Ngati mutagwiritsa ntchito diso kuti likhale mutu wa nkhaniyo ndipo mumasunga chidwi chanu pa izi, zikutanthauza kuti chikondi cha mwamuna wanu chinasinthidwa mosapita m'mbali kapena chimalongosoledwa molimba mtima ndi kupanikizika. Kumverera kotereku kumadzaza selo iliyonse ya chidziwitso ndipo kumapangitsa kukayikira, zomangamanga ndi kusatsimikizika. Kodi anasiya kukonda? Kapena kodi anali kulingalira poopa kutayika? Kodi ndi zizindikiro ziti zomwe zimayendera mchitidwe wa mwamuna wake zonena za kusakonda kwake?
- Mwamuna amachokapo. Iye ali pafupi, koma akuwoneka kuti wapita. Okwatirana ambiri amalowa m'maganizo awo, amamvetsera mwakachetechete, samayankha ndipo sakunena za mavuto awo ndi zomwe akumana nazo, zomwe angathe kuzigawana nanu. Mwamuna samakondwera ndi mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku ndipo ndi kosavuta kuti muchite ntchitoyo nokha kupempha kuti mukhale ndi kulandira kukana kapena kukonda. Kulankhulana kwanu kumachepetsedwa mochuluka kukhala mikangano, ndipo mwamunayo anayamba kupeŵa kukambirana kulikonse. Mukudzimangirira nokha kuganiza kuti moyo wanu pansi pa denga limodzi ukufanana ndi malo osasangalatsa omwe ali ndi munthu wosiyana.
- Mwamuna nthawi zonse amakhala ndi maganizo oipa. Iye amakwiyitsidwa pa kanthu kakang'ono kalikonse kamene kanenedwa kapena kochitidwa ndi inu, ndipo zotengeka sizowonjezetsa manyazi pofotokoza mwa kufuula, kunyoza ndi zowonongeka. Ndipo mwamuna samasankha mawuwo. Iye salinso maganizo anu, chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti simuyenera kulemekezedwa. Inu munayamba kulira nthawi zambiri, zomwe zimamupangitsa kukwiya kwambiri. Tsiku lopanda manyazi, mumavomereza kuti mumvetsetse bwino ndikuyesetsa kukondweretsa mwamuna wanu mwanjira iliyonse, komabe pamene mumayesa, amapeza zowonjezereka zosakhutira ndi inu. Kudandaula mopanda nzeru, komwe kumabwerezedwa ndi nthawi zonse, kumakuchititsani mantha, zovuta, ndipo inu nokha mumayamba kumverera kuti mwamuna ali wolondola.
- Mwamuna waleka kusamalira. Kusasamala ndi kusamala kumasonyeza kusamvetsetsa. Mwamuna sakhalanso ndi chidwi ndi mavuto anu, samaitana kuchenjeza kuti adzachedwa, musakonzekere khofi yachikhalidwe m'mawa, osapitako. Iye samasamala kuti rheumatism yakula, palibe mabotolo a chisanu, ndipo iye anaiwala za tsiku lanu lobadwa. Nthawi zonse ali ndi zitsimikizo zamphamvu ndi zifukwa zamphamvu. Wopanda wamantha uja akunena kuti mkaziyo amasowa makutu. Mumamva kuti amakunyalanyazani, chifukwa sakufuna kuvomereza zolakwa zake. Ndipo safulumira kupepesa. Iye sasamala zomwe mumamva. Iye samakumverera kanthu.
- Mwamuna amafuna ufulu. Nthawi zonse amatha kugwira ntchito, nthawi zambiri amayamba kuyenda paulendo ndikupita kuntchito kumapeto kwa sabata. Ngati simungathe kubisala kumbuyo kwa ntchito, ndiye kuti ali ndi zifukwa zina zoti asakhale pakhomo: kuthandizani mnzanu, amayi, agalu opanda pokhala kapena ana omwe akusowa njala ku Africa. Mwamuna sakufunanso kusonkhana kwanu ndi achibale anu, kuyendera anzanu, kutenga tchuthi limodzi kapena kuyenda. Ndiyeno mkaziyo akufotokozera ntchito yake ndi ntchito, matenda kapena maganizo oipa, kukhala ndi zowonjezera pa zifukwa zake. Koma ngati mutakwanitsa kuzilandira, ndiye kuti mwamsanga mukuyamba kudandaula kwambiri. Mwamuna amayesetsa kuchita chilichonse kuti asakhale ndi chilakolako chocheza naye.
- Mwamuna amapewa kugonana ndi chikondi. Amakwiyitsidwa ndi mawu achikondi anu, ngakhale kuti sanagone popanda kumpsompsona usiku, asapite kuntchito popanda kukwapula ndipo sakanakhoza kuchita popanda mawonekedwe ena a chikondi chophatikiza. Tsopano ngakhale kugonana kwasandulika kukhala ntchito, ndipo kenako amaipereka mwachangu, kapena kuti "chifukwa chachitsulo", kotero kuti sungadzudzulidwe chifukwa chokana kugonana. Mzimayi nthawi zonse amamva kusiyana pakati pa kupanga chikondi ndi kugonana, ngakhale atakhala wangwiro. Pamene kugonana kumataya moyo wa achinyamata ndi athanzi okwatirana, zimasonyeza kuti chikondi chapita kale kwambiri.
- Mwamuna wanga anali ndi zinsinsi. Iye samagawana ndi foni yake, amaika mapepala achinsinsi pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, kutaya mafoni kapena kupita ku chipinda china. Mafunso anu okhudzana ndi chiwembu amayankha mobwerezabwereza kapena mwachangu. Ndipo mwinamwake chinsinsi chake chimadziwonetsera ndipo osati momveka bwino, koma inu simungakhozebe kuthandiza kuganiza kuti iye anali ndi zinsinsi kuchokera kwa inu zomwe zinalibepo kale. Zoonadi, poyamba mungakhumudwe ndi malingaliro omwe mnzanuyo akukonzekera kapena sakufuna kusokonezedwa ndi nkhani zoipa, koma ngati chinsinsi chake chikula, ndipo mukuvutika ndi zizindikiro zina zosonyeza kuti sakukondana naye, ndiye kuti ndi nthawi yokonzeratu mwamuna wanu ndi kudula zonse «I».
- Mwamuna amatsutsa zolephera zake ndikusiya udindo. Kuthetsa mavuto a m'banja mwanjira yosamvetsetseka kwathunthu anasamukira ku mapewa anu. Mumathamanga ndi mwana wodwala kuchipatala, mukambirane ndi plumber kuti muyeretse kusungunula, kuthandiza amayi apongozi anu kukonzanso, ndi mwamuna wanu - ndi lipoti. Wokwatirana wakhala akudandaula za nkhawa za banja, ndipo ngati chinachake chikumuvutitsa, ndiye funso ili, bwanji simunasinthe zinthu zonse chifukwa cha lipoti lake? Kuyesera kumubwezeretsa udindo wake wamwamuna limodzi ndi lipoti kumamuchititsa kukwiyira ndi kutsutsidwa kwa kusayera, kusasamala ndi kusamvetsetsa mavuto ake. Amagwiritsira ntchito poyera, ndipo ngati atalephera, amadziimba mlandu osati chifukwa cholephera kuchita ntchito, koma chifukwa choti simunagonjetse ntchito yake.
- Mwamuna samanyalanyaza udindo wa zachuma. Kuyambira kale, ndalama za banja zinali pa mwamuna kapena zinagawidwa mofanana. Tsopano udindo uwu wakhala makamaka wanu. Mwamunayo anasiya kuda nkhaŵa za lendi, ndalama za mwana, ndalama zogulira ndi zina zogula nyumba. Mukudziwa motsimikiza kuti amalandira bwino, alibe mavuto azachuma, popeza palibe chikhumbo chothandiza banja ndi ndalama. Iye safuna kumvetsera zodandaula zanu ndi mafunso okhudza komwe amapindula. Mwadzidzidzi mwadzidzidzi anayamba bizinesi yake. Ndipotu, pano musaphatikizepo kugula kwakukulu kwa inu monga mphatso. Koma ngati funso la ndalama likulongosoledwa mu mawonekedwe achipongwe ndipo simukupumula ndi zizindikiro zina zosakondana nazo, ndiye, mwinamwake, ichi ndi chifukwa china chomwe sanasangalale nazo.