Mwamwayi, chikondi sichiri chitsimikiziro chakuti anthu adzakhala pamodzi palimodzi. Izi zimachitika kuti anthu achikondi ayenera kusiya. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zimachitika ndipo n'chiyani chimayambitsa chisankho chovuta kwa amuna ndi akazi?
Zithunzi zosokonezeka
M'nkhani zamakono akalonga nthawi zonse amakwatira osauka Cinderellas ndipo amakhala mosangalala nthawi zonse. Koma mu moyo zonse zimachitika mosiyana. Anthu omwe ali ndi udindo wosiyana pakati pawo akhoza kukhala ovuta pamodzi. Chowonadi ndi chakuti ubale sungamangidwe pa chikondi chokha. Anthu ayeneranso kukhala ndi zofanana, malingaliro pazochitika ndi zina zotero. Pamapeto pake, anthu amafunika kudziwa zomwe angachite. Koma pamene mnyamata ndi msinkhu wakula msinkhu wosiyana kwambiri ndi anthu, ali ndi malingaliro abwino kwambiri a zolakwa, mavuto, ndi zina zotero, posachedwa adzamva kuti n'zovuta kuti akhale pamodzi. Kawirikawiri ubale wotere umakhala wopweteketsa, zotsutsana wina ndi mnzake. Pa nthawi yomweyi anthu akupitirizabe kumva chikondi, komabe, palibe chimene chingadzipange okha. Komabe, izi sizosadabwitsa, chifukwa chakuti ifeyo nthawi zonse timapangidwa ndi chikoka cha anthu omwe timakula. Choncho, ngati tibweretsedwa ku malo osiyana, ndiye kuti munthuyo amayamba kukana zomwe zimamuzungulira. Choncho, Cinderellas amakonda akalonga, koma sizingatheke kulimbana ndi dziko laulemerero la osankhidwa awo, zomwe asungwana alibe kanthu kochita.
Kusagwirizana kwa olembawo
Pali zochitika pamene okondedwa amasiyana, chifukwa nthawi zonse amanyansidwa ndi kulumbirira. Chifukwa cha izi ndi zosiyana. Komanso, apa pali zosiyana ndi zosiyana, zomwe ndizofanana. Mwachitsanzo, mwamuna ndi mkazi ali atsogoleri ndi chikhalidwe chawo. Amagwiritsidwa ntchito nthawi zonse kuyang'anira ubalewu. Ndipo zikutanthauza kuti mmodzi wa iwo ayenera kuchita chinachake. Mwachibadwa, aliyense amafuna munthu wachiwiri kuti agwirizane. Vitoga, pakati pa okonda nthawi zonse amayamba kuthetsa mikangano ndi mikangano ndipo palibe amene akufuna kupereka wina ndi mnzake. Ndichifukwa chake amasiyana. Potero anthu otere akhoza kukondana moyo wonse, pano pokhapokha kukhala pamodzi pa iwo sikutheka. Kawirikawiri, awiriwa amasonkhana pamodzi kangapo, koma atangokhalira kukondana, kusagwirizana kumayamba. Chowonadi ndi chakuti amayi ndi atsikana oterewa alibe kulekerera kokwanira ndi kutsatira. Iwo samapanga zosokoneza, makamaka ndi anthu oyandikana nawo. Ndikofunika kuti anthu oterewa azikhala pamodzi ndi wokondedwa kwambiri amene sangamvetsetse kuuma kwawo.
