Kotero, kodi kudalira pa malonda kukuwululidwa bwanji, chilakolako cha kugula chikugwirizana bwanji ndi makompyuta athu?
Choyamba, muyenera kudziwa zomwe zimayambitsa matendawa. Choncho, kuti tithetse vutoli kwanthawizonse, tiyeni tione mizu yake. Tiyeni timvetsetse kamodzi momwe chirichonse chimayambira ndi chomwe kwenikweni chikhumbochi chikugwirizana.
Poyambirira, zizindikiro za kugula zambiri sizowonekeratu. Mzimayi, nthawi ndi nthawi, amagula zovala ndi nsapato zosiyanasiyana kuti azisangalala. Amakonda nthawi zonse kuti azisangalatsa yekha ndi chovala chatsopano kapena ndolo zabwino. Koma, m'kupita kwanthawi, mayiyo akuzindikira kuti chinachake chikuyamba kuyenda molakwika, ndipo chilakolako chake cha kugula chikukula. Iye akufuna kuchotsa chizolowezi chogula, ndipo palibe chimene chikuchitika. Amayamba kuchita mantha chifukwa chakuti sangathe kuchotsa chilakolako chake. Mzimayi amazindikira kuti akufunikira kugula zakudya zapakhomo kapena zofunika zofunika, koma m'malo mwake amapeza nsapato kapena kavalidwe. Izi zimakhala kudalira. Nthawi zonse, mayiyo akudzilonjeza yekha kuti sipadzakhalaponso, ndipo adzayamba ndi kugula kwamuyaya. Koma palibe chimene chikuchitika. Msungwanayo amadziwa kuti kugula zinthu n'zosatheka, chifukwa alibe nthawi yoti azivala chilichonse. Koma sangathe kuima. Apa pakubwera kumvetsa kuti chirichonse chakhala chidakwa, chomwe chiyenera kumalizidwa kamodzi.
Kotero, nchifukwa chiani anthu amasonyeza chilakolako chotere cha zinthu? Nchifukwa chiyani iwo amawonongeka kawirikawiri ndi chilakolako cha kugula? Ndipotu, chifukwa ichi chabvuto chikuwululidwa, ndipo chimakhala mwachinsinsi chathu. Choyamba, mayi wotero sakudziwa kukana ogulitsa. Mwinamwake iye ndi wamanyazi kwambiri kapena wokoma mtima kwambiri. Zotsatira za izi ndizosatheka kunena "ayi", kuchotsa zovala zake ndikuchoka m'sitolo. Atsikana a mtundu uwu ali ndi nkhawa kwambiri ndipo samakonda kukana ogulitsa, chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti mwanjira imeneyi akhoza kukhumudwa. Ndi kwa anthu oterowo kuti njira zamaganizo zoyambirira zimagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi mameneja ndi ogulitsa kuti azigulitsa katundu wawo bwinobwino. Komanso, chifukwa china cha shopaholism chikuwululidwa. Zokhudzana ndi mfundo yakuti mkazi sangapeze chinachake mu ubwana ndi unyamata. Ambiri aife tinapulumuka mliriwu, vutoli, zaka zanjala za perestroika. Kotero, ife tiri ndi chikhumbo chopeza chirichonse chomwe poyamba sichinali. Ndi chifukwa chake akazi a shopaholics, nthawi zambiri amagula zinthu kuti adziwonetse wogulitsa: Ine ndi ine tili ndi ndalama zokwanira kuti ndigule chilichonse chimene ndikufuna.
Shopaholics, kugula chinthu chotsatira, osakhutira zakuthupi, koma zakuthupi. Amakonda njira yosankha ndi yoyenera, kuyankhulana ndi wogulitsa. Ngati sitolo ili ndi mlengalenga wokondweretsa, nyimbo zosangalatsa ndi ogulitsa abwino, ndiye mosakayikira mkazi woteroyo adzatuluka ndi gulu la zinthu zosafunika. Ogulitsa zamakono aphunzira kale kukhala osakwanira ndipo nthawi yomweyo amatha. Choncho, ogula ambiri amawaona ngati mabwenzi enieni. Pankhaniyi, muyenera kuikapo zambiri ku malonda amakono a Russia. Koma, ndithudi, izi sizimathandiza shopaholics. Vuto lawo limagwirizanitsidwa ndi khalidwe la ogwira ntchito yosungirako katundu.
