Ndicho chifukwa chake tsopano tikukamba za momwe tingakhalire ndi moyo, momwe tingakhalire ozama, momwe tingakhalire pansi. Choncho, choyamba, tiyeni tifotokoze zomwe simungathe kuziletsa. Kawirikawiri, kukana kukhala ndi mtima wodekha kumachitika ndi zinthu pamene chinachake sichikuchitika monga mukufunira, wina amachitira zinthu molakwika kapena sakukulemekezani. Zoonadi, izi ndi zosasangalatsa ndipo mukufuna, zilizonse zotheka, kuteteza malo anu m'moyo. Koma, pambuyo pa zonse, sizinthu zonse, monga momwe mukuganizira poyamba.
Mwachitsanzo, simungathetse mtendere chifukwa wina akulakwitsa ndipo sangavomereze kulakwitsa kwake. Choyamba, tiwone ngati khalidwe la munthuyo likukhudza moyo wanu, kapena simukukonda maganizo ake. Ngati munthu akufuna kuti azichita monga momwe amaonera, ndiye kuti ali ndi ufulu wochita zimenezo. Ndipo ngakhale maganizo ake ali olakwika. Inde, mukhoza kuyesa kumukakamiza, koma, musayambe kufuula ndi kutsutsa. Izi simungapindule nazo. Makamaka ngati mukulankhula ndi mwamuna. Anyamata amafunika kukangana, osati amatsenga. Phunzirani kudziletsa nokha. Pofuna kuti asiye kufuula, kuti mukhale wodekha komanso wozama, muyenera kukhala ndi njira yanu. Ambiri amalangiza kuwerengera mpaka khumi, koma, sizimathandiza aliyense. Kwa ena, nkhani yotereyi ndi yokhumudwitsa, ndipo mmalo mokhala chete, munthu amayamba kuchita zinthu mopanda malire. Kotero, ganizirani za chinachake chomwe chimakulimbikitsani. Mwachitsanzo, mukhoza kuimira nyanja kapena kukumbukira chinachake kuyambira ubwana. Ndipotu, munthu aliyense ali ndi malingaliro omwe amatsitsimutsa ndi kulimbikitsa moyo wake. Tsimikizani zomwe zikuchitikadi pa inu ndikuzigwiritsa ntchito. Inde, poyamba sizingakhale zophweka, koma, ndiwe munthu, ndipo munthu nthawi zonse amadziwa momwe angasamalire malingaliro ake pamene akufunikira. Ngakhale zikuwoneka kuti izi siziri chomwecho, mukungoyang'ana zifukwa. Pali zitsanzo zambiri pamene anthu enieni a kolera, pogwira ntchito pawokha, adasanduka akatswiri osamvetsetseka. Anthu omwe anadziwana nawo pambuyo pa "kusintha" kotere sakanakhoza ngakhale kulingalira kuti bambo uyu anayamba pomwepo ndi theka la chiwongola dzanja. Ndipotu, zonse ndizotheka, muyenera kungofunadi.
Ngakhale ngati simukukonda khalidwe ndi malingaliro a munthu, chifukwa zimamuvulaza, ndipo mumayamikira, kapena inu nokha, pali njira zothetsera vutoli komanso osachita nawo. Choyamba, phunzirani kukhala wanzeru ndi ovuta. Kuti mutsimikizire wokondedwa wanu, simukungofuna kunena kuti akulakwitsa. Ndikofunika kufotokoza mfundo ndi zifukwa. Ngakhale atayankhula momveka bwino, musasokoneze kapena kufuula. Muloleni iye afotokoze chirichonse chimene akufuna, ndiyeno modekha kunena malingaliro anu. Tikasokoneza anthu, amazitengera ngati kusayamika komanso chizindikiro cha zomwe sagwirizana nazo. Choncho, ngakhale ndi changu chachikulu yesetsani kutsimikizira mlandu wawo. Ngati muwamvetsera, zikuwoneka kuti muzogwirizana ndi iwo. Kotero, mutatha kufotokoza maganizo anu, pali mwayi waukulu kuti mudzamvedwa, chifukwa mdaniyo adzamva kuti palinso maganizo ake m'mawu anu.
Tikakhumudwa ndi kunyozedwa, nthawi zonse timafuna kufuula ndi kudziteteza mwa njira iliyonse. Koma, sitimvetsetsa kuti mawu ozizira okha ndi mayankho oganiza angakhale nawo, ndiye zimakhudza munthu amene timamufuna. Kudzudzula wina, munthu monga cholinga amachititsa otsutsa kulira, misonzi ndi mkwiyo. Ngati simunamupatse ichi, amakwiya. Choncho, kuti akhudze wolakwira sakuchita zomwe akufuna. Khalani bata ndi osamala. Onetsani maonekedwe anu onse omwe simukuona kuti mawu ake ndi ofunikira. Ndipo, pamene kwenikweni "amapita ku thovu," mmalo momasokoneza ndi kutchula mayina, bwino kuganizirani yankho lolondola ndikumuuza kuti wolakwirayo atsimikizika, atasankha kuti apambana.
Pofuna kuti mwayesetsere mkwiyo wa munthu wina ndikumuuza, muyenera kumudziwa kuti musamvetse mawu ake. Iwo sayenera kumamatira ku mtima ndi moyo wanu. Dzifunseni nokha, chifukwa chiyani mumapweteketsa mitsempha yanu chifukwa cha iwo amene akukhumba inu zoipa. Ndipo ngakhale iwo sakufuna, koma samangochita momwe mukufunira, bwanji mukudandaula za izo ndikuwononga ubalewu.
Ndicho chifukwa chake simuyenera kulola chinachake chosakondweretsa mtima wanu. Lolani zizindikiro za wina kuti zidye ubongo ndi kupeza yankho labwino. Zoonadi, poyamba ndizovuta kuchita izi. Koma, ndithudi, pali njira yotulukira. Ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi kudzikonda nokha ndikudzilamulira nokha. Pomwe mumvetsetsa kuti munthu akunena chinachake sichili bwino, koma mukufuna kufuula ndi kukwiya, nthawi yomweyo yesani nokha. Yambani kudzipangitsa nokha kuti ali ndi ufulu wa maganizo ake kuti simukukhudzidwa ndi maganizo a munthu yemwe akufuna kukupwetekani, kuti ngakhale munthu achita molakwika, uwu ndiwo moyo wake ndipo ali ndi ufulu kuwatsogolera. Muzochitika zonse, mukhoza kudzipereka mosiyana, chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti chimakuchititsani. Musalole kudzipumula ndi kudzipangitsa nokha kufikira mutamva kuti mwafooka. M'kupita kwa nthaŵi, mudzazindikira kuti simukufunanso kufuula pazithunzi. Mudzaphunzira kulankhula pokhapokha ngati zili zomveka, ndipo simungathe kuchitapo kanthu mopanda nzeru. Ndipo izi sizikutanthauza kuti iwe udzakhala munthu wosasamala yemwe sasamala za maganizo ndi mavuto ena. Mwachidule, mudzaphunzira kuti musasinthe mavutowa nokha.