Mukudziwa kuti mikangano yonse ya banja ikhoza kungotchulidwa, ndipo mikangano yoteroyo ingabweretse mavuto ambiri m'banja lanu. Ndewu zoterezi ndizopambana ndi umunthu, kudzikonda, kukhumudwa komanso mwangozi chabe. Zikuwoneka kuti sizinali zambiri, koma ndikukhulupirireni, izi ndi zokwanira kuti banja lanu lilephereke.
Tsopano tilongosola zokangana zonse m'banja ndi kuyesa kuthetsa banja chifukwa chokangana, pofuna kusunga moyo wa banja.
Pali mabanja okondwa omwe nthawi zonse amafuna kutsimikizira kuti wina wa iwo ndi wolakwika osati wochenjera monga momwe angafunire kuwonekera. Ndipo kawirikawiri m'mikhalidwe yotereyo mwamuna kapena mkazi amatsimikizira kuti ali ndi ufulu, koma amasiya mtendere m'banja.
Palinso anthu omwe amatha kusonyeza kuti ali abwino, ndipo ena onse samaima ngakhale ndi chala chawo chaching'ono. Mchitidwewu mofanana mu ubale wa banja ukhoza kutsogolera kanthu. Kuwonjezera pa iwo okha, palinso anthu oyandikana nawo omwe amazindikiranso izi ndipo angakhudze ubale wa mwamuna ndi mkazi wake. Wokwatirana kapena mwamuna kapena mkazi wa khalidwe lachilendo osazindikira, akuwononga moyo wawo wa banja. Munthu sayenera kuganizira za iye mwini, koma za anthu omwe amamuzungulira.
Ndikukuuzani za mnzanga wina yemwe samamvetsera malangizo a wina aliyense, koma amakonda kuwakondweretsa kwambiri. Khalidweli, ngati liri losavuta kulankhula, ndilo kusowa nzeru komanso kungopeka, zomwe zingayambitse mkangano m'banja.
Ng'ombe za chifukwa chawo
Mwanjira ina munthu wina wanzeru kwambiri anati malangizo ayenera kuperekedwa kwa anthu pokhapokha ngati munthu mwiniyo akufunsani za izo. Koma nthawi zonse nthawi zonse anthu sankayang'ana pa lamulo ili ndipo anangozisiya. Anthu ambiri omwe amakonda kupereka malangizo sangathe kumvetsa mmiyoyo yawo choncho amayesetsabe kuphunzitsa aliyense momwe angakhalire ndi momwe angakhalire pazinthu izi.
Pakati pa awiriawiri, zimakhalanso zachilendo kuti khalidweli limapezeka pamene ayesa kupha kapena wina wa okwatirana. Ndiyeno pakati pa okwatirana amayamba kukangana kwa banja. Pa uphungu wa akatswiri a maganizo, kuti muyankhulane bwino, ndibwino kuti musasokoneze interlocutor ndipo musaimitse kulankhula kwake pokambirana ndi inu kapena ndi wina.
Kawirikawiri amai amakonda kuika masentimita awo poyankhula, pamene anthu amalankhulana. Koma amuna samakonda kukomana ndi wina, makamaka mkazi, chifukwa panthawi yomweyi amangosokoneza maganizo ake ndipo samalola kuti abweretse kukambirana kwake kumapeto. Ndicho chifukwa chake amakangana pakati pa okwatirana. Kumbukirani akazi okondeka, amuna amakonda kumabweretsa mawu awo kumapeto. Ngati mukufuna kufotokoza malingaliro anu, ndibwino kuti muchite izi mutatha kukambirana kapena mukambirane za izi ndi mwamuna wanu.
Cholinga chachikulu mu banja chiyenera kukhala momveka. Ngati iye sali kutali ndi moyo wanu wa banja, ndiye kuti nthawi zonse mumakhala ndikudandaula wina ndi mzake ndipo nsanje ingawonekere, ndi nsanje monga momwe mumadziwira, chabwino chilichonse chomwe sichinawatsogolere. Musamanyose gawo lanu lachiwiri. Pambuyo pa zonse, si aliyense amene angamvetse izi ndikuzitenga ngati nthabwala. Ndipo sizingatheke kuti mnzanuyo angafunike kunyozedwa, zingamupweteke kwambiri, yesetsani kulemekeza maganizo a ena.
Musasunthire udindo kuchokera kwa munthu mmodzi. Ndipo nthawi zonse musamukumbutse munthuyo zinthu zina zosasangalatsa zomwe zinachitika kale m'banja lanu. Mungathe kuchititsa makhalidwe oterewa mwaukali komanso kudzikonda.
Kodi mudadziwa kuti mawu achiwawa, ochokera ku Latin, amasuliridwa ngati kuukira. Ndipo ndithudi munthu wokwiya amayamba kukantha aliyense popanda chifukwa. Kwa anthu oterowo, kuukira munthu kumakhala njira ya banja, komanso moyo. Kawirikawiri anthu oterewa amatchedwa mbiya yamphongo, amayamba kukangana ndi kukangana kwao, awa ndi anzawo omwe amakhala nawo nthawi zonse. Ndi anthu oterewa, zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti muteteze kukangana m'banja.
Kodi mungapulumutse bwanji banja lanu ndikupewa mikangano m'banja? Choyamba, yesetsani kulankhula ndi mnzanu momasuka komanso moona mtima. Yesetsani kukumbukira momwe mudakhala bwino pamodzi komanso momwe mumamvetsetsana bwino. Yesani, khalani anzeru ndipo mwinamwake kusamvana kwanu konse ndi kusamvetsetsana kukupitirira inu.
Palinso anthu odzikonda ambiri omwe amangoganizira okha. Anthu otere nthawi zonse amayesa kukwaniritsa zinthu zawo okha ndipo samvetsa chifukwa chake palibe amene amamvetsa. Ndipo kachiwiri pali mikangano nthawi zonse m'banja, zomwe zimayambitsa ubale wa banja ndi chisudzulo.
Ngati wokondedwa wanu ndi wamwano, yesetsani kukangana naye ndipo musatsimikizire chilichonse. Mwina muyenera kugwirizanitsa ndi munthu woteroyo ndi kudutsa phwando lake loipa, kapena mikangano mu chiyanjano chanu sichidzatha.
Tikuyembekeza kuti mutatha uphungu wathu, mukudziwa kuti mungathe kupewa mikangano m'banja ndipo mudzasunga moyo wanu wa banja. Kuleza mtima kwakukulu ndi chipiriro chokha!