Zomwe mungachite kuti muchotse matendawa ndi chilakolako cha kugula. Choyamba, atsikana omwe ali ndi zovuta komanso osadzidalira mwa iwo okha amavutika ndi shopaholism. Kuyambira ali mwana samakondedwa ndipo akuyesera kukondweretsa aliyense. Inde, iwo samazipeza izo nthawizonse. Ndiyeno wogulitsa wofuula amapezeka pabwalo la masewero, amene amandiyamikira, amamvetsera komanso amachirikiza zokambiranazo. Mwachidziwikire, msungwanayo pa msinkhu wosadziwika amayamba kumuwona ngati bwenzi. Ndipo sitimakhumudwitsa anzathu ndipo sitiwakana chithandizo. Choncho, pamene wogulitsa ayamba kutamanda chinthu ndikupereka kwa mayi, amaopa kukana, kuti asakhumudwitse komanso kuti asamadzichepetse. Mu mkhalidwe umenewu, msungwanayo amaganiza kuti wogulitsa amamuchitira mwanjira yapadera, ndipo sangokhala ndi ufulu womunyoza ndi kumukhumudwitsa. Choncho, amabwerera ku zatsopano ndi zatsopano. Pankhaniyi, muyenera kuphunzira kuti musanyengedwe nokha. Wogulitsa amamvetsera ndikuyankhula kwa inu chifukwa akufunikira kugulitsa chinthucho. Mwachibadwa, iye akhoza kukhala munthu wabwino, koma iwe kwa iye palibe aliyense ndi khalidwe lake - osati njira yokha yomwe mungagulitsire izi kapena chinthucho. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukudziwa kuti mumalemekeza kwambiri ogulitsa, kumbukirani chinthu chimodzi: Simukuchita mwano ndipo musamachite manyazi - izo zikutanthauza ulemu. Koma, panthawi yomweyi, muli ndi ufulu wosankha ndipo simukusowa kugula kanthu, kuti musangalatse wina. Musaganize kuti wogulitsa angaganize molakwika za inu kapena kunena chinachake. Ngati iye ndi munthu wabwinobwino, nthawi zonse amadziwa kuti kusankha kwanu sikudalira makhalidwe ake. Ngati, komabe, munthu uyu wakwiya, izi siziyenera kukukhudzani. Iye salipo ndipo palibe amene angakhale kwa inu. Simungathe kupita ku sitolo ndikukumana naye pamsewu. Komanso, wogulitsa, mwinamwake, adzaiwala za iwe komweko, mwamsanga pamene wogula watsopano alowa pakhomo. Choncho ndibwino kuti mumudandaule ndikumuganizira.
Komanso musadandaule ndi zomwe wogulitsa akuganiza, ngati kuti simungagule kanthu. Iye sali kwa inu nokha ndipo amatsimikizira kwa iye chinachake chimene inu simusowa. Yesetsani kulimbana ndi zovuta zanu, zomwe zinayikidwa muunyamata. Simusowa kuti mupambane chikondi cha alendo komanso kutsimikizira chinachake kwa iwo. Dzikumbutseni kuti ndinu munthu wokhutira yemwe ali ndi achibale ndi achibale omwe amamukonda ndikumudziwa. Ogulitsa m'misika sakuwona izi kwa inu. Choncho inunso musawakonde ndi kuwathandiza.
Ngati inu nokha simungathe kudzitsimikizira nokha kuti mukukongola mokwanira ndi kokongola, ndipo simukusowa kufunafuna chikondi kwa alendo, ndiye kuti ndifunikanso kufunafuna malangizo a katswiri wa zamaganizo. Ndipotu, palibe chachilendo, choopsa komanso chochititsa manyazi mu izi. Munthu woteroyo angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi zovuta zomwe zimayambitsa mavuto a maganizo ndi achibale amene amawoneka chifukwa cha zonyansa zanu zopanda nzeru.