Nchifukwa chiyani amai akusokonezeka ndi amuna? Mwinamwake, akazi amakhumudwitsidwa ndi anyamata amasiku ano chifukwa chakuti iwo adasowa kulimba mtima ndi khalidwe loyenera kwa amuna kapena akazi anzawo. Atsikana amakhumudwa ndi amuna, kuyang'ana atate awo ndi agogo awo. Vomerezani, chifukwa anthu ambiri a m'badwo umenewo ali ndi zikhalidwe zosiyana. Nchifukwa chiyani amai achikulire nthawi zonse amadabwa ndi ubale wa achinyamata? Chifukwa panthawi imeneyo ngakhale mnyamata wosaphunzira amadziwa kuti mkazi ayenera kupereka dzanja, kutsegula zitseko pamaso pake ndikupita kutsogolo kwake, komanso osalumbira pamaso pa akazi. Masiku ano, sizingatheke kuti tipeze kulera koteroko. Ngakhale makolo atapereka ndalamazo kuyambira ali mwana, anyamatawo, akuyang'anirana, pazifukwa zina amalingalira kuti kuphunzitsidwa ndifooka ndikusiya kuchita bwino. Ngakhalenso ndi maphunziro apamwamba awiri komanso pafupifupi adiresi ya ay-kyu, anyamata akuiwalikabe za zinthu zoyambirira zomwe ayenera kuchita kwa atsikana. Osati kokha kwa okondedwa ndi atsikana, komanso kwa amayi onse. Ngati munthu wosadziwika amapereka dzanja, zimawoneka ngati zakutchire, ngakhale kuti poyamba zinkawoneka ngati zachilendo. Koma, izi ndizolakwika za akazi omwe. Ndipotu, nthawi zonse timalankhula za kufanana ndi chikazi, tinayamba kulumbirira ndi wokwatirana ndikukhala ngati munthu. Choncho, pakukhumudwa kwathu, pali gawo la kulakwitsa kwathu. Komanso amayiwa amakhumudwitsidwa ndi anyamatawa, chifukwa sakhala achikondi kwenikweni. Izo zikuwoneka kwa iwo kuti mu dziko lamakono chirichonse chimamangiriridwa pazinthu, ndipo palibe lingaliro pakuchita chinachake chosayembekezereka, chokoma ndi chokongola kwa msungwana wokondedwa. Mnyamata samangoona mfundo poyimba pansi pawindo lazenera, kulembera pa asphalt chidziwitso cha chikondi, kapena kubwera ndi chisangalalo chosangalatsa, chachikondi chimene chidzamudodometse mtsikanayo ndipo kachiwiri amatsimikizira kuti mwamunayo akumva bwanji. Ambiri amaganiza kuti akazi "amangokwiya ndi mafuta." Ndipotu, izi siziri choncho. Azimayi ali ovuta popanda chikondi. Chikondi chawo sichikhoza kugulidwa ndi zinthu zakuthupi. Ndizofunikira komanso zauzimu. Choncho, pamene sitapatsidwa ngakhale maluwa, pakapita nthawi imayamba kupondereza ndikuwononga maganizo. Koma, ngakhale, ngati mnyamata amasamaladi za msungwana, ngakhale kuti sakudziwa kukonda, mungaphunzire momwe mungamukhululukire. Komabe, izi sizinali zofunika kwambiri.
Amayi ambiri akukhumudwa mwa anyamata omwe sangathe kudziyimira okha, kaya akhale ndi makhalidwe kapena thupi. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zimachitika ndipo amuna amakhala ofooka? Mwinamwake mfundo ndi yakuti anyamata amakono sakuyenera kuyesedwa. Nchifukwa chiyani abambo athu ndi agogo athu amatha kukhala ndi maganizo ochuluka komanso opitirirabe? Chifukwa iwo anali okwiya ndi nkhondo, utumiki wa usilikali, ntchito yamagetsi. Iwo ankayenera kudzisamalira okha ndi mabanja awo kuyambira ali aang'ono. Ndipo ambiri a iwo anafuna kuti ana awo akule mumkhalidwe wabwino. Zotsatira zake, zinapezeka kuti ana a anthu awa sakudziwa momwe angadzisamalire okha. Iwo amakhala pa makompyuta ndipo amakhala moyo weniweni, osadandaula kwambiri za zenizeni. Achinyamata otero sakudziwa momwe angapangire kusintha m'mawu kapena nkhonya. Iwo amawopa kwambiri kuyenda pamadontho amdima. Koma, kwina, sizophweka. Akazi amakono, pambuyo pa zonse, monga anyamata okhala ndi chikhalidwe chabwino, dziko lapadera. Amakonda pamene amuna amamvetsa zodzoladzola ndi zovala, amalira ndikumverera zonse mwanzeru. Izi zimabweretsa mfundo yakuti pali oimira amuna, omwe ndi ovuta kuwaitana anyamata. Amawoneka ndikukhala ngati atsikana. Ndicho chifukwa chake, muyenera kudziwa kwenikweni mtundu wa munthu amene timafuna. Wina yemwe adzakondwera kukagula limodzi ndi ife ndikuwonetsetsa melodramas kapena wina amene angatilanga olakwira ndipo sadzalola aliyense kuti achite choipa kwa mkazi wawo. Ndipotu, amuna oterewa amakhalabe, sitimangowasamala kwambiri, chifukwa amavala kwambiri kuposa momwe amachitira zokhudzana ndi kugonana kwa amuna okhaokha komanso amachita zinthu zonyenga komanso monga momwe atsikana angafunire.
Inde, kufooka kwa maganizo, iyi ndi vuto lina la amuna amakono. Ndipo apa iwo alibe cholingalira. Mkazi aliyense nthawi zonse amafuna kuwona chibwenzi chake yemwe amadziwa kukamenya ndi kukwaniritsa cholinga chake. Ndi mwamuna yemwe ayenera kukhala mutu wa banja, mkulu wopeza ndalama, yemwe angathe kutsimikiza kuti banja lake liri bwino ndi mwamtendere. Ngakhale mofanana ndi demokarasi, amayi safuna kuona okondedwa ngati ofooka ndi eni nyumba. Koma m'badwo wamakono wa anyamata amachita zambiri motero. Iwo ali ndi zovuta zambiri zomwe siziwalola kuti azikhala mwachizolowezi. Koma vuto ndilo kuti sayesa kuligonjetsa. Amuna oterewa amakhala omasuka kukhala ndi kuseri kwa mavuto awo. Amanena kuti sangakwanitse kuchita chilichonse ndipo amachitcha zifukwa zogwiritsidwa ntchito. Pankhaniyi, nthawi zambiri, samayesa kuchita chinachake ndikupita kwinakwake. Koma mokondwera iwo amaganizira za kusalungama kwa moyo, ponena kuti iwo ali otayika ndipo sakuyenera chirichonse. Khalidwe limeneli limapweteka, ndipo ambiri, poyamba, amayesetsa kuwathandiza ndi kuwathandiza. Koma, m'kupita kwanthaŵi amamvetsa kuti ziribe kanthu momwe amayesera kumuchotsa munthuyo kunja kwa maganizo, sangathe kuchita. Chifukwa sakufuna. Ndikoyenera kuti akhale monga chonchi, kubisala kumbuyo kwa ena. Ichi ndi chokhumudwitsa chachikulu kwa mtsikana.
Kuti musakhumudwitsidwe kwambiri ndi malo olimbikitsa, muyenera kuphunzira kuti musamamvetsere zofooka zawo, ndikusankha mnyamata, moona mtima ndikuwunika mokwanira. Tonsefe timadziwa kuyambira pachiyambi kuti ndi ndani. Koma nthawi zonse timayesetsa kukonza achinyamata ndikuchita bwino. Ndiyeno timakhumudwa. Choncho, poyamba muyenera kukhala oona mtima ndi inu nokha, kuti musafuule pa maloto osweka.