Mumakumana ndi mnyamata yemwe adangokhalira kuswa ndi bwenzi lanu, ndipo mumamva kuti "mzimu" wa chikondi chimenechi ukulepheretsani kumanga ubale wathunthu? Kodi mumapezeka kuti mukuganiza kuti mnyamatayo amakuyerekezerani ndi wakale, amadzibisa, amadzibisa mwachangu zinsinsi zina ndipo amakhumudwa mukayesa kumulankhula momasuka? Chabwino, zikondwerero! Munakhala membala wa katatu wachikondi wachikondi. Koma simukuyenera kupirira izi ndipo muli ndi ufulu wokhala ndi ubale weniweni. Kodi mungatani ngati mnyamata sangakayikire zakale? Kodi munthu angamvetse bwanji kuti sadakumanepo ndi chikondi choyambirira, ndipo angamuthandize bwanji kuchotsa chidaliro ichi kuti atenge malo apamwamba mu mtima mwake?
Zizindikiro zowona kuti mnyamatayu sanaiwalire kale
Pokhapokha, chilichonse cha zizindikiro izi sizikutanthauza kuti mnyamatayo wakupatsani malo a "ndege yopuma", koma ngati zitatu mwazipeza mu chiyanjano chanu, alamu yamveka.- Mnyamata nthawi zambiri amalankhula dzina lakale. Ngati dzina la msungwana wakale sichichokera pamilomo ya chibwenzi chanu (nthawi zonse amalankhula pazokambirana, amachitchula dzina lake mwachikondi, akulolera kukumbukira kukumbukira kapena mwangozi akutcha dzina lake), onetsetsani kuti sanamulole kuti apitebe.
- Mnyamata akufanizira iwe ndi wakale. Ngakhale ngati izi sizikugwirizana nazo, musafulumire kusangalala ndi mfundo yakuti muli bwino kwambiri. Motero akhoza kuyesa kudzionetsera yekha kuti adziwonetsetse kuti palibe chikondi.
- Mnyamatayo amasunga mphatso ndi zinthu za kale. Pamene munthu sakuyamikira ubale wakale, ndiye zinthu zomwe zimamugwirizanitsa ndi zakale siziyimira mtengo uliwonse kwa iye. Choncho, ngati mnyamata amasunga mosamala chingwe chokumangiriridwa ndi mtsikana wakale kapena samachotsa phokoso la golidi, iye sali wokonzeka kusiya ndi kukumbukira kwake.
- Mnyamatayo ali ndi nsanje za kale. Nkhani yakuti munthu watsopano waonekera mu moyo wake, chibwenzi chako chimakhudzidwa kwambiri, ndikuwonetsa chochitikacho ndi chiwonongeko chako? Musakayikire, mosamvetsetseka, iye amamuona kuti ndi wake, ndipo sagawana wokondedwa ndi amuna ena.
- Mnyamatayo akuganiza kuti wakale anali bwenzi lake lapamtima. Ziri bwino ngati akuyamika bwenzi lake lapamtima pa tsiku la kubadwa kwake kapena adzalandira SMS yokondwera nayo. Koma ngati, poyambitsa ubale ndi inu, akutsindika kuti okondedwa ake akale adzapitirizabe kukhala mbali yofunikira pamoyo wake, kuganiza, ndikofunika kwa inu?
- Mnyamatayo amabisala kwa inu mwaubwenzi kukumana ndi akale. Ngati akukakamizika kumuwona kuntchito, mu kampani ya mabwenzi ake, ndi zina zotero, ndipo mukudziwa za izo, palibe chifukwa chodandaula. Koma ngati mutagwira mnyamata mumisonkhano yamseri ndi oyambirira, zikuwoneka kuti akusewera masewera awiri ndipo, mwina, akumanga milatho yakale.
- Mnyamatayo akugwira nawo ntchito mwakhama. Sangathe kukana kuthandizira kwake, ndipo kufuula kwa "sos" kale-atsikana amanyansidwa ndi zonyansa? Khalani maso, mwinamwake, wakale sichikufuna kukupatsani wokondedwa. Ndipo ngati sakuletsa izi, chilakolako chimagwirizana.
- Mnyamata sakukudziwitsani ku malo ake oyandikana naye. Ngati wokondedwa akuyesera kubisala kwa makolo ake ndi abwenzi ake, nkutheka kuti sakufuna kuti achibale anu adziwe za ubale wanu, chifukwa akuyembekezerabe kubwezeretsa mtsikana uja.