Luso loyamika

Mawu ali ndi mphamvu yaikulu pa ife. M'kupita kwanthawi mawuwo angasinthe kwambiri: moyo waumwini, ntchito, malingaliro pa zochitika zina. Zotamanda ndizojambula bwino, njira yodzitetezera nokha ndi anthu ena. Zikuwoneka kuti ndi zophweka kunena kwa munthu: "Kodi ukuwoneka bwino lero" kapena "kodi umagwira bwino ntchitoyi yovuta"? Koma zimakhala kuti ambiri a ife timakhala ndi mantha oopsa tisanayamikire wina.
Chilichonse chomwe chinali, kuthekera kwa nthawi yoyenera kutamandidwa moyenerera ndi luso lofunikira kapena ngati mukufuna luso, ngati mukufuna kupeza zotsatira zabwino pa mtengo wochepa.
Tiye tikambirane za zomwe zimatilepheretsa kuyankhulana, momwe tingagonjetse mantha, momwe tingapangire zolakwika komanso momwe tingagwiritsire ntchito nzeru zachikhalidwe "Mawu okondeka ndi mphaka wabwino" pazinthu zaumwini.

PHUNZIRO 1. Filosofi yamatamando.

Kutamanda interlocutor ndi luso wakale. Inde, ndi luso. Kum'maŵa ndizosatheka kulingalira kulankhulana pakati pa abwenzi, anzako, achibale ndi anthu odziwa bwino chabe popanda mawu okongola komanso okometsetsa. Mbiri ya anthu ambiri amatiuza kuti kuthekera koyamika amayi, abambo, mafumu nthawi zambiri amathetsa tsogolo la anthu ochepa chabe, komanso maiko onse.
Cholinga cha kuyamika chingakhale chirichonse: chilakolako chodzutsa chifundo, kulimbitsa mbiri, kusintha khalidwe la anthu, kuthandizira mkhalidwewo komanso kunyengerera.

Kumbukirani mmene mumamvera pamene munthu wina adazindikira ndikukulemekezani. Kumbukirani momwe maganizo anu kwa munthu adasinthira, malingana ndi zinthu zabwino zomwe adanena. Kodi nthawizonse mwakhala cholinga? Ndithudi ayi. Kawirikawiri timasintha maganizo athu kwa anthu, omwe, ngakhale osakhala ndi chidaliro, koma zomwe ziri zosangalatsa kumvetsera! Amatiuza za kukongola kwathu, malingaliro athu, luso lathu lodzimva mozama komanso mopanda nzeru, za makhalidwe ena apadera, zapadera za malingaliro athu.

Khala munthu yemwe mosavuta amawononga mawu, mungathe. Dziwani kuti kuthokoza kwanu kumakhala kovomerezeka nthawi zonse. Choncho, mukhoza kusamalira maganizo a wina aliyense nthawi iliyonse. Izi zikhoza kukhala guru loyankhulana, ndipo mukhoza kuyamikila anthu.

Phunziro. 2. Chidziwitso chowawa.

Ambiri aife tinayesa kuti tiyamike. Nchifukwa chiani pakanakhala palibe vuto? Nchifukwa chiyani mawu athu okoma sanafikire kumalo osungira malowa? Nchifukwa chiyani ife tinkachita manyazi kwambiri chifukwa cha mawu athu? Nchifukwa chiyani tinasokonezeka? Ngati mayamiko nthawi zonse amatsagana ndi maganizo oipa, anthu nthawi zambiri amasiya kunena zinthu zokondana wina ndi mzake. Koma, ngati akadakali anthu omwe amadziwa bwino kuti munthu ali ndi chidaliro, awalimbikitse ndikukonzekera zowonongeka zatsopano ndi mawu amphindi, ndiye kuti vuto silili pamatamanda okha, koma palinso china.

Kuyesera kopambana.
Kuopa kuuza munthu kuti "sutiyi ndi kwa iwe" nthawi zambiri kumayesedwa pamayesero omwe sanagonjetsepo. Mwina, mudakali aang'ono, munauza atsikanawo kangapo kuti ali ndi tsitsi lokongola kapena maso, koma sadalandire chiyamiko choyembekezeka. Mwina zoyesayesa zanu zokambirana za zoyenera za munthuyo zinayambitsa kusayanjanitsika. Mwinamwake anzanga sakuchita momwe inu mumawayamikirira iwo pa kupambana kwawo.
Choyamba, mochititsa chidwi, anthu ambiri sakudziwa momwe angavomerezere. Wina amakonda kusayesa kuti sanamve, wina akutsutsa kwambiri.
Ngati mupatsa anthu mwayi wokangana ndi mawu anu, iwo adzachita. Ngati kutamandidwa kwanu kumveka mosakayika, anthu angasankhe kuti asachitepo kanthu kapena ayi.

