Pofunafuna yankho la funso limene amuna amawayamikira kwambiri azimayi, timatsogoleredwa ndi lingaliro lathu lachikazi, chifukwa tilibe ena. Choncho, mulu wa uphungu womwewo, womwe umachokera ku zochitika zozizwitsa, zomwe zimati amapatsa amuna monga Merlin Monroe, kuphatikiza makhalidwe a mbuye wosalekerera yemwe sakhala ndi mutu uliwonse, kuthekera kuti akhale mwana wachinyamatayo komanso wokongola nthawi zonse, wosakanizidwa komanso wosadzikonda. Koma kodi anthu amaona kuti makhalidwe amenewa ndi ofunika kwambiri kwa amayi?
Mukhoza kupeza choonadi mwa njira imodzi - kumvetsera amuna okha. Zoona, chifukwa cha kuyesera kwa kuyesera, sangafunikire kufunsidwa, koma kuti afunsidwe. Izi, ngakhale kuti sizolondola, koma mayankho a amuna pamakhalidwe abwino kwambiri azimayi adzakhala oona mtima momwe zingathere. Kuti titsimikize kapena kukana zofuna za amuna tidzakhala opempha odwala maganizo. Amadziwa bwino zomwe amuna amafuna ndi choti achite kuti nthawi zonse akhalebe mtengo wapatali kwa iwo. Kotero, tiyeni tipeze makhalidwe anayi azimayi, omwe abambo omwe achita kafukufuku adanena kuti ndiwo ofunikira kwambiri, omwe simunaganize kapena kuwakayikirapo:- Kukwanitsa kwa mkazi kulola mwamuna kuti akhalebe yekha Mwamuna ndi wokonzeka kukhululukira mkazi kukhala maonekedwe opanda ungwiro kapena kusowa kwa matalente ophikira, koma sadzayamikira konse chikhumbo chake chabwino chowombera kuchokera kwa iye, monga momwe akuwonekera, kukhala watsopano, wabwino kwambiri. Kuyesera kusintha munthu, "kubwezeretsanso" khalidwe lake, kuletsa kukhala yekha - njira yoyenera yowononga maubwenzi. Mwamuna akufuna kudziwa kuti iye amamukonda momwe iye alili, ndipo safuna kudziyerekezera, kuvala masks ndi kusewera maudindo.
- Mphamvu yovomereza ndi kupeza zosokoneza Chilakolako chokhala wolungama sikumapanga mkazi pamaso pa munthu wanzeru. Zoona, choonadi chimabuka kutsutsana, koma, nthawi zonse kutsimikizirika kuti ndikulondola, mkazi amayamba kuchita zinthu zogwirizana kwambiri ndikuthandizira udindo wa mtsogoleri. Amuna amphamvu, odzidalira ambili amayamikira kwambiri nzeru za amayi, kuthekera kovomerezeka ndi kupereka zoperewera. Ndipo iyi ndi imodzi mwa makadi akulu a lipenga, omwe amalola, popanda kuumirira payekha, kuti apambanebe.
- Mphamvu yakuyamika ndi kuyamika moona mtima. Amuna monga ana, akamatamanda kwambiri, kulimbikitsa ndi kulimbikitsa, amayesetsa kuti agwirizanitse chifaniziro ndi ziyembekezo zomwe amapatsidwa. Koma, kutsutsa nthawi zonse, kusakhutira kapena kulakwa, kumapangitsa kupanduka ndi mzimu wotsutsana m'maganizo a anthu. Amuna amayamikira akazi omwe amadziwa kuyamikira iwo ndipo amatha kuwatsogolera kuchita mwa kuyamika ndi kuyamika.
- Mphamvu yosangalala. Amuna ambiri amadandaula kuti akazi amafunafuna munthu amene angawasangalatse, kuthetsa kuvutika maganizo kapena kuthetsa mavuto azachuma. Akazi oterewa amatha kuwamvera chisoni, kumvetsera, kuthandizidwa, koma amuna amakondana ndi amayi achimwemwe omwe amasangalala, amanyamula zinthu zabwino ndikugwirizana ndi dziko lozungulira. Odala ndi okonda miyoyo yawo, amai pamaso pa anthu ali kale amtengo wapatali mwa iwo wokha.
Malingaliro a amuna: chifukwa chiyani amuna amayamikira akazi?