Kugawana nawo
Anthu ambiri amakakamizidwa ndi maganizo a anthu. Nthawi zambiri mabanja amatha chifukwa anthu omwe amakhala nawo pafupi amakambirana za ubale wawo ndikuyankhula mopanda tsankho. Komabe, munganene kuti mukakonda, simudzasamalira maganizo a anthu. Koma chirichonse sichiri chophweka monga zikuwonekera. Mwachitsanzo, m'mabanja ambiri achipembedzo, sangavomereze munthu wina wa chipembedzo china kapena wosakhulupirira kuti kulibe Mulungu, ziribe kanthu momwe msungwana kapena chibwenzi sakonda wosankhidwa wake. Anthu oterowo adzatulutsa chiwonetsero chakutsutsana ndi munthu uyu. Pankhaniyi, palibe amene amaganizira za mmene achinyamata amamvera. Aliyense amakhulupirira kuti akuchita zabwino komanso amateteza mtima wachinyamata ku zoyipa. Ngakhale kuti, pachikondi, mwamuna ndi mkazi ayenera kuthana ndi zoopseza za iobida tsiku ndi tsiku, mvetserani mawu osakondweretsa, zoopseza. Muzochitika zotere, posakhalitsa amatha kugawanitsa chifukwa psyche sichisunga zoterezo. Lucky kwa iwo omwe angakhoze kupita kumalo ena, kutali ndi onse omwe akuyesera kuswa miyoyo yawo, olondola chifukwa cha zolinga zolungama. Koma kawirikawiri osati mabanja ngati amenewa alibe mwayi wochoka mumzinda wawo kapena mudzi wawo ndipo pang'onopang'ono mavuto a anthu amakhala osalekerera ndipo tifunika kupezeka kuti tisachite manyazi. Mwamwayi, pali milandu pamene mabanja oterewa sangathe kukhalira popanda wina ndi mzake, koma safuna kukhala ndi moyo woterewu. Pachifukwa ichi, maanja nthawi zambiri amapita kuwiri kudzipha kuti achotse moyo wautali komanso osapatukana.
Sindifuna kuwononga moyo
Kulekanitsa kwa anthu kungapangitse akuluakulu apamwamba. Pankhaniyi, munthu amamvetsa kuti sangapereke wokondedwa wake zomwe akuyenerera. Zifukwa zikhoza kukhala zosiyana: zolinga zosiyana, zolinga zosiyana ndi zina zotero. Mwachitsanzo, mnyamata amamuwona kuti mtsikana amene amamukonda amacheza kwambiri, amakhala ndi anzake komanso amamukonda. Amakhulupirira nkhani zamatsenga ndipo amafuna munthu wokondedwa kuti adziwe nkhaniyi. Ali ndi zilakolako ndi zikhumbo zambiri. Iye nthawi zonse amafunika kulankhulana, kubwera ndi chinachake chatsopano, maulendo ndi zina zotero, ndipo mnyamatayu ndi munthu wokhala chete yemwe amayesetsa kuchita zomwe mkazi wake akufuna, koma zonse zimapatsidwa kwa iye ndi vuto lalikulu ndipo amadziwa kuti sangathe kukhala munthu wotereyo monga momwe akufunira. Kwa kanthawi ndithu amayesetsa kukonza zonse, koma amayamba kumvetsa kuti munthuyo amangokhalira kumbali yake. Ngakhale ngati sakuwonetsa izi, vseravno amadziwa kuti ndivuta bwanji ndipo amadziwa kuti zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri. Muzochitika zotero, magawo awiri achiwiri samazindikira nthawi yomweyo chifukwa chake chinachitika. Amakwiyitsa okondedwa awo, amangowonongeka m'miyoyo yawo, amawaimba mlandu kuti ali aulesi, opusa, ndi zina zotero. Kumvetsetsa vutoli kumabwera ndi nthawi. Pankhaniyi, munthu wachikondi amachita bwino. Iye amapita ku nsembe, akukhulupirira kuti kusankha kwake kopambana kumadandaula tsopano ndi kulola chikondi ichi kuti chipeze munthu amene angamupatse iye. Inde, si onse omwe amasangalala ndi olemekezekawa. Ena akufika kumapeto kuti ndi bwino kukhala ndi okondedwa anu kuvomereza, kuvomereza izo kusiyana ndi kukhala opanda izo. Koma kawirikawiri, anthu amadziwa kuti kupatukana kumeneku kwapindulitsa awo omwe ntchitoyi inakwaniritsidwa. Mwinamwake, ichi ndi chifukwa chomvetsa chisoni kwambiri cha anthu okonda kugawana nawo. Ndipotu, pazifukwa izi zonse zikhoza kukhazikitsidwa, koma, mwatsoka, munthu wachiwiri sakudziwa nthawi yake komanso momwe angachitire. Amadzifunira yekha, adzakhala wofunitsitsa kupatukana ndipo sakudziwa kuti anali iye amene mwamunayo adakana moyo wake ndi chimwemwe chake. Ndipo zikafika pa chidziwitso, ndichedwa kwambiri kusintha chilichonse.