Mmene tingakhalire maubwenzi ndi chikondi chakale

Sizodabwitsa, koma zatsimikiziridwa ndi anthu ambiri kuti pambuyo panthawi yopuma palibe ubwenzi ndi chikondi choyambirira chomwe chingakhale. Izi zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi zopweteka komanso zam'tsogolo nthawi zonse, ndipo zimakhala zovuta kukhala ndi ubale weniweni. Chabwino, ngati kupatukana kumakhala chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika, mwinamwake padzakhala phokoso la chidani kuposa ubwenzi. Chimene sichiyenera kunena, ndipo kugonana kulikonse ndikovuta kwa amayi kupirira. Zonsezi zikugwirizana ndi mfundo yakuti kugonana kofooka ndi umunthu wake wamkati ndi wovuta kwambiri, wachikondi ndi wofatsa. Pa chifukwa ichi, chithunzi chonse cha ubale ndi moyo wokonda kamodzi kokha chingamangidwe m'magulu awiri. Yoyamba imaphatikizapo zopweteka, ndizotheka kunena, kuchotsa zopweteka ndi zotsatira zake zonse ndi zotsatira zomwe zimatsatira, pomwe mau a chikondi ndi zikhumbo za "zabwino zonse" zimawuluka mosiyana tanthauzo la mawu. Lachiwiri ndikumasangalatsa komanso mwamtendere mu chiyanjano ndi maitanidwe otsatizana ndi zikondwerero za maholide kapena kukonza maubwenzi ndi kuyankhulana kudzera pa intaneti, kapena mwinamwake, misonkhano yosawerengeka pamoyo weniweni. Tikukupatsani malingaliro othandiza omwe angakuthandizeni momwe mungakhalire bwino maubwenzi ndi chikondi chakale ndipo potsirizira pake musawalepheretseni kutsogolera. Kotero, inu okonda kale, kodi inu mungakhale ndani: adani kapena mabwenzi? Funso losavuta limene ambiri akufuna kumva ndi yankho limodzi lokha!

Timaphunzira kukhululukira ndi kupepesa.

Choyamba, kuti musakhale adani enieni mutatha kupatukana, muyenera kudzikhululukira zolakwa zanu zonse ndi zomwe anzanu akale anachita komanso kuvutika ndi kuzunzika komwe anakufikirani (ngati alipo). Pokhapokha mutachita izi, mukhoza kuyang'ananso kachiwiri ndikuyankhulana nayo. Ichi chidzakhala maziko anu oyambirira pa momwe mungakhalire bwino maubwenzi ndi chikondi chakale. Malingaliro a akatswiri a maganizo, mu zochitika zoterezi pali kudziphunzitsa bwino kwambiri, komwe kumatha kuthandiza msungwanayo kudzigonjetsa yekha ndikusintha maganizo ake kwa chibwenzi choyambirira. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kukhala ndi mpando ndikuuyika pakati pa chipinda kuti ukhale patsogolo panu. Pambuyo pake, ziribe kanthu momwe zingakhalire zopanda pake komanso zodabwitsa zomwe zingamveke, ndikofunikira kupereka pa "malo opanda kanthu" chimodzimodzi ndi iye, wakale ndipo kamodzi wokondedwa yemwe analekanitsa. Kenaka script ndi losavuta, muyenera kutembenukira kwa bwenzi lanu lolingalira ndipo, popanda kuwopa mawu awa, "mwachindunji" mwachindunji kuti mumuuze zonse zakukondana ndi zotentha zomwe zasungidwa mu moyo wanu. Chabwino, ndiye ingopempha chikhululuko kuchokera ku "mpando" uwu. Zopusa izi komanso nthawi yochita masewera olimbitsa thupi bwino zimathandiza kuthetsa nokha kunyoza ndi chidani. Komanso, ngati kuli kotheka, nenani zabwino kwa nthawi zonse ndi chikondi chanu chakale. Mwa njirayi, mukhulupirire kapena ayi, koma chibwenzi chanu chakale chikhoza kumva telepathically kuti mumamukhululukira komanso momwe mungakhalire ophweka kwambiri kuti mukhale paubwenzi ndi inu.

Kusayanjanitsika ndizofunikira zanu.

Kumbukirani kuti ngati muli ndi chiyanjano chovomerezeka ndi chiyanjano pambuyo pa kupuma ndi mnyamata, zingakhudze kuti wokondedwa wanu wakale, atha kuzindikira kuti ali ndi ufulu wofuna kapena funsani kuchokera kwa inu kuti mukwaniritse zilakolako zake kapena zofuna zake. Muzochitika izi, zikhala bwino ngati simungachitepo kanthu. Ndicho chifukwa njira yabwino kwambiri yotuluka pakali pano idzakhala yanu yosasamala, yomwe muyenera kumusonyeza mwanzeru "bwenzi" wanu. Pa kuyitana kwake, yankhani ndi youma mu liwu lake, mawu achindunji. Koma pamene mukumana maso ndi maso mumayenera kukhala olondola kwambiri, ndi maonekedwe anu kuti mumusonyeze kuti mavuto ake, ndipo mochuluka kwambiri, mulibe chidwi kwenikweni. Ndipo ngakhale mosiyana, iwo amatopa ndi kuvutika mopitirira muyeso. Choncho khalani okonzeka komanso kutaya nthawi kuti musatengeke pa tsamba loyamba la chiyanjano chanu chomwe chimatchedwa "abwenzi", mwachidziwitso kumveketsa wokondedwa wanu, kotero kuti sakuyembekeza chilichonse mtsogolomu. Inde, ngati inu nokha simukufuna!

Mtundu wa Epistolary, monga njira yomanga bwino maubwenzi.

Pali njira ina yothetsera kapena kukonzanso maubwenzi ndi chikondi kuyambira kale. Mwa njirayi, njirayi idzathandizanso kuphatikiza zonse kwathunthu ndikuyiwala zonse zodandaula ndi zovuta za m'mbuyomo. Ndipo chifukwa cha ichi, pepala ndi pensulo ndizofunika pa chirichonse. Lembani kalata yoyamikira kwa chibwenzi chanu chakale. Pambuyo pake, werengani nokha. Kumbukirani kuti malingaliro onse a munthu, atayikidwa pa pepala loyera, ali ndi tanthawuzo lolunjika bwino. Palibe chosowa chimenecho chomwe chimakhala chikuchitika mumutu mwanu, ndipo chimayambitsa zowonongeka zambiri ndi zofananitsa ndi zovuta zamoyo. Pambuyo pochita "mwambo wokhazikika," ikani kalata iyi mu envelopu ndikuisindikiza. Mwa njira, sikoyenera kuthamangira ku positi ofesi kuti mukwaniritse olowa anu, chifukwa ndinu wothandizira kalatayi. Kuwotche ndi bizinesi! Cholinga cha kalata iyi ndi kusuntha mosavuta kusiyana ndi chikondi komanso osati kuzunzika zowonongeka kwa munthu uyu. Kumbukirani kuti ndi malingaliro omwe angakhale adani enieni a ubale wanu ndi munthu wakale. Ngati mukufuna kumanga bwino ndi ubale wakale kapena wakale, ponyani kunja kwanu!

Nthawi yokhayo ili ndi ufulu wosonyeza chirichonse.

Nthawi zina zimachitika kuti patangotha ​​kutha kwa ubale, anthu sangathe kuyang'anirana. Koma patapita nthawi pamene ululu wonse ndi mkwiyo ukatha, anthu omwe amayamba kukonda amakhala ndi chikhumbo chowonanso, kuti apeze momwe munthu wokondedwa amakhalapo tsopano. Muzochitika izi, gawo lothandiza kwambiri ngati onse awiri omwe kale anali nawo kale ali ndi ubale watsopano. Ndi pamene mungathe kumanga ubwenzi weniweni. Kotero, ngati mwangoyamba kumene simungathe kusiya ubale wabwino, dikirani nthawi inayake, ndipo nonse muyenera kukhala bwino. Ndipo mwinamwake, ngati mungathe kumanga bwino ndi munthu wakale, mudzakhalabe abwenzi abwino kwambiri pa moyo!