Mwanayo amaperekedwa ku sukulu, mwana amapita ku sukulu, mnyamatayo amapita ku yunivesite, munthu amayamba kugwira ntchito, ndipo patapita zaka amachoka. Mukusamukira kumzinda wina, kapena patatha zaka zambiri mukukhala limodzi, mwamuna wanu amasiya inu ... Zonsezi "zotsutsana" kapena zovuta zimafuna munthu kupanga zosankha, kukhazikitsa machitidwe atsopano. Tiyenera kusintha, kaya timakonda kapena ayi.
Kodi mukuyenera kuti muzolowere zatsopano za moyo? Kotero, ichi ndi vuto la kusintha. Kuti muthe kugonjetsa bwino, nkofunika kuti musachedwe, kusonkhanitsa "kuchuluka kwa" zoganiza. " Bwino kuthandizira thupi lanu ndi mavitamini, maola owonjezera ogona, zakudya zomwe mumazikonda. Mudzawona: pang'onopang'ono vuto lidzatha palokha. Izi zikugwiranso ntchito kwa mwana wamng'ono yemwe adayamba kupita ku sukulu, ndi kwa antchito omwe adayamba kutenga mpando wa mfumuyo. Angathe kuthandiza ndi kuthandizira achibale awo ngati amamvetsera mwatcheru komanso mwachifundo kwa munthu amene amaphunzira malo atsopano.
Mabanja ambiri amatha kudutsa nthawi yotchedwa "nthawi ya chisa chotsalira". Anawo anakulira ndikuchoka kwawo. Makolo amene amazoloŵera mavuto a ana, mwadzidzidzi amapeza nthawi yochuluka. Afunika kupeza tanthauzo latsopano la moyo ndi mfundo zatsopano zothandizana. Nthawi zina mavuto a nthawi yoterewa amachititsa kuti banja likhale losudzulana, omwe adalumikizana ndi kusamalira ana.
Zovuta ngati "nthawi ya chisa chodetsedwa" zimatchedwanso existential kapena matanthauzo omwe amatanthauza. Chifukwa cha zochitika, munthu amatayika zomwe poyamba zinali maziko ake. Zitha kukhala chiwonongeko cha ubale wakale, kupatukana kapena imfa ya wokondedwa, kutaya ntchito. Kodi mungapitirire bwanji? Pezani tanthauzo latsopano. Ngati munthu sangakwanitse kuthetsa vutoli, adzalandira chitsimikizo chokhalapo, mkati mwake. Kulephereka kwanthaŵi yaitali mu chikhalidwe ichi kumachepetsa chitetezo, chimayamba kuzunza matenda - madokotala amawatcha iwo psychosomatic, ndiko chifukwa, chifukwa cha maganizo, ndipo amapereka chitonthozo kwa wodwala.
Nthawi zambiri anthu amatha kupuma, makamaka ngati amakonda ntchito yawo. Malingana ndi chiwerengero, pafupifupi 70% mwa anthu okalamba mwa njira imodzi amavutika ndi kuvutika maganizo. Kuchokera ku crisisential existence kudzakuthandizana ndi anthu komanso moyo wokhazikika. Musalole kuti mupite m'manja mwanu! Muyenera kudziyesera nokha muzochita zatsopano. Kuti muyende, mukakumana ndi anzanu a kusukulu ndi anzanu akusukulu, pitani achibale omwe akukhala mumzinda wina komanso ngakhale m'mayiko ena. Mungathe kusintha ntchitoyi, kubwereranso ku sukulu, phunzirani zowonetsera. Mwachitsanzo, mayi wina wachikulire anamuthandiza mwana wake kukweza mwana wake wamkazi. Mtsikanayo anakula. Panthawi inayake mayiyo adamva kuti banja lake silikusowa thandizo, kuti nkhawa zake zidakwiyitsa mwana wake ndi mdzukulu wake. Kenaka anapeza ntchito ngati nanny ndipo anayamba kuphunzitsa mtsikana wazaka zisanu ndi zinayi. Nanny anakhala wokoma mtima ndi ward yake yaing'ono kuti tsopano sagwirizane. Moyo uli ndi tanthauzo latsopano!
Kodi aliyense wa okondedwa anu amatha kuvutika maganizo? Dziwani, tsopano munthu uyu akukumana ndi mavuto, makamaka akusowa chidwi cha okondedwa. Musamusiye yekha ndi maganizo olemetsa! Musazengereze kumuvutitsa iye ndi maulendo anu, funsani thandizo, ngakhale simukusowa makamaka. Kuwona kuti mukusowa wina, kumapatsa mphamvu.
