Umoyo wa chikhalidwe cha anthu ndi mabanja omwe alibe ndalama zambiri

Umoyo wa chikhalidwe ndi umoyo wa mabanja omwe ali ndi ndalama zochepa umakhala ndi udindo wofunika pakati pa mavoti, omwe amafunsidwa osati ogwira ntchito, komanso anthu wamba. Ngakhale sitidziwa kwambiri za sayansi monga za chikhalidwe cha anthu ndi maganizo, tikhoza kunena motsimikizika kuti osati chikhalidwe cha anthu okha, komanso malingaliro a anthu opeza ndalama zochepa omwe amasiyana ndi omwe ali ndi ndalama zambiri kapena apamwamba. Vuto la kuphunzira zaumoyo ndi zaumoyo wa mabanja omwe ali ndi ndalama zochepa ndizofunikira lerolino, chifukwa dziko likukumana ndi mavuto a zachuma. Nchiyani chingakhudze malo ambiri a anthu? Kupita patsogolo kwa chuma, kusowa ntchito, kusapeza ndalama zokwanira ndipo zotsatira zake, vuto lachuma lomwe likufalikira kudutsa dziko lonse, kuwonetsa anthu ambiri ku mavuto azachuma. Mabanja amasiku ano amakumana ndi mavuto ambiri a zakuthupi, ndipo kenako, maganizo ndi chikhalidwe.

Kodi umoyo wabwino ndi waumoyo wa mabanja omwe ali ndi ndalama zochepa umadalira chiyani? Kodi chikhalidwe chake ndi chiyani, zenizeni, ndi kusiyana kotani pakati pa mabanja osauka, nanga kusowa kwa chuma kumakhudza bwanji munthu ndi banja lake? Pofuna kuyankha mafunso awa, kuyesa kwakukulu ndi kufufuza kunayendetsedwa, zojambula zosiyana za maganizo za oimira a banja ngati amenewo zinaganiziridwa. Tsopano tili ndi mfundo zambiri, deta, ziwerengero ndi ziwerengero, tingathe kulemba mwachidwi zithunzi za mabanja ngati amenewa, phunzirani zomwe zimachitika.

Choyamba, tiyeni tiwone zomwe zimayambitsa mabanja osasangalala. Zikhoza kuzimvetsa monga mwadzidzidzi, chifukwa cha zifukwa zina zaumwini, zochitika zosayembekezereka, kapena kuwuka nthawi zonse, zomwe ziri zosavuta. Kutetezedwa kwazinthu zakuthupi kumadalira kulipira kwa mtundu wina wa ntchito, yomwe munthuyo akugwira ntchito, maluso ake pomanga ntchito, kuthekera kuwonjezera zolinga zake, kuziganizira ndi kusintha. Njira imene munthu amasunthira ntchitoyo imadalira pazofunika zake, chikhalidwe cha anthu komanso chilengedwe chimene munthu ali nacho. Ife tikhoza kulingalira ndi kufanana zofanana, kuti timvetse zomwe zanenedwa pamwambapa: munthu mosakayikira amakhudzidwa ndi anzako, anzake ogwira naye ntchito, ndipo koposa zonse, ndi banja lake, makolo ake. Ngati sakanatha kuika patsogolo ntchito yowonjezera, yowona mtima, yochepa, ndiye kuti mwinamwake mwanayo amakhala ndi zofanana, ndipo moyo wake ndi ntchito yake idzapitirira "monga mwa dongosolo" la makolo ake.

Poganizira zifukwa za chikhalidwe, nkofunikanso kudziwa kuti zinthu zomwe zimakhalapo zimadalira kwambiri mkhalidwe wa dziko, malingaliro ake, mwayi umene umapatsa nzika zake.

Vuto la kusowa ntchito likuonanso kuti ndilofunikira. N'zosadabwitsa kuti achinyamata, posankha ntchito zamtsogolo, choyamba, akutsogoleredwa ndi chitsimikiziro chotsutsa ntchito. Zonsezi ndi zotsatira za mantha a dziko ndi zachuma, chifukwa pali chifukwa chokhulupirira kuti kusowa ntchito m'dziko lathu kudzatsitsimutsidwa.

