Ndani amati asungwana athu kuti ali oipa? Ndipo n'chifukwa chiyani makolo adzakhala oyamba kuwatsimikizira? Kodi zovuta za "bakha wonyansa" zimachokera kuti?
Chodabwitsa, atsikana amayamba liti kuti adzikonda okha ndipo ali kuti. Posachedwapa, bwenzi linafotokozera vumbulutso la mwana wake wamkazi wazaka zisanu ndi chimodzi: "Amayi, Masha adanena kuti ndine woipa, choncho sangakhale bwenzi langa. Koma sindinakhumudwe. Ndinakhala pansi ndikukongola unicorn woyera ndikumupatsa. Iye ankakonda chithunzi changa. " Ndibwino kuti pali atsikana ngati mwana wamkazi wa bwenzi langa. Ndizosangalatsa bwanji kuti amayi ali ngati chibwenzi changa! Mawu achifundo angathe kunena aliyense. Simungathe kuteteza aliyense. Mungateteze ku mawu. Motani? Kuti mupeze chimwemwe kwa mwana wanu.
Ndipo tifunikira kudzimva kukhala osatha, moyenera, kuyambira: kuyambira tsiku, kukuitana kwanu, kufuna kwanu ku sukulu, ntchito iliyonse yothandizira komanso kutsutsa