwayi, ndikuwombera mwatsoka, osati onse. Motero, mwachiwonekere, timakhala osamala kwambiri ndi amuna.
Mndandanda wa zitsanzozi ukhoza kupitilizidwa kwa nthawi yayitali, ndipo kawirikawiri maganizo a amuna ndi akazi akhoza kugwirizana. Ayi, sitikufuna kunena kuti akazi samasowa kugonana, ndipo amuna amakonda. Inde, aliyense amafunikira chirichonse, koma paliponse apo padzakhala muyeso ndi gawo la zonse zowawa ndi chikondi. Mwachidule, aliyense wa abambo achilendo amazindikira kugonana ndi chikondi mwa njira yake, koma, ngakhale, palibe omwe amawona chikondi popanda kugonana, koma kugonana kokha - opanda chikondi. Pano muli ndi mgwirizano wovuta pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Ngakhale kuti ali ndi chidziwitso, amai akhoza kuphatikizapo mfundo ziwirizi, ndikugonana poyamba. Ndizoti maganizo athu amachititsa kuti dziko lizingazungulire mosiyana.
Kunena kuti kugonana monga njira yokhala ndekha kapena njira yodzipangira yekha kumamulepheretsa kukonda mitundu, palibe "gawo limodzi" lomwe latengedwa. Koma, ngakhale mu psychology pali chinthu chonga "miyambo yaumwini". Mwa kuyankhula kwina, chimene chimaonedwa kuti n'chosavomerezeka kwa munthu mmodzi chimaonedwa kukhala chachilendo kwa wina. Pano pali kufotokoza kwa zitsanzo zathu zonse. Koma sitiyenera kuiwala kuti amayi amafunika chikondi ndi kugonana, monga kugwirizana kwa matupi awiri achikondi, omwe akutsatiridwa ndi kumverera komwe kumadzaza okonda kwathunthu ndikupangitsa kukhala ndi chimwemwe chokwanira. Chifukwa cha nthawi zotero ndizofunika kukhala ndi moyo, kukonda ndi kukwera mu moto wa chilakolako. Ndizochepa zomwe timafuna, akazi ochokera kwa anthu. Timangofunikira chikondi ndi chisamaliro, kenako kugonana. Kodi ndizovuta kwambiri kuganiza. Bwino lachikondi!