... Ndipo mkati
Tsopano, mavuto omwe amabwera chifukwa choyambitsa ndi mavuto omwe amatha zaka. Aliyense amadziwa zizindikiro za mavuto a zaka zitatu: kusayera, kusamvera, kuuma. Mwanayo amadziwa "I" wake, amayesetsa kudziimira yekha, zomwe zimatsutsana ndi njira yakale ya moyo, kumene zisankho zonse zidapangidwa ndi akulu. Mavuto otsatila a zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri amayamba chifukwa chakuti mwanayo amakhala wochepa kwambiri ndi banja lake, amafuna bwenzi - pabwalo, kusukulu, mu gawo la masewera. Vuto la unyamata limagwiritsidwa ntchito pamabuku a zolemba zamaganizo, komabe mfundo zabwino kwambiri ndizo: "Khalani oleza mtima, si kwanthawizonse."
Ngati mavuto a ana ali, monga lamulo, m'malo momangika pa msinkhu wina, ndiye kuti akuluakulu amatha kukhala ndi malire a zaka zambiri.
Mwachitsanzo, munaphunzira ku yunivesite mwakhama, kenako munaphunzira maphunziro kusukulu, mumakwatirana, mumagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanu pakati pa banja ndi ntchito, mukuchita bwino ndikuyesera kukhala woyang'anira nyumba. Inde, mumakhala ngati katswiri, komatu sizinthu zonse zomwe zafotokozedwa muunyamata wanu zimapindula ndi inu, ndipo njira zambiri za moyo zatha kale. Pakubwera mavuto - kubwezeretsanso maganizo, zilakolako zakale, zolinga.
Chitsanzo china: mkazi amatembenukira kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo ndipo misonzi imamuuza kuti mwamuna wake samudziwa - mwadzidzidzi anasintha kwathunthu. Iye samayankhulana naye iye. Anatsutsana ndi abwenzi akale, amakangana pa ntchito. Akubwera kunyumba akudandaula, amatseka m'chipinda chake. Kupita ku nyumba ya amonke ya Buddhist. "Simudziwa chilichonse chokhudza Buddhism!" - akazi ake. "Palibe, ine ndikuchikonza icho," mwamuna wake akutsutsa.
Kodi mungamulangize chiyani? Mofanana ndi makolo a mwana wopanduka, - khala woleza mtima. Vuto ndi chinthu chokhalitsa. Osakangana ndi mwamuna wake, khumudwa naye. Sitikukhumudwitsa wodwalayo ndi kutentha ndipo sitimamukakamiza kuti achoke pabedi! Ntchito yomwe ili pafupi kwambiri ndi nthawiyi ndiyo kukhala pafupi ndi "odwala", kambiranani naye zomwe akukumana nazo, kusunga zochita zake, koma: konzekerani kuti munthu wobadwirayo akhale chinthu china.
Monga mbozi, kutembenukira ku gulugufe, kumangoyamba, kubisala mu chrysalis, kotero munthu amafunikira nthawi mu nthawi yovuta kuti amvetsetse yekha, kuti azindikire kusintha konse komwe kwachitika mmoyo wake.
Kodi mungatani kuti mutha kupulumuka?
Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti vuto ndilofunikira, koma osati vuto lopweteka. Ndiyenera kuvomereza kuti ndi nthawi yosintha ndikusintha chinachake m'moyo wanga. Ino ndi nthawi yogwira ntchito mwakhama, choncho pangani malo abwino. Tengerani chitsanzo kuchokera kwa abale athu ang'onoang'ono: pokonzekera kuti aphunzire, mbozi imabisala pamalo amodzi, njoka yomwe imasintha khungu, imalowa m'kati. Musamachitire nkhanza zosayenera, yendani nokha m'chilengedwe. "Maganizo ndi ana a chete," Yevtushenko analemba. Ndiko chete komwe kudzakuthandizani kuti mulowe mu dziko latsopano. Njira yothetsera khalidweli ndiyiyi yosiyana ndi yomwe iyenera kusankhidwa mu mavuto omwe alipo. Pewani ntchito yocheperapo, asiye kutaya ndalama, koma kupeza mtendere wamaganizo. Fotokozani kwa banja lanu kuti tsopano mukusowa mtendere ndi kukhala nokha kuposa kale lonse.
Panthawi yovuta, munthu wakula mkangano: yesetsani kupeza chiyanjano. Onetsetsani za mawu ndi zochita zanu, samalani bwino ndi anzanu komanso ulemu.
Kulakwitsa kwakukulu kwa anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la zaka zambiri ndi kuyesa ena chifukwa cha vuto lawo lamkati. Koma kudzudzula ena chifukwa cha mavuto awo ndi chizindikiro cha kusakhazikika kwa maganizo ndi chidziwitso. Musataye mtima! Dzifunseni nokha: "Kodi vutoli lingandibweretsere chiyani?" Zimapweteka kuti zigawidwe ndi khungu lakale. Koma ndizofunika, chifukwa zimalepheretsa kukula.