Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti pokomana ndi munthu, timayamba kuganizira za iye, pang'onopang'ono timagwirizana naye. Koma mungamuike bwanji nokha? Funso limeneli limakhuza amayi ambiri. Kuti mum'konzekerere, tsatirani malamulo atatuwa: mvetserani, modzichepetsa komanso muthandizidwe!
Monga mkazi, mwamuna amakonda makutu
Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti mawu akuti "amakonda makutu" amatanthauza kugonana kokha, koma palibe mtundu uliwonse, amuna amakhulupirira kwambiri kuposa akazi. Inde, kutamandidwa kwa amayi kuyenera kukhala kolondola. Mwachitsanzo, munthu amakuuzani zina mwa zomwe "zazikulu" zomwe adazichita, ndipo inu, kumvetsera mwachidwi, muuzeni momwe alili wabwino, kapena muuzeni "Palibe zodabwitsa kuti ndinu anzeru!" Ndiyenela kuyamika, ndipo idzawala ngati babu. Amuna amavomereza pafupifupi kulimbikitsa kulikonse pafupi ndi mtima wawo, chifukwa kuli paliponse kufunafuna kutsimikiziridwa kwawo kokwanira ndi mphamvu zawo.
Mayi ayenera kumvetsera mwamuna
Mwachirengedwe, akazi oterewa otchedwa boltushki, omwe nthawi zambiri samalola kuti amaika mawu kwa othandizira awo. Ziyenera kukumbukiridwa nthawi zonse kuti mwamuna akufuna kuima, mwachitsanzo, kumuuza mayi za kupambana kwake, ndipo mwina akudandaula za kugonjetsedwa kosalungama. Ndipo makamaka pamisonkhano yoyamba, kukonzekera munthu yekha, sikulimbikitsidwa kuti azilamulira pazokambirana, khalani ochenjera kwambiri - mulole iye alankhule, pofunsa mafunso otsogolera. Mvetserani kwa mnzanu watsopano mosamala, komanso yesetsani kupereka zoperewera ngati akufuna, kusonyeza chidwi chachikulu pa moyo wake.
Choyamba, mwa njira iyi munthu mwa inu adzapeza interlocutor yabwino, ndipo izi ndi zofunika kwambiri kuti mum'patse iye, chifukwa kutali komweko mkazi aliyense akhoza kutchuka chifukwa chakuti amatha kumvetsera. Chachiwiri, mfundo iyi ikhoza kukhala m'manja mwanu, popeza mumaphunzira zambiri za izo, mukhoza kupanga chithunzi cha umunthu wake. Chinthu chachikulu, musaiwale kuti muyang'ane nthawi ino pa zovuta zosiyanasiyana muzokambirana ndi khalidwe lake, chifukwa zinthu zing'onozing'ono zingathenso kudziwa zambiri zokhudza zinthu.
Mwamunayu akungokayikira chirichonse
Zakhala zikuchitika nthawi yaitali chifukwa chakuti kugonana kolimba kumatchedwa kuti oimira ake ayenera kukhala opirira. Si chinsinsi chakuti munthu safuna kuti ofooka adziwonekere yekha kapena kwa anthu ena, ndipo popeza kuti ali ndi udindo waukulu, nthawi zambiri amadzikayikira pazochita zake zonse. Chifukwa cha ichi, oimira amuna ambiri ali okhwima, mwachitsanzo, amapeza zoperewera zomwe zilipo, mozama "akuvutitsa" za izi. Ngati mkazi akufuna kupeza munthu wokondweretsa, ndiye ntchito yake ndiyokulimbikitsani.
Munthu aliyense amatha kuchita zinthu zambiri pamaluso ake, koma ngati atapeza mkazi yemwe angamuthandize bwino pamoyo wake, kondwerani ngakhale m'zochepa zake zopambana, kuti asalole kuti zitsulo zigwe. Mwamuna samakhala "wamkulu" yekha, ndi zomwe mkazi amachita. Ngakhale ngati mulibe superman, ndipo ngakhale ndi ntchito, muli ndi mwayi, koma ngati munthu akudzidalira yekha, ndiye kuti padzakhala mphamvu zothana ndi mapiri atsopano, ndipo mkaziyo adzadziwa kuti ndizofunikira. Ili ndilo chitsanzo chotsanzira ndikukwaniritsa zofuna za mbali zonsezi.
Kukonzekera kuti mwamuna akhale mkazi nthawi zonse ayenera kukhala "nkhandwe." Sizingatheke kusonyeza ukulu wa munthu pa mwamuna, ngakhale ziri m'njira zina. Pambuyo pake, munthu nthawi zonse amafuna kuoneka wamphamvu kwambiri - wotetezera mkazi ndi chithandizo.