1. Mofanana ndi makapu m'kadoki ya desiki
Mu malo okondana komanso okondweretsa, maanja achichepere amatha kugona kwa zaka 3-5 zoyamba kukhala pamodzi. Mofanana ndi malo am'mimba a mimba m'mimba mwa amayi, udindo umenewu umapereka onse awiri kukhala otetezeka komanso otetezeka, kupanga chiyanjano chokwanira. Nthaŵi zambiri, ndi mwamuna amene amamvetsera mkaziyo. Mawiri omwe mgwirizano wa onse awiri ndi ofanana, kamodzi kamodzi kamakonzedwe kameneka, ndiko kuti, pamene mnzanu wina akutembenukira, wina amatsata chitsanzo chake ndikumukumbatira kumbuyo.
2. Kukumbatira kwa uchi
Amagwirana maso ndi maso - pamwamba pa ubwenzi. Udindo umenewu si wamba kusiyana ndi malo oyambirira a "Spoon", ndipo kawirikawiri zimakhala zosavuta kugona usiku uno. Kawirikawiri pa malo awa, okondedwa akugona pakati pawo omwe akufuna kutsuka wina ndi mzake, pachiyambi cha ubale wawo kapena atangotha kupanga chikondi.
Koma maanja amene ali pa ubwenzi wautali, mwachitsanzo, nthawi ya chisangalalo chomwe chimachitika, kapena ngati okondedwa akudalira wina ndi mnzake, akhoza kugona monga chonchi. Ngati mnzanuyo akukonda malowa, ndipo simukumvetsetsa, dikirani mpaka agone, ndiyeno mulole malo omasuka.
3. Zojambula zazitali
Mmodzi mwa anthu omwe amagonana nawo (nthawi zambiri mwamuna) amagona mofulumira mmalo omwe akatswiri a zamaganizo amachitcha kuti "mfumu", zomwe zimasonyeza "ego" kwambiri komanso chilakolako cholamulira. Mayiyo akugona ndi mutu wake pamapewa, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti ndi wokondedwa kwambiri komanso wokondana naye, ndipo izi zimamuthandiza kuona kuti akutetezedwa ndi kusamalidwa. Chikhalidwe ichi chimasonyeza chikhulupiliro chokwanira pakati pa okondedwa, ndipo amakonda okwatirana ambiri amene ali pachibwenzi chokhazikika.
4. Mphaka wa Okondedwa
Izi ndizowonjezereka kwambiri pa "Mzere" wam'mbuyomu, chifukwa panthawiyi, mkaziyo amamukumbatira, osati kungomuyika paphewa. Mzimayi amatengedwa pansi pa phiko, akupereka chikondi, chithandizo ndi chitetezo chake. Mkhalidwewu umayamikiridwa makamaka ndi amayi pa nthawi ya mavuto m'banja kapena zovuta pamoyo. Koma musamayembekezere mavuto kuti ayesedwe kugona. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, phwando lakupempha lingakhale si mwamuna yekha, komanso mayi yemwe akufuna kuthetsa nkhawa za mwamuna pambuyo pa ntchito yovuta ya tsiku.
5. Mtolo waufulu
Okwatirana kumene nthawi zambiri amakhala osamala pa nthawi ya tulo kuti akondane wina ndi mzake. Pafupifupi zaka zisanu kenako, mabanja ambiri amayamba kumvetsetsa kuti ubale wawo wokhazikika sungasokonezedwe ngati atalola kuti akhale ndi ufulu wambiri komanso atonthozedwe akagona. Choncho, anthu oterowo nthawi zambiri amagona pamalo pomwe akumbukira malo a "Spoons", koma ali ndi mtunda waukulu pakati pawo. Kulankhulana kwapakati kumathandizidwa pogwira dzanja kapena mwendo. Udindo umenewu umagwirizanitsa chikhumbo choyandikana ndi kufunikira kotonthozedwa. Izi ndizovuta, koma osagonana.
6. Phazi limaphatikizapo
Banja lina limakhala losavutikanso kugwirizanitsa, choncho amamanga pamaloto ngati kuti mwadzidzidzi: phazi lanu "mwangozi" limakhudza phazi kapena phazi la mnzanuyo, kapena mumapondapo phazi la mnzanuyo. Miyendo yophimbidwa imakhala ndi maubwenzi abwino ndi chitonthozo pamene tigona. Udindo umenewu ukhoza kusonyeza kuti mmodzi wa iwo akutsutsana kuti asonyeze maganizo awo kapena mwadala sakufuna kuwawonetsa, mwachitsanzo, pambuyo pa mkangano.
7. Zowoneka "Zen"
Pambuyo pa ukwati wautali, chizoloŵezi chopeza malo anu pa nthawi ya kugona kumawonjezeka. Pamene kukhazikitsidwa kwa ubale wolimba, aliyense wa iwo akulimbikitsa lingaliro laumwini ndi ufulu. Pankhaniyi, mabanja ambiri m'nthawi imeneyi amatha kugula bedi lonse kuti aliyense akhale ndi malo okwanira. Komabe, pali chiyanjano chokha pakati pa abwenzi, chifukwa cha zovuta zogwira.
8. Monga momwe zombo zimayendera
Pamene hafu yanu imachoka pambali pa bedi ndikugwa tulo, inu, mukuyang'ana kumbuyo kwa hafu iyi, mukhoza kumverera kukanidwa. Koma kodi zilidi choncho? Akatswiri amatsindika kuti palibe malo "abwino" kapena "olakwika" pamene agona. Ngakhale kuti nthawi zina izi zikhoza kuwonetsa mavuto ena omwe adayamba.
Yesetsani kumvetsa zomwe zinayambitsa izi: mkwiyo, mkwiyo, nkhawa? Ngati mudziwa kuti mnzanuyo akukumana ndi mavuto aliwonse pakali pano, msiyeni akhale ndi malo ake, panthawi ya tulo - mungathe kutero pamene mukukhumudwa, muli ndi nkhawa, kapena mukangokhala kusungulumwa. Mwinamwake, patapita kanthawi kuyandikana kwanu pabedi kudzayambiranso, ndipo malo anu ogwirizana pa nthawi ya tulo adzasintha.
9. Nkhanu
Ngati inu kapena mnzanu mukugona pa malo ena osadziwika, ngati mukugwera pabedi, ngati kuti mukuyesera kuwonjezera mtunda pakati pawo ndi mnzanuyo, kapena kudzuka m'mawa mwake ngati malo a jack, ndiye izi ziyenera kukuchenjezani. N'zotheka kuti malo oterewa amayamba chifukwa cha chilakolako chosowa cha mnzanu kuti achoke kwa inu kapena kusokoneza chiyanjano chanu.
Koma musadandaule ngati mulibe zizindikiro zina zosokoneza mu ubale wanu zomwe zimasonyeza kuti zingatheke. Kusintha kwafupipafupi kumakhalanso anthu achangu komanso olimbikitsa, kapena anthu olenga.