Nthawi zonse kupatukana kumakhala zosautsa komanso zovuta, aliyense amene anayambitsa kupuma. Zimakhala zopweteka kwambiri ngati mutasiya munthu yemwe ali ndi mbali yofunikira pamoyo wanu, zomwe mumazimverera kwambiri, komanso mwinamwake chikondi. Lero tikambirana za chifukwa chake ubalewo umatha, komanso momwe ungapulumutsidwe.
Anthu awiri omwe ali pachibwenzi kapena muukwati ayenera kukhala ofanana ndi wina ndi mzake kapena kuthandizana wina ndi mnzake - onse m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Ngati izo zikanakhala, koma potsiriza zidatha, mgwirizano ukhoza kuopsezedwa ndi kupasuka. Mwachitsanzo, oyambirirawo anali ndi mfundo zochezerana komanso zogwirizana, ndipo imodzi mwa iwo inasintha kwambiri. Ndipo onse, nthawi zina wachiwiri sangavomereze kusintha kumeneku, mgwirizano wapita, ubale ukugwa. Izi zikhoza kukhala chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe zimayambitsa ubale wosokonekera komanso kusiyana kotheka. Koma n'zovuta kusintha chirichonse pano, chifukwa munthu sangathe kulamulira momwe khalidwe lake limasinthira, malingaliro ake pa moyo, akukonzekera tsogolo, chilengedwe chake, zofuna zake, zokonda ndi zina zotero.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti maubwenzi amatsutsana ndi achibale omwe amakwera m'moyo wa banja, kutsutsana nthawi zonse ndi kukangana pa moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, malingaliro osiyana pa kulera ana, chiwonongeko, kulemekeza wokondedwa ndi maganizo ake, ndi zina zotero. Mu ubale muyenera kukhala woleza mtima, wanzeru, kumvetsera. Pambuyo pake, kukangana ndi zonse, koma zotsatira za mkangano zikhoza kukhala zosiyana, zonse zimadalira pazikhakha.
Zimakhala kuti mnzanuyo amatha mwadzidzidzi. Ndipo simungathe ngakhale kumvetsa zomwe zinachitika, chifukwa chake munthuyo wasankha kuswa. Ndipotu, mwadzidzidzi ubalewu sutha kutha, kumverera mwadzidzidzi sikudutsa. Mwachidule, mwachiwonekere, kunali kumwa kwa nthawi yaitali, mwinamwake, panali zizindikiro za mavuto omwe akuyandikira, mwinamwake kuzirala kwa mnzanuyo ndi zina zotero. Koma kawirikawiri anthu mosamvetsetsa safuna kuwona "mabelu" awa, samafuna kuganizira za zoipa. Anthu awa akhoza kutengeka ndi mantha a kusintha mu ubale kapena mantha a kusungulumwa. Iwo amatseka maso awo, ndipo izi zimawabweretsera iwo chinyengo chamtendere cha bata ndi bata.
Izi zimachitika kuti anthu adakondana, koma pamapeto pake adadutsa ndipo malo ake adatengedwa ndi chizolowezi. Chifukwa cha zochitika zosiyanasiyana, anthu adasiya kukondana ndipo adaganiza zopatukana. Eya, ngati onse awiriwa akuzindikira kusiyana kwake, nthawi zambiri amalankhulana. Ndiye omwe poyamba amagwirizana nawo amamvetsa kuti moyo umapitirira, musiyeni wina ndi mzake ndipo ngakhale nthawizina akhale mabwenzi.Ziri zoipitsitsa pamene wina akonda, ndipo wachiwiri amachokera ku chikondi. Pankhaniyi, kusokonezeka kwa maubwenzi kumabweretsa mavuto aakulu, kukhumudwa, kupsinjika maganizo komanso kuwonongeka kwa makhalidwe. Apa chinthu chachikulu ndikuchita bwino, osati kuthamangira mopitirira muyeso, musamamwe ndi mowa. Simukuyenera kubwezera, kubwezera ndi chiwonetsero cha kudzikonda, kusatetezeka ndi kufooka. Kodi ndi kubwezera kotani, ngati munthu wangotuluka m'chikondi? Kotero, osati cholinga. Ndipo ngati munthu akuperekedwa kapena kugwiritsidwa ntchito pazinthu zake, ndiye kuti palibe chifukwa chobwezera mwina - chifukwa chiyani kuyika manja pa munthu wosayenera, kumumvetsera. Muyenera kupeza mphamvu yakukhululukira ndikusiya.