Kwa nthawi yoyamba.
Kuchita chinthu kwa nthawi yoyamba kumakhala kowopsya. Tikuopa zosazindikirika, timapereka mwachindunji chochitika chapadera kwambiri ndikuchiyang'ana mozama.
Kuopa kuuza munthu wina kuyamika kumachitika chifukwa cha kusatetezeka komanso mantha olephera kupeza mphoto yabwino. Anthu ambiri amafuna kumva samayankha "zikomo", koma mndandanda wa zofunikira zawo.
Kuchita chinthu kwa nthawi yoyamba sikuyenera kuganizira mozama pazochitikazi. Kodi mukufuna kubisala kusowa kwake? Chitani chiyamiko chanu choyamba monga moni wamba.

Pali malamulo ena osavuta omwe angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi mantha ndi manyazi pamaso pa kuyamika.
1) Poyamika, tauzani munthu amene akuyima patsogolo panu. Musayese kukonzanso pamaso pa iwo omwe kale kale sanayamikire zoyesayesa zanu.
2) Kuyamika sikumakulepheretsani inu ku chirichonse. Kuyamikira kwa msungwana sikunaperekedwe kwa dzanja ndi mtima, mwamuna safuna kulowetsa ubale wapamtima, ichi si chidziwitso cha chikondi.
3) Kuthokoza sikuyenera kuvomereza kugonjetsedwa. Mukamanena zabwino kwa wina, sizikutanthauza kuti ndinu woipitsitsa.
4) Poyamika, musamapange mauthenga aatali ndi zozama.
5) Kuthokoza kumapangitsa kuti anthu ena azisangalala, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti izi siziyenera kuchititsa manyazi kapena manyazi.

PHUNZIRO 3. Mmene mungapewere zolakwa.

Palibe miyezo yovomerezeka kawirikawiri kapena ma templates omwe angakuthandizeni kupanga chiyamiko chonse, kuchita nthawi zonse. Koma pali zolakwitsa zina, zomwe simungakwanitse kuchita, mudzapindula mosavuta pantchito yolimbikira kukhala munthu wokondweretsa.