Amuna amayandikira zonse kuchokera kumalingaliro olondola, pogwiritsa ntchito mawerengedwe ndi pragmatism. Ngakhale ndi chikondi! Ndipo amawunika amayi omwe ali mathematically, ngakhale kuti nthawi zonse samadziwa bwino izi. Mkazi kwa mwamuna ndi wofunika ngati:- Imaika zinthu zake mmenemo. Pamene mwamuna amalowa kwambiri mu chuma, mphamvu zamaganizo, mphamvu, nthawi ndi malingaliro, ndizofunika kwambiri kwa iye. Ndipo bwanji! Amapereka zambiri ndikudzipereka yekha ku "polojekiti" yake, ndipo amayamikira izi. Ndikovuta kuti musakonde ntchito yanu mwakhama. Umenewu ndi chikondi chachimuna chodzikonda. Malangizo a maganizo:
- Musataye mphatso ndipo musalole kuti munthu apulumutse yekha.
- Lolani kuti mudzisamalire nokha muzinthu zazing'ono ndi kulimbikitsa zoyamba za munthu kuti akuthandizeni.
- Limbikitsani munthuyo kuti azikhala ndi inu nthawi zina ndipo nthawi zina muziyembekezera.
- Onani ndithu. Amuna amalandira ndi kudziphatika okha ku zinthu zomwe zimawathandiza kukhala omasuka ndi iwo, molimba mtima komanso mosadalirika. Mlingaliro ili, mkazi kwa iwo mwanjira ina ndi "chinthu" chimene akufuna kupeza tsogolo lokhazikika ndi lodalirika. Kwa mkazi ndi mwayi woti munthu adzidalira payekha komanso kuti atha kukhala ndi moyo wabwino komanso wauzimu. Malangizo a maganizo:
- Sonyezani munthuyo madalitso omwe adzalandira pamene akugwirizana ndi maganizo anu kapena malingaliro anu.
- Gawani zofuna zake ndikukhala wothandizana naye, wothandizana nawo kapena wothandizira pazofuna zake.
- Musakayikire munthu wanu, musamatsutse komanso musamayesere!
- Amapeza zowonjezera zamaganizo. Ndi mkazi yemwe amayesa njira iliyonse kuti akondweretse munthu, kuti asakhale chete pazokangana ndi kukhala muzinthu zonse zovomerezeka, ndizosavuta, koma zowopsya kwambiri. Mkazi woteroyo sangayamikiridwe. Mwamuna adzayamikira yemwe amadziwa kupatsa mtima, kukakamiza kukwera ndi kugwa, ndizosamvetsetseka, ngati kuli kofunikira, koma kukhala wofunikira ndi wanzeru pazofunikira. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, ndi mkazi yemwe akufuna kukhala ndi maganizo ake onse, chifukwa "nyenyezi zikuwoneka bwino mu mdima wakuda". Malangizo a maganizo:
- Lolani chinachake chomwe poyamba chinalumikiza ndi kuletsa chinachake chimene nthawizonse chimapezeka momasuka.
- Chodabwitsa, chonde, kukwiyitsa, kupsa mtima ndi kudzilola nokha ndi mwamunthu kukhudzidwa kumene kumapangitsa ubale kukhala wamoyo ndi wowala.
- Khalani opanda nzeru, kufuna, kutsutsana, kukangana, koma muzichita mwachikondi ndipo nthawi zonse muzipatula malo olekerera.
- Kuopa kutaya. Kuopa imfa kumayendetsedwa ndi kusintha kwa maubwenzi. Ndipo makamaka zimakhudza amuna, chifukwa chilengedwe chawo chomasaka chimatsogolera zachilengedwe, kugonjetsa, kugonjetsa. Ndipo ngati mkazi wochotsa mchere amatha mosavuta ndipo alibe vuto lalikulu, palibe choyamikira. Mwamuna amadyetsedwa ndi kupezeka ndipo saopa kutaya, zomwe nthawi zonse zimadziwika komanso zimangokhalira kumveka. Malangizo a maganizo:
- Musapatutse amuna ena kumoyo wanu. Pamene muli pafupi ndi inu chidwi cha amuna, apamwamba ali ndi wokondedwa wanu.
- Nthaŵi ndi nthawi mudzilole kudumpha maitanidwe a munthu wanu, kunyalanyaza ma sms, nthawizina kukhala kunja kwa malo oyenerera, ngakhale mutakhala m'banja zaka zana.
- Yamikirani zozizwitsa ndi zochitika za munthu, ndikuyamikireni zoyenera za amuna ena, kotero kuti munthu wanu ali ndi chinachake choyesera.