Umphawi ndi umphaŵi. Ngati ndalama zili pansipa, banja limatengedwa kuti ndi losauka. Mtengo wokhala ndi moyo umaphatikizapo mtengo wa zinthu zofunika za zakudya, zofunika kuti akhale ndi thanzi labwino, komanso mtengo wa zothandiza ndi malipiro. Kuchokera apa tikuwona kuti mabanja osawuka nthawi zonse amatsogoleredwa ndi zosowa zawo, pofufuza momwe angadyetse mabanja awo, kuphunzitsa ana awo, kugula zovala zina, kulipira kuwala, madzi ndi gasi ... Izi zimabweretsa mavuto ambiri khalidwe.

Choyamba, munthu wochokera kumudzi wopeza ndalama zambiri amadzilekanitsa ndi anthu ena onse, dziko lozungulira. Zonsezi zikufanizirana ndi nkhawa za anthu osauka komanso abwino, nkhope zawo zakunja. Anthu a m'banja lopindula kwambiri amadzipatula okha kwa ena, ndipo samayanjana nawo kwambiri. Izi zimachititsa nthawi zambiri kukhala ofanana ndi autism, komanso nthawi zambiri kudzichepetsa, zomwe zimakhudza momwe munthu akumenyera ndi vuto lake.

Chachiwiri, kholo limene limakhala ndi mavuto a zinthu zakuthupi limakhala losiyana kwambiri ndi ana ake. Chikhumbo chake chogonjetsa zovuta ndi mavuto mwa njira zake zimatsogolera ku mfundo yakuti kholo mwanjira ina imapewa banja ndi kulera ana ake. Iwo, nawonso, amavutika chifukwa chosowa chidwi, chikondi, chikondi ndi chisamaliro. Amayamba kumva kuti atayika, osayenera, komanso kuzindikira kuti sangathe kuwathandiza, amachititsa kuti vuto lawo likhale loopsya kwambiri. Chochititsa chidwi ndi chakuti makolo akale sanalole kuti ana awo azigwira ntchito, kuwalimbikitsa kuti aphunzire, ndikukhulupirira kuti kulandira ndi ntchito yawo yokha. Koma m'kupita kwa nthawi, komanso mochuluka kwambiri masiku ano, achinyamata amayamba kupeza ndalama zawo, ndipo makolo amawalimbikitsa kuti achite zimenezo.

Chimodzi mwa makhalidwe ofunikira a mabanja osapindula adzakhala chilakolako chodzudzula ena chifukwa cha zovuta zawo. Amakonda kuchitapo kanthu ngati omuneneza mu mkwiyo ndi kukana dziko lozungulira iwo. Komanso, omwe ayeseratu kale kusintha ndondomeko yawo, koma alepheretsa zolinga zawo, akuwopa kwambiri kudziwonetsera okha ku chiopsezo kachiwiri. Kuchokera ku malo awo, chosavuta ndicho chisankho chodziwika ndi kuvomereza udindo wokanidwa dziko lozungulira. Mabanja oterewa amathetsa mavuto awo panokha.

Chofunika kwambiri ndikusowa chochita, kusaganizira, kusakhoza kukhazikitsa zolinga ndi kuzikwaniritsa. Kawirikawiri cholinga chosayenerera cha khalidwe chimagwira ntchito, anthu oterewa amatha kugwira bwino ntchito zawo ndi kupeza ndalama, kuposa kuyang'ana zopereka zatsopano pamsika ndi kutenga zoopsa zomwe amawopa.

Izi zikutsatila kuti umoyo wabwino ndi waumoyo wa mabanja opeza ndalama ndi otsika kwambiri. Anthu oterewa amakhala ndi udindo pa chilichonse. Kumbukirani kuti maganizo osayenerera kuntchito, ana amachititsa chidwi pa moyo. Nthawi zina ndi bwino kuganizira ndi kulingalira zolinga za zochita zanu, kutsogolera nkhanza zanu osati kwa anthu oyandikana nawo, kuchitapo kanthu, kuti apange malo abwino a banja lanu bwino.