Zifukwa zolekanitsa zingakhale zosiyana kwambiri - kutaya mtima, chidwi, ulemu, zolinga zofanana, ndi zina zotero. Inde, kupatukana sikophweka. Kawirikawiri anthu amayamba kudzifufuza okha, amadzudzula okha chifukwa cha chinachake kapena wokondedwa wawo, amaganiza kuti akhoza kusintha kwambiri, aganizire za "zomwe zingachitike ngati ...". Kuti mupulumuke nthawi yosasangalatsa ya moyo, muyenera kuwotcha, kukhululukira munthu, kulola, kuvomereza mkhalidwe, komanso kupeza zina. Koma chokhacho chiyenera kukhala cholimbikitsa ndi cholondola. Musaganize kuti chikondi ndi ubale ndizoipa, ndipo anthu onse ndi olakwira. Izi zidzangowonjezera mkhalidwewo. Momwemo m'tsogolomu adzakhala munthu woyenera, "chimodzimodzi."
Pofuna kuti mutha kugawanika, dzipatseni nthawi kuti muchiritse bala, musamangogwedeza nthawi yomweyo. Koma simukufunika kupita patali - simukuyenera kudzipangira nokha.
Muyenera kulira, khululukirani zodandaula zanu ndikudzipangira nokha. Musadzitsutse nokha chifukwa chophwanya chiyanjano.
Ngati izi zidzathetsa moyo wanu, tulutsani nkhanza, kutaya kunja kapena kuwononga zithunzi zonse, mphatso ndi zinthu zomwe zimakumbutsa za poyamba, zomwe zimapweteka ndi kulakalaka.
Yesetsani kukhala ndi chinachake: kuchita masewera, kupeza zosangalatsa, kudzidzimutsa kuntchito. Musasiye nthawi yoganizira zapita, chifukwa chakumva chisoni ndi maganizo opsinjika maganizo.Dziyang'anire nokha, mwachitsanzo, kupita kwa wovala tsitsi, kugulitsa. Maganizo okhumudwitsa angathe kutuluka mothandizidwa ndi kuchita masewera - masewera, kuvina. Kupanga mphatso, kukumana ndi anzanu, kupita kumaphwando, kuchita zomwe zimakondweretsa iwe, kumabweretsa chisangalalo. Yesetsani kubweretsa chimwemwe ndi kuseka mu moyo wanu - yang'anani mafilimu, kuwerenga nkhani zozizwitsa, kupita kumagulu, mahoitchini, bowling, skating skating etc.
Mungathe kupanga chilengedwe, kukhala ndi chiweto, kupita kwinakwake kuti musinthe chilengedwe ndi chilengedwe - mwa mawu, kusangalala. Musakhale okhudzidwa ndi kale, moyo wake ndi iwo omwe akuchita naye zomwe, pangani ocheza nawo ndi osachepera. Ngati kuli kovuta kuti mupirire nokha, funsani katswiri wa zamaganizo - palibe cholakwika ndi icho. Katswiri adzakuthandizani kupulumuka kulekana.
Dzikondeni nokha, khalani odziimira ndi olimba. Pezani zomwe mwapeza, yesani zolakwikazo kuti mukhale ndi mgwirizano wogwirizana m'tsogolomu. Musati muzimasuka kwathunthu mwa munthu, musadzitaya nokha, umunthu wanu, musati mupereke chirichonse chifukwa cha mnzanuyo. Ngati ndi kotheka, yesetsani kusintha khalidwe labwino ndi amuna, chikhalidwe cha maubwenzi. Yesetsani kuti musayende pamalo omwewo.
Musaganize molakwika. Ponyani maganizo monga "Sindidzakumananso ndi ichi," "Sindidzakondanso," kapena "Palibe amene adzandikonda," ndi zina zotero. Sizinali choncho! Ndipo musasiye kukhulupirira anthu! Kupatukana si mapeto a dziko lapansi. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti mtsogolomu simudzakumana ndi munthu amene mumakondana naye, munthu amene mungamukhulupirire. Tsopano mumadziwa kuti pali kusiyana kotani, chifukwa chiyanjano chimatha komanso momwe mungapulumutsidwe. Ndikukondani komanso chimwemwe!