Ndipo mwa njira, ngati mumaganizira za izi, funsoli siloli ndi filosofi ndipo lingakhale lofanana ndi kupanga "Zomwe mungachite?" Ndipo "Ndani akulakwa?"
Tanthauzo la mkazi woyenera (osasokonezeka ndi mkazi wabwino!) M'nthaŵi zosiyana ndi zaka zambiri zinkawonekera m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Mulimonsemo, izi zidadalira kwambiri kulamulira pamakhalidwe abwino, komanso, kunyenga "amuna". Koma nthawi idapitirira, malingaliro anasintha ... Ndipo tsopano, zoyenera za mkazi kachiwiri zimaimira chinthu chosakongola.
Ponena za mkazi wabwino omwe alimi amalankhula pang'ono ndi osamvetsetsa, pakuti iwo, monga osowa, osamvetsetsa ndi ovomerezeka, amadziwa bwino kuti palibe chomwechi. Komabe, izi sizikuwalepheretsa kukambirana za magawo amenewa, chifukwa asayansi a nyukiliya akukambirana za mitundu yosiyanasiyana yamtunduwu, monga positron ndi antimatter, zomwe ziribe m'chilengedwe.
Pazifukwa zina, pali lingaliro lakuti mkazi wabwino kapena onse ayenera kukhala wosalankhula, kapena kulankhula mwakachetechete, mwamtendere ndi pang'ono-pang'ono. Ndimakumbukira za anecdote onena za amuna awiri, omwe amayamba kudandaula za mkazi-saw, ndipo wachiwiri - ndi mpheta ya mkazi: "... Ndidzabwera kunyumba, ndipo adzapereka mapepala, ndikubweretsa nyuzipepala, ndikukhala pampando, ndipo akukhala pafupi ndi iye ndikulira, akulira, akulira ... kotero iye angakhale! "
Ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani amuna amachita mantha kwambiri pofuna chikhumbo cholankhula. Zonse zokhudza dongosolo lapadera la dongosolo lamanjenje. Buku la Australian for Girls, lomwe lafalitsidwa m'ma 1960 kwa ophunzira a sekondale, limati: "Usayambe kukambirana ndi mwamuna wako, usayiwale kuti watopa kwambiri, zomwe ayenera kupita maminiti aliwonse ndi tsiku lililonse mu utumiki wake, Muzimudyetsa mwakachetechete, ndipo pambuyo pake, pamene awerenga nyuzipepalayi, mungayese kulankhula naye. " Ndikuganiza kuti ambiri a ife tikhoza kutsutsa zomwe akunenazo, amati, timagwira ntchito, timadandaula, ndipo ena amapeza zambiri. Koma, wokondedwa wanga, taganizirani: Amuna ali obadwa opanda ungwiro. Kodi mwawonapo kamodzi kamodzi kuti amuna amatha kuchita zinthu ziwiri panthawi yomweyo? Kotero ndi kupumula - sangathe kumasuka nthawi yomweyo ndikumvetsera mulu wa nkhani zomwe amai akuyesera kuziwombera kale kuchokera pakhomo. Choncho, tingathe kunena kuti mkazi wabwino ayenera kulankhula zokondweretsa kwa munthuyo, ndipo atangomaliza kulankhula yekha ndi kupuma.
Tsopano tiyeni tiganizire za chiphunzitso cha mkazi wabwino. Choyamba, mawu akuti "Ndiwe wanzeru," "Ndiwe wodabwitsa," "Ndine wonyada iwe," ndi zina zotero, mofananamo, zopanda pake sizichitika. Simungathe kuwononga phala ndi mafuta! Amuna amamatira kuzinyoza, simungathe kukayikira. Ndipo apamwamba awo amadzidalira, amadzipereka kwambiri. Ndi tchimo kuti tisagwiritse ntchito mwayi woterewu! Koma apa chinthu chachikulu sichiyenera kuwonjezereka, ndipo mbali iyi, mwatsoka, silingamveke ndi amayi ambiri.
Chinthu chinanso, kotero kunena kuti mwambo wokonzeka kuchitapo kanthu ndilo "Banja" Ndikumva bwanji za iwe "? Nthawi zonse akumva kuti akungosonyeza kuti akuyembekezera, mwamuna sangathe kupita kukafuna "kugawana bwino."
Ngati mutafufuza mosamala zomwe amayi ayenera kunena, mawu akuti "zowona" amagwera muyeso ya mawu akuti "Muli ndi amayi abwino kwambiri (-e, -e). Iye / iye anakulira mwamuna weniweni. " Ngati timvetsetsa, tonse tinabadwira ndi kubadwa ndi makolo, ndipo zikuwoneka kuti "makolo athu" ndi ofunika kwambiri, KOMA! Ife tikubwerera ku funso la kunyada kwa amuna ...
"Popeza iwe umachita izo, palibe amene amachita!", "Sindinakhalepo ndi chinthu choterocho!", "Mulungu, ndibwino bwanji kwa iwe" ... Ngakhale kuti sizinali, ponena za mawu omaliza kuchokera kwa mkazi woyenera, mwinamwake ndakhala ndikusangalala. Mwamuna sali wokonzeka kulolera pabedi aliyense yemwe ali woposera, ngakhale WAMBIRI ... Mwini "khola" lake, mwamuna weniweni ndi mfumu ndi mulungu, ndipo mkazi woyenera ayenera mwa njira iliyonse kutsimikizira izi (nthawizina osati kwa mwamuna, koma kwa iyemwini!).
Mayi weniweni weniweni amanena za mwamuna wake nthawi zonse ndi zabwino komanso zabwino. Malingaliro a 48% mwa oyankhulana nawo ogonana amphamvu, mkazi wabwino mukumvetsetsa kwawo ayenera kulankhula zinthu zokha zokha, koma ... samawoneka wochenjera kuposa mnzawo. Zoona, ndi 9% mwa anthu omwe anafunsidwawo adavomereza kuti ali ndi chidwi ndi kukhulupirika kwa interlocutor.
Mkazi woyenera ayenera kuyankhula kwa mwamuna: auzeni bwana kuti mnzakeyo ali wotanganidwa ndipo sangathe kugwira ntchito Lamlungu, chifukwa iye ndi wogwira ntchito yamtengo wapatali (pano, palibe wina aliyense wogwirizana); Uzani mayi ake - apongozi ake kuti chilichonse chimasungidwa pa iye; Uzani anzanu kuti akuchita masewera (apa, akuyang'ana macheza a mpira, atagona pabedi ndi nyuzipepala ya mowa). Iyenera kukhala mtundu wa "wolankhula" wa chipulumutso, malo okhala mu zovuta za "dziko lino."
Mkazi wabwino ayenera kulankhula bwino. Ngakhale kutemberera mkamwa mwake kumatha kutamandidwa. Iye sayenera kukamba za iyeyekha, chifukwa zonse zomwe apindula nazo ndizopambano zazikulu za amuna.
Ndipo potsirizira "gawo lalifupi" la zomwe amayi abwino ayenera kunena, ndikufuna kuyika mawu omwe anamva kuchokera kwa mzake: "Mkazi wabwino sali wofanana ndi ine. Ndili - zabwino! ". Zingatheke kuti, iwo, "akazi abwino", apite ku bar, akhale ophatikizidwa ...