Azimayi ambiri amatsimikiza kuti oligarch okha ndi amene angawasangalatse. Ngati si oligarch, ndiye mwini mwini kapena wotsogolera ena. Ena akukhulupirira kuti oligarchs sali okwanira kwa aliyense, ndipo kuti adzakhala ndi amuna okwanira okhala ndi malo awo okhala ndi malipiro abwino, kapena omwe angathe kuwathandiza pomanga ntchito. Kusiya mbali ya makhalidwe (aliyense amadziwa kuti tinaphunzitsidwa tili mwana osati izi, koma popeza mkaziyo adaganiza zokwatirana ndi kuwerengera, adaganiziranso zoyenera kuchita payekha). mwa kuwerengera: nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti ziyembekezo za mkazi yemwe alowe m'banja, sizikwaniritsidwa.
Kupindula kwakukulu kwa chikwati ndi kuwerengera ndikuti mkazi sakhala wakhungu ndi malingaliro, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti akhoza kuyesa mosamalitsa wosankhidwa wake, kumvetsa zomwe amupatsa, ndi zomwe ali wokonzeka kupereka.
Koma kuwerengera nthawi zina sizolondola. Mwachitsanzo, mkazi amakwatira chifukwa cha nyumba, ndipo pokhapokha (ndipo bwino, ngati palibe pambuyo pa ukwati) amapeza kuti nyumba imene mwamuna uyu amakhalamo si yake, koma ndi ya mmodzi wa achibale ake. Kapena, mwachitsanzo, kukwatiwa ndi munthu wolemera koma wachikulire kuti adzalandire cholowa, mkazi sangaganize kuti ali ndi banja kuchokera ku banja lake loyamba, ndipo adzalandira malo ambiri. Pankhaniyi, zifukwa zotsutsana ndi chikwati ndi kuwerengera zimaposa zonena za "chifukwa".
Komanso, munthu akhoza kukunyengani. Pano mukuona galimoto yamtengo wapatali komanso mwamuna wina akutuluka kuchokera mu suti yokongola komanso yamtengo wapatali, yomwe ikuwoneka kuti ndiyo mtsogoleri wa ndondomekoyi komanso yakukhudzirani kwambiri. Ndipo patatha nthawi yaitali amavomereza kuti ndiye woyendetsa wotsogolera, koma amafunadi kukukondani.
Ndipo ngati mwakumana ndi munthu yemwe ukwati wake umakhala wofunika kwambiri, m'kupita kwanthawi zingakhale kuti kukhala naye sikokwanira. Angathe kukunyalanyazani, pokhala muofesi nthawi yomwe akugwira ntchito, ndikukhala ndi anzanu, komanso ngakhale khalidwe losautsa la atsikana, ndikukudziwani ngati mayi wa ana ake, komanso poipa kwambiri, monga chinthu chomwe anagula. Mwina angakuchititseni nsanje ngakhale lamaposts (ngati muli wamng'ono komanso wokongola, ndipo sakhalanso wokongola komanso amamvetsetsa bwino), ndipo mwinamwake iye ali, ngakhale kuti ndi wolemera, koma ali ndi vuto lachibwibwi ndipo adzakufunsani ndalama iliyonse idatha.
Choncho, kulowa m'banja labwino, "chifukwa" ndi "motsutsana" ayenera kulemedwa mosamala kwambiri. Kuwonjezera pa mfundo yakuti munthuyo mwiniwakeyo amanena za iyemwini, kuti asapusitsidwe chinyengo, muyenera kusonkhanitsa zambiri zokhudza iye kuchokera m'manja ena. Komanso ndi bwino kudziwiratu za khalidwe la mwamuna kapena mkazi wam'tsogolo. Ngakhale ngati tsopano mukuganiza kuti chifukwa cha chuma chamtengo wapatali ndi okonzeka, chikhalidwe chake chingakhale chokonyansa kwambiri kuti simukufuna ndalama kapena nyumba. Kuwonjezera apo, ndi bwino kuyesa kupeza mu khalidwe lake monga zabwino zambiri momwe zingathere, ndipo onetsetsani kuti ndinu wokongola kwa iye, ndi kuti akutenga iwe ngati mkazi wake, ndipo sakugula. Pankhaniyi, zifukwa za "ukwati" pa chiwerengero zimakhala zolemetsa koposa zotsutsa "," ndipo ukwatiwu uli ndi chiyembekezo. Ndipo patapita nthawi - ndani amadziwa - mwinamwake mudzakondana.