Zimadziwika kuti anthu akulimbana ndi chikwati cha boma. Poopa kutaya ufulu wawo, amatamanda "maubwenzi aufulu, omwe adalandiridwa padziko lonse lapansi." Azimayi amaposa sitampu yochepa kwambiri m'masipoti awo. "Kodi iye akusintha chiyani?" Iye akufuula mokwiya. Iye akuyankha kuti, "Zidzandiyendera bwino," sangathe kufotokoza chifukwa chake amamukonda. Kuli ndi mlandu wa intuition. Mzimayi, ngakhale atakhala osadziwika bwino ndi malamulo ake, amamva chinyengo cha mtima wake, akulowetsa muukwati waulere.
Banja lachibadwidwe linabadwira ku Netherlands m'ma 1600. Anthu a zikhulupiliro zosiyana sakanatha kukwatira ndipo mgwirizanowu ndi wovomerezeka mphamvu. Masiku ano, ukwati wosaloledwa, ngakhale pambuyo pa ukwatiwo, umatengedwa kuti ndi wovomerezeka.
Kumadzulo, ukwati wa boma wakhala ukuchitidwa kwa nthawi yaitali. Posachedwa, maubwenzi oterewa adziwika ndi ife. Mabanja ambiri amakhulupirira kuti pamaso pa ofesi yolembera ndizofunika kukhala limodzi, kuyang'ana mopepuka, kuyesa mkazi wam'tsogolo.
Kugonana koteroko, kumbali imodzi, kuli ndi ubwino wambiri. Ufulu - maganizo ndi zolemba, kukula kwa nthawi ya chikondi, mwayi wogawanika mosavuta. Komano, ukwati wa pachilumba umakhala pansi paokha wokhazikika m'matanthwe. Ndipo iwo sakukhudzidwa ndi chikondi. Popeza kuti ukwati wotere sudziwika ndi lamulo, ngati "chisudzulo", cohabitants alibe ufulu wolowa mgwirizano. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mzimayi sakugwira ntchito, ndipo amatsogolera famuyo, atatha kugawana ndi "mwamuna", akhoza kukhala pamsewu mosavuta. Ndi zomwe zinabwera - ndi izo ndi kumanzere - chidziwitso cha chikwati cha boma. Ndipo amuna mu "chisudzulo" chotero, monga lamulo, samasautsika. Amapeza ndalama, katundu wogwirizana, nyumba, ndi zina zotere. N'zosadabwitsa kuti akulimbana kwambiri ndi masampampu! Mkaziyo sali pantchito.
Kumadzulo, ukwati wa boma ndilamulo. Ku United States, mayi wina yemwe ali ndi vuto lomwelo angapereke chigamulo kuti adziwe kuti amakhala ndi banja limodzi. Atatsimikizira kuti ali ndi chizoloŵezi chokhala ndi nthawi yaitali, akuwonekera pamodzi pagulu, kugonana, amapeza ufulu wa mkazi wovomerezeka. Ku Dominican Republic, ngati anthu akhala pamodzi zaka zoposa 4, ali ndi ufulu wokhala nawo limodzi monga wokwatirana. Ndipo ku France, anthu ogwira nawo ntchito angathe kukhazikitsa mgwirizano wadziko, womwe umaphatikizapo kugwirizana kwa katundu.
Nanga bwanji ifeyo? Pankhani ya ukwati wa boma, zonse zimveka bwino. Family Code imateteza okwatirana ndipo, ngati atha, onse awiri amalandira theka la katunduyo. Kodi mungatani ngati mulibe ukwati wosayenerera? Mwina, kutulutsa mgwirizano waukwati?
Ndime 40 ya Family Code imati: "Chigwirizano chaukwati ndi mgwirizano pakati pa anthu okwatira kapena kukwatirana ndi malamulo, kukhazikitsa ubale wawo pa nthawi yogonana, komanso kusudzulana." Kutanthauziridwa mu chinenero cha anthu, izi zikutanthauza kuti okhawo enieni okwatirana angalowe mu mgwirizano waukwati. Ngakhale ngati chikalatacho chisayinidwe asanakwatirane, icho chidzayamba kugwira ntchito pokhapokha panthaŵi ya kugunda kwa sitampu pa pasipoti. Anthu okwatirana alibe ufulu wolowa mgwirizano waukwati.
Malinga ndi zabodza, lingaliro la lamulo lokhazikitsa udindo wa chikwati cha boma likuyendayenda m'maganizo a aphungu athu. Koma pamene sizinakwaniritsidwe, amilandu amalangiza izi.
Ngati okwatirana ali ndi chinachake chogawanika pakakhala kupatukana, ndiye kuti muyenera kusamalira izi pasadakhale. Zotere - sungani ndondomeko yowonjezera, konzani zonse zomwe mumagula, kugula. Ndibwino kulembetsa katundu wamba pazogawidwa kapena olowa nawo. Pankhaniyi, muli mwayi wodzudzula nokha. Anthu omwe amanyalanyaza malangizowa komanso atatha "kusudzulana" amayesa kutsimikizira kuti ufulu wawo ndi katundu wawo akhoza kukhumudwa. Palibe chigamulo chomwechi mu khoti la Russia sichinapambane, ngakhale kuti pakhala kuyesayesa.
Monga mukuonera, chidziwitso cha akazi sichinyenga. Ukwati Wachibadwidwe umadzaza ndi chinyengo chachikulu. Ndipo sitimayi mu pasipoti ndi yodalirika kwambiri!
Ndipo tsopano malangizo ena kwa iwo amene akufuna kuchoka kwa mkazi wachibadwidwe kupita kwa mkazi wovomerezeka. Poyamba, tidzakhala ndi mwayi wopambana.
Zinthu ndi zoyamba: mumakhala pamodzi zaka zosachepera zinayi.
Izi ndizo zopindulitsa kwambiri kuchokera pakuwona kwa akatswiri a maganizo. Inu muli ndi mwayi waukulu kwambiri wokumva maulendo a Mendelssohn. Choyamba, chifukwa chikondi choyamba chidalipobe, ndipo nthawi yoyamba ya "kukupera" mwadutsa bwino, potero kumatsimikizira kuti mukhoza kukhala mu gawo limodzi. Khalani omasuka kuyambitsa kukonza chiyanjano kuti mupange mgwirizano. Iyi ndi nthawi yabwino kwambiri - munthu amadziwa kuti adapeza yekhayo, atsimikiza kuti kukhala pamodzi ndibwino, ndipo nthawi yomweyo sanatenge chikondi . Muli ndi mwayi wokhala mkazi!
Chinthu chachiwiri: mumakhala zaka zoposa zinayi ndipo mulibe ana.
Panthawi ino, malinga ndi akatswiri a maganizo, maganizo oyamba ndi kuzindikiritsana "moona mtima." Mwachidule, maso a pinki amatsika m'maso ndipo mumamuona mwamtendere. Monga lamulo, akazi omwe amavomereza mowolowa manja mtendere, akufunabe kukwatira. Ndi zosiyana ndi amuna. Pa "nthawi" ino mudzakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti mwamunayo azikhala mwamtendere kuti akonze ukwatiwo. Ali kale ndi inu ndipo ali ndi zonse zomwe akufuna - mkazi wokondedwa pafupi ndi iye, momwe amakhala komanso ... pasipoti yake yoyera. Pakalipano, mikangano yosatha imayamba pa mutu wakuti: "Wokondedwa, kodi sitimayi ikupatsani chiyani?" Muli ndi mwayi, koma muyenera kutuluka thukuta.
Mkhalidwe wachitatu: mumakhala zaka zambiri komanso muli ndi ana.
Ndipotu simukusowa malangizo. Ichi ndi chisankho chanu ndipo mwatsimikiza kuti mwagwirizana kale ndi mwamuna wanu kuti "sitimayi sakupatsani chirichonse." Pa "nthawi" iyi mayiyo amadzipangitsa kudzipindulitsa phindu la ukwati waufulu ndipo amayesa kufalitsa. Ichi ndi mtundu wa chitetezo cha psyche. Mwayi wokhala ndi banja lovomerezeka ndizosavomerezeka chifukwa cha kusowa kwa zigawo zonse.
Tsopano popeza tatsimikiza za mwayi wopanga ukwati wokhazikika, tiyeni tipitilire ku malangizo othandiza. Kotero, ndi chiyani choti muchite ngati mutalota za chophimba ndi maluwa a ukwati, ndipo mwamuna wanu akukuuzani za ukwati wamakono?
Malingana ndi chikhalidwe cha wosankhidwa wanu, sankhani njira yoyenera:
Munthu wodekha amatha kuthiridwa ndi misonzi, kukambirana za ukwati kapena kukwatiwa.
Mwamuna wokhala ndi maganizo abwino angathe kuyika zonse mwa dongosolo. Aloleni awerenge nkhaniyi pamwambapa. Ndiuzeni kuti mukufuna kuti mutetezedwe. Amuna amakonda kuyimirira kutetezedwa kwa amayi ofooka.
Munthu yemwe ali wotanganidwa ndi maganizo a ena akhoza kuthandizidwa pa izi - kodi achibale, anzako, ogwira nawo ntchito anganene chiyani? Mwa njirayi, ntchitoyi ili bwino kwambiri ndi amuna okwatira ndipo amakhala oyenera kubwereka. Ndipotu, kupezeka kwa sitampu kumasonyeza kukhala ndi udindo kwa ena. Osati kutsutsana?
Zoonadi, nkhani ya katundu yomwe inakhudzidwa mu nkhaniyi ndi chinthu chovuta kwambiri, ndipo munthu ayenera kukhala ndi chodabwitsa kwambiri kuti asakhale wamanyazi pokambirana ndi mwamuna wake. Koma kwenikweni ndife akazi! Muuzeni kuti mumamukonda kwambiri, kuti mukufuna kutengera dzina lake, kubereka ana ake. Inde, imodzi mwa njira zowathandiza kuti mwamuna akwatirane ndi kukana kubereka mpaka ukwati utapangidwa. Choncho ndiuzeni - Sindikufuna kuti ana anga asakwatirane! Pano ine sindiri wamakono, ndi mfundo. Munthu aliyense wabwino amafuna ana okwatiwa. Ngati simukukonda zimenezo, ndibwino kuganizira ngati mwasankha bwino.
Ngati mwanayo ali kale, ndizovuta kwambiri. Chifukwa mulibe chophimba - mudapatsa mwamuna wanu zonse zomwe mungathe. Komabe, abambo ambiri a "chikhalidwe" atatha kubadwa kwa mwana woyamba kuvomerezana ndi sitampu pasipoti yawo. Chinthu chachikulu, kachiwiri, musaphonye nthawi imene bambo watsopano atakhudzidwa ndi nsonga. Mungathe kufotokoza kuti njira yamtsogolo ya kukhazikitsidwa kwa mwana wanu ndiye misala yoyera - ndipo pansi pa bizinesi iyi mudzapeza sitampu yosirira.
Ngati mwamuna wanu wamwamuna sakukana kukwatiwa, koma amangokutsogolerani ndi mphuno ndi malonjezo opanda pake, kuchotseratu sitimayi pamtsogolo mtsogolo - ndipo iyi ndi njira yamunthu yomwe mumaikonda - musataye mtima. Mukhoza kuthandiza achibale a mwamuna wake. Inde, inde, ndibwino kukhala ndi ubale wabwino ndi wachibale wam'tsogolo. Ngati mutha kukonzekera apongozi anu, onetsetsani kuti adzachita zonse kwa mwana wake kuti akukwatire. Makamaka, ngati mudzachezera zomwe mukufuna, koma simungathe kubereka zidzukulu zopanda kubadwa. Pamene akazi awiri okondedwa akukakamizidwa, nkhono ya ufulu wodzilamulira idzagwa ndithu.
Ngati mulibe mwayi ndi achibale anu, kapena mwamuna wanu anali wouma kwambiri, ndipo sagwirizana kukwatirana mwanjira iliyonse, muyenera kukumbukira za nzeru. Palibe kanthu m'dziko lapansi kamene kamapezeka mwadzidzidzi. Ndipo ngati ukwati wanu sungapangidwe, mwina ndizo zabwino kwambiri? Mwinamwake chiwonongeko chakukonzerani inu kwa mwamuna wina, ndipo pamene inu mukulimbera sitimayi, theka lanu likukufunani inu kuzungulira dziko lonse lapansi? Mwa njira, ngakhale inu simunali wafilosofi, ine ndikukulangizani inu kuti mugawire ziwonetsero izi ndi mwamuna. Muuzeni nkhani ya mtsikana amene adakwatirana naye, ndikuyamika Mulungu kuti sanakwatire, chifukwa adayamba kukonda ... Kwa amuna, nkhanizi zimakhala ngati ammonia. Chifukwa ngakhale kuti "amuna apabanja" amuna amakhalabe proprietors.
Potsirizira pake - mufunire akazi okwatirana amtsogolo. Kuti muyang'ane wina ndi mzake mu chikwati cha boma, palibe chochititsa manyazi. Zidzalimbikitsanso mgwirizano wanu ngati mukuchita mwachidwi kuyambira pachiyambi. Musanavomereze "kukhala pamodzi", tchulani nthawi. Konzani poyamba, kuti ngati chirichonse chikuyenda bwino, mudzakwatirana mu miyezi isanu ndi umodzi, mwachitsanzo. Pankhaniyi, mudzakhala ndi lipenga mwa mawonekedwe a munthu woonamtima. Ndipo musaganize kuti kukambirana za ukwati kukuopseza amuna kutali. Inde, amawachitira mosamala, izi ndi zachibadwa, koma amavomereza kuti azikhala pamodzi , munthu aliyense amadziwa kuti adzalenga banja - ngakhale osalongosoka - molimba mtima amalengeza chikhumbo chake chosintha dzina lake pambuyo pake. Bwino!