Zotsatira za kuchotsa mimba kwa wokondedwa, kaya mwamuna kapena mkazi, n'zovuta kuwerengera. Choncho, pita ku sitepe yotere, kumbukirani kuti kuchotsa mimba kuyenera kukhala ndi chifukwa chachikulu. Zotsatira za opaleshoniyi pa psychology, nthawi zina, sizingatheke kufanana ndi mavuto omwe amadza pamene tikukula ana. Kwa okondedwa, amakhala osangalala, koma mimba ndi chisoni. Atachotsa mimba, amayi ambiri amadziimba mlandu. Zotsatira za izi zimabweretsa mfundo yakuti amayi mwanjira iliyonse amayesa kuiwala zomwe zinachitika. Inde, kwa ena ocheza naye, kuchotsa mimba si vuto. Iwo amavomereza mosavuta zosankha zoterezi ndikupita ku sitepe ngati kuti akuyenera kuchita katemera wamba. Koma, amakhulupirira kuti zochita zotere popanda zopweteka sizidutsa. Okhulupirira amakhulupirira kuti pakupita pa sitepe yotero, mkazi amataika moyo wake wina.
Pamene mkazi ali ndi nkhawa kwambiri ndi zomwe zakhala zikuchitika, akhoza kukhala ndi mtima wolakwa. Chotsatira cha izi chikhoza kukhala chikhumbo chosamvetsetsa cha imfa kapena kusafuna kukondweretsa munthu ndi mwamuna. Choncho, atsikana amayesa kudzilanga okha chifukwa chochita zimenezo. Omwe amakhalapo nthawi zambiri amasiyana ndi anthu kapena amakhala ndi matenda. Komanso, nthawi zambiri amai amachita manyazi kuvomereza kuti achotsa mimba. Choncho, amayesera kubisa zomwe adachita kwa anthu onse, kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zambiri pa izo, kukumana ndi kukwiyitsa. Zonse zimapangitsa kuti amayi ayambe kusokoneza achibale, kukwiya komanso mantha, kukhala osasamala.
Chabwino, kuchotsa mimba kumakhudza bwanji amuna? Izi zikuchitika, malinga ndi kafukufuku waposachedwapa, ndizovuta kuti amuna ambiri apulumuke. Anyamata amavutika maganizo komanso sangathe kuchotsa kwa nthawi yaitali. Amuna ena samakhululukira akazi ndi kuwasiya iwo akamaphunzira kuti atha mimba popanda kuwauza wokondedwa wawo za mwana wamtsogolo.
Nchifukwa chiyani zili zovuta kuti amuna apulumuke kuchotsa mimba ndi zomwe zimakhudza maganizo awo? Zimadziwika kuti munthu aliyense, ngakhale mosadziŵa, amafuna kuti zinthu ziziyenda bwino m'zinthu zisanu za moyo. Ndizosangalatsa, kupindula, kutetezedwa kwa banja lanu, kubereka ndi kupereka. Izi zikusonyeza kuti pazinthu zambiri munthu amatengeka mwachindunji ndi chilakolako chobala moyo watsopano, kukhala ndi ana ake. Ngakhalenso ngati mnyamatayu sakuyankhula za izi, ndizofunikira kwambiri kwa iye kuti pali gawo lake, kupitiliza mtundu wake. Komanso, amuna amafunika kuteteza banja lawo. Popanda izi, saona kuti ndizofunikira komanso zodzaza. Ndichifukwa chake, pamene mkazi amachotsa mimba, munthu amasiya kumangokhala ngati wobereka komanso woteteza banja lake.
Kodi anyamata amachotsa bwanji mimba mwa amayi awo okondedwa? Aliyense akhoza kufotokoza izi mwa njira yake. Koma, pafupifupi aliyense amamva kupweteka kolamulidwa ndi mkwiyo. Ena amayamba kusuta kwambiri kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Ena amayesa kupita kukagwira ntchito ndi mitu yawo kukaiwala zomwe zinachitika. Ndiponso, pali amuna omwe amataya ntchito zawo, pamene ayamba kumverera ngati sangathe kupanga zisankho konse. Komanso, vutoli likuwonetsedwa chifukwa cha kusowa tulo ndi mantha. Amuna ali ndi maloto, amasiya kukhulupilira akazi awo, amakhala osungulumwa ndipo amaganiza za kudzipha. Vuto lina limene lingabwere pambuyo pochotsa mimba ndilosafuna kugonana kapena mavuto pa nthawiyi.
Ngati tikulankhula za mavutowa mwatsatanetsatane, ndiyetu tiyenera kuyambira ndi mkwiyo. Mnyamata akakwiya atachotsa mimba, khalidwe lake likhoza kukhala lokwanira. Choncho, ngati mkazi akuwona kuti wokondedwa wake watha kukwiya kwambiri, ayenera kukonzekera kuti mnyamata angadzivulaze yekha. Mwa njira, mkwiyo umawonetsedwa osati mwachindunji. Mwachidule, mnyamatayo akuganiza kuti sangathe kuteteza mwana wake wosabadwa. Choncho amayamba kumwa mowa. Mwa njira iyi, amuna amayesa kuthetsa ululu umene adachotsa mimba ndipo nthawi yomweyo sangachite chilichonse ndikuchiletsa. Ngati munthu samamwa kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, koma kuyambira m'mawa mpaka madzulo, amatha kuntchito, ndipo khalidweli silingaganizidwe ngati labwino. Pankhaniyi, anyamata amayesetsa kupewa kukhudzana ndi anthu ena ndikukwaniritsa chinachake chomwe sichimamveka kuti ndi chopanda pake komanso chosafunikira.
Ngati mwamuna ali ndi nkhawa kwambiri ponena za kuchotsa mimba, m'pofunika kumuthandiza kuthana ndi vutoli. Apo ayi, iye amakhalabe wokwiya komanso wokwiya, ndipo maganizo ake amatha kuwonekera, ndipo panthawi yomwe mkaziyo angayembekezere pang'ono. Maganizo oterewa amayamba pamene anyamata amawona amayi apakati ndi ana. , monga ife tonse timamvetsetsa, tsiku lirilonse, kupita kunja, tikhoza kukomana ndi mayi wapakati, chabwino, ana amakumana pa sitepe iliyonse. Choncho, mwamuna ayenera kuloledwa kulira mwana wake, kulankhulana, kugawana nawo zonse zomwe akumva. Komanso, amafunikira kukhululukira mkazi wake ndi kumvetsa chifukwa chake adachita. Ngati msungwanayo akumvetsa kuti mnyamatayo sangathe kukhululukira, ndibwino kulankhulana ndi katswiri wamaganizo kuti athandize mfundo zonse pa "i" ndikusunga ubale wanu. Mukawona kuti mnyamatayo wakwiya, simukusowa kumutsimikizira ndikuyesera kumumvera ndi kulira. Ayenera kukumana ndi inu, kuzindikira, kukumba ndi kuganiziranso. Ngati angathe kuchita izi, adzatha kukhululukira mkazi wake wokondedwa, ndiye adzasiya zonse zomwe zachitika ndikuyiwala. Pokhapokha mutha kumanga maubwenzi ndipo, m'kupita kwanthawi, mukhala mosangalala.