1) Musanyengereze.
Pali kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa kuyamikira ndi kukondweretsa, kusiyana uku kumamveka ndi anthu ambiri. Pitirizani kuchokera ku mfundo yakuti kunyengerera ndi kofanana ndi mabodza, ndipo mabodza enieni amachititsa kuti munthu asamveke mtima kwambiri. Zotamanda zingapangitse choonadi, koma palibe chomwe chiyenera kutsutsana.
Awuzeni mwamuna wamtendere kuyamikila kuti amatha kusamalira tsitsi ndi zopusa ngati kuyesera kuyerekeza mkazi ndi chiwonekedwe chodziwika bwino chokhala ndi ballerina. Ngati mumanyalanyaza lamulo ili, pali ngozi yayikulu yotchulidwa kuti ndi yosakaniza yemwe sangadalirenso.
2) Dziwani momveka bwino.
Kuyamikila kuyenera kulongosoledwa. Kunena kuti "akazi onse ndi okongola" ndizolakwika. "Ndiwe wokongola" ndi chisankho cholondola. Sikoyenera kuti mukhale ndi mphamvu, koma ndizofunikira kulongosola malingaliro anu, izi zimapangitsa kuti muzikhulupirira kwambiri mau anu, makamaka pakati pa anthu osakhulupirika.
3) Khalani owona mtima.
Amangonena mawu osangalatsa kwa munthu amene mumamumvera chisoni. Koma m'moyo muli zosiyana, pamene mukuyenera kunena zothokoza osati kwa omwe mumakonda. Pachifukwa ichi, ndizofunika kudziwa mfundo yosatsutsika - suti yabwino, kulankhula kokondweretsa, chakudya chamadzulo.
Khalani aulemu, lotseguka ndi kunena zomwe mukuwona, zidzakuthandizani kuika wina kumbali yanu.
4) Lembani mwachidule.
Chiyamiko chabwino ndi chachidule. Iyi si mawu ovomerezeka kapena otukwana. Kuthokozedwa kungakhale ndi mawu angapo ochepa, osakhalanso. Pali chiopsezo chachikulu kuti popanda chidziwitso choyenera komanso popanda luso lina, mudzangosokonezeka ndi mapeto a mawu ndikudziwonetsera nokha mwa kuwala kosasangalatsa.
5) Kukumba zakuya.
Ngati mukuganiza kuti ndinu wabwino kwa anthu kapena mumadziwa munthu yemwe angakonde kuyamika, lankhulani za zinthu zina kuposa pamwamba. Powona kugula kwatsopano, tchulani luso losankha zinthu mwachidwi, talente kuti muwoneke bwino pamtundu uliwonse kapena kuti mukhale wokonzeka ngakhale mulibe chiyembekezo. Kambiranani za ubwino umene umapezeka chifukwa chovala kavalidwe kapena galimoto.
6) Gwiritsani ntchito kusiyana.
Kuti musakayikiridwe kuti muli osayera, nenani zothokoza kwa wina kusiyana ndi nokha. Nenani kuti simunathe kusunga mapepala, monga momwe mnzanu akuchitira. Kapena, kuti ndi kovuta kwambiri kuti mulembe kulankhula kusiyana ndi kusambira mtsinje mosiyana ndi mnzanu.
Pewani kufananitsa kwakukulu, kuyankhula za zinthu zosavuta komanso zoonekeratu, popanda kunyoza ulemu. Kuyamika kwa munthu wodzidalira, kudziŵa zolephera zawo ndi kukondwerera ulemu wa anthu ena, kumayamikiridwa kwambiri.
7) Yankhulani zomwe mukufuna kumva kuchokera kwa inu. Anthu akachita zochitika zilizonse, amayembekezera kuti ena aziwayamikira. Apatseni mwayi kuti azisangalala okha.
8) Musakhale othamanga. Palibe choyipa kuposa munthu yemwe akuvutitsa ena ndi mayamiko osamveka kapena matamando omwe amatanthauza yankho. Ndipo palibe chabwino kuposa munthu yemwe akutha kuyenda ndikumwetulira uthenga wabwino kwa aliyense amene akumzungulira. Sikoyenera kumukakamiza munthu kumalo ake ndi kutulutsa mndandanda wazinthu zomwe amamulemekeza, mumayambitsa mavuto. Mwina muzichita izo mophweka, kapena musamachite izo nkomwe.
9) Musaiwale za inu nokha. Olemekezeka ena ndipo musadzitamande nokha ndizovulaza. Izi zidzapangitsa kuti munthu akhale ndi mphamvu yodzichepetsa. Kuuza ena za ubwino wawo, usaiwale zawe. Muli ndi ziyeneretso zambiri, zomwe ena amangolakalaka, dzikumbutseni za tsiku ndi tsiku. Dzitamandeni nokha pa kupindula kulikonse, pa gawo lililonse lofunika. Izi zidzakuthandizani kukhala ofanana ngakhale ndi munthu wopambana kwambiri.
10) Phunzitsani tsiku ndi tsiku! Maliko mwa munthu aliyense amene mumachepetsedwa ndi moyo, chabwino. Zindikirani chinachake chatsopano kwa anzanu akale. Fufuzani nthawi zabwino muzonse. Kotero inu simudzasowa chifukwa choyamikirira, ndipo dziko lidzakuwoneka bwino kwambiri.

PHUNZIRO 4. Sankhani chinthucho.

Tsopano, pamene tidziwa, ngati si onse, ndiye zambiri zokhudzana ndi kuyamikiridwa, zimakhalabe kusankha anthu omwe muwachitire. Ndi ndani yemwe angakhale? Okonda okha? Chofunika chokha? Kapena wina?
Ndiyankha mwachidule: aliyense wakuzungulira. Kuthokozedwa kwa achibale ndi okondedwa kudzalola kukhalabe ndi ubale weniweni komanso wachikondi. Kutamandidwa kwa anzanu kumathandiza kulimbikitsa ubwenzi. Kuthokoza kwa anzako kumapangitsa kuti phokoso liziyenda bwino - mudzapeza omuthandizira kumene simukuyembekezera kuyamikiridwa. Kuthokozedwa kwa akuluakulu, ngati inu mukutanthauza golide, amatanthauzira inu ngati munthu wotseguka ndi wanzeru amene AMADZIWA. Kodi mumamvetsa?
Musati muwerenge zotsatira za kuyamika kwanu ponena za phindu. Sitingadziwe momwe moyo wathu udzasinthire mphindi wotsatira. Mwina mungakumbukire msungwana wosadziwika amene mumamuuza zabwino pamsewu, kapena mwamuna amene mumamutamanda chifukwa cha chidwi cha mayi wina, ziribe kanthu. Mwina, angakuthandizeni kupereka pepala lofunikira kapena kusankha chinachake pamsonkhano wotsatira mwayi. Posakhalitsa zabwino zidzabwera kwa inu.
Musati mukhale ndi zolinga kuti mukwaniritse zopindulitsa, ngakhale ngati cholinga chiri kumwetulira kwa munthu yemwe munamulemba ndi mawu. Ndicholinga chomwe chimapindulitsa kwambiri.