Choncho, chofunika kuchita kuti zolinga zanu zichitike? Choyamba, muyenera kulankhula ndi mnzanu kapena mnzanu, yemwe mudzamupatse thandizo. Zomwe mukuganiza pazomwe mungapange zingakhale zosiyana kwambiri: kuchokera ku chisangalalo chosaneneka ku zifukwa zowawa ndi zotsutsidwa. Ngati mnzanu (mnzanu) akukana mwamphamvu kulandira chithandizo, yesani kuyeserera munthuyo. Fotokozani kwa iye kuti simukumuona kuti sangathe kukhazikitsa moyo wake. Mwachidule, muli ndi njira yabwino yothetsera chibwenzi, ndipo mumamvetsa kuti munthuyu ndi mnzanu akuyenera kuyesera chinthu, chifukwa onse ndi abwino, okoma mtima, abwino komanso okongola. Mndandandawu ukhoza kupitilira kwamuyaya, kapena mpaka nthawi yomwe muwona kuti munthu wanu wapafupi yemwe akuyandikira ayamba kuthamanga. Kenaka ganizirani kuti theka lazochitika kale ndipo mukhoza kupitiriza kuchita zambiri.
Mwa njira, kodi mumakhala kale ndi candidate yomwe mukufuna kudzidziwitsa nokha, kapena kodi chinthuchi chikukulirakulira? Ngati mawu achiwiri ali olondola, ndiye kuti mukufunika kuwongolera mwamsanga. Mungathe, mwachitsanzo, funsani chibwenzi chanu. Mwinanso, iye ali ndi mabwenzi apamtima omwe amafunikira chikondi ndi chikondi.
Koma, musanamuyese iye kwa bwenzi lanu, poyamba, ngati, mwa njira, lankhulani ndi munthu uyu nokha. Tonsefe timakonda anzathu monga iwo aliri, kotero timayankhula za iwo ndi zosavuta (ndipo nthawi zina si zosavuta) kukokomeza. Kwa bwenzi lanu silinakhumudwitse, ndi bwino kuti mudziwe ngati zili zoyenerera kwa munthu uyu kapena muyenera kufufuza wina. Komabe, anthu amakonda zosiyana, ndipo mumadziwa zosangalatsa za bwenzi lanu, choncho mumvetsetse ngati munthuyu angamukope ndikumukopa. Palibe amene akunena kuti chibwenzi chanu ali ndi mnzanu woipa. Mwachidule, kungakhale wosakondera kwathunthu kwa mnzanu wokondedwa.
Ndiponso, mnyamata wosungulumwa angayang'ane kuntchito (ku yunivesite, kujambula, etc.). Aliyense wa ife ali ndi anzake abwino omwe alibe awiri. Ife tikudziwa kale anthu awo ndi osadziwika bwino ndi zizoloŵezi. Choncho, kuti mudziwe ngati kuli koyenera kulingalira za mkwatibwi wam'tsogolo kwa bwenzi, ndikosavuta. Koma, pakadali pano, mumayenera kukakamiza mnzako (wophunzira mnzanga, mnyamata wochokera ku masewera olimbitsa thupi) kuti amangofuna kuti azidziwana naye. Inde, ndi njira yolondola, sikukutengerani nthawi yambiri ndipo chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kukonza tsiku.
Kupanga njira yapachiyambi yochepetsera mnyamata ndi mtsikana si ntchito yosavuta. Ndikofunika kuti onse apereke chilichonse kuti athe kusangalala. Pambuyo pake, ngati anthuwa ali ndi zovuta, ndiye kuti zinthu zilizonse zochititsa manyazi zidzatsogolera kuti iwo ayambe kuchita zachiwerewere ndikuwonetsa okha osati zabwino, koma makhalidwe oipa kwambiri. Ndichifukwa chake, kulingalira kupyolera mu msonkhano, muyenera kutsindika kwambiri kuonetsetsa kuti mnyamata ndi mtsikana ali omasuka komanso omasuka.
Kotero, mungayese kukonza phwando pakhomo, kutchula chibwenzi chanu chokhachokha ndipo mwinamwake awiri (kotero sipadzakhala mpikisano, koma samawoneka ngati tsiku lachiwiri). Nyumbayi idzakhala yabwino komanso yotetezeka, chifukwa cha nyumbayi. Kuonjezerapo, ngati inu mutatsala pang'ono kuchepetsa kalepo, akhala omasuka kwambiri. Pakati pa phwando yesetsani kulima anthu angapo palimodzi, nthawi zina amachita kuti asiye okha. Pali njira zambiri zopangira izi. Mwina, tumizani mtsikanayo kuti ayang'ane kukonzekera chakudya, ndipo atumizeni mnyamatayo kuti apeze chotupa kapena kutsegula botolo la vinyo. Ngati atha kukamba za chinachake, amakhala mu khitchini kwa nthawi yaitali. Ngati mukudziwa zofuna zina pakati pa anthu awa, mungakumbukire bwanji izi mwachisawawa, motero muwapatse mutu wokambirana. Koma palibe chomwe chiri chofunikira kuwapangira iwo wina ndi mzake. Anthu samakonda zachiwawa kwa munthu, choncho ngakhale atakhala okondana wina ndi mzake, chifukwa chovuta amayamba kuyang'ana chiopsezo ndi kupeŵa kulankhulana. Chilichonse chiyenera kuchitidwa mosamala ndi kusagwirizana.
Tsiku lachiwiri ndilo njira yabwino. Koma anthu nthawi yomweyo ayenera kuchenjeza za izo, ndipo osatembenuzidwa kukhala modzidzimutsa. Zoonadi, ndizoyambirira kutsanzira mwambo wosasintha, koma izi sizimapangitsa zotsatira zabwino. Ngakhale ngati "mwangozi" kuti mutseke anthu oterewa m'chipinda chimodzi, akhoza kutuluka kumeneko osagwirizana ndi zofanana ndi zachifundo, koma ndi chokhumba chokha: kukupha. Choncho ganizirani musanasankhe njira yapachiyambi, kaya abwenzi anu amodzi ayamikire. Kapena, komabe, ndi bwino kuseweretsa chiyero, kuti asayambitse zifukwa zomvetsa chisoni.
Patsiku lachiwiri, iwo adzakhala otsimikiza kwambiri, chifukwa pali mabwenzi pafupi ndi omwe mungathe kuyankhula ngati ali ndi chinachake, ndipo osakhala chete, atasiyidwa yekha ndi mlendo. Pamsonkhano woterowo, yesetsani kusonyeza abwenzi anu bwino, koma musalankhule m'malo awo, ndipo musayese kukakamiza maganizo anu. Ngati muwona kuti anthu amasangalala kulankhulana wina ndi mzake, ndipo samamva chisoni, ndiye kuti n'kopindulitsa kupeza chifukwa china ndikupuma pantchito. Pankhaniyi, iwo sangakhumudwe ndipo adzathokoza chifukwa chakumvetsetsa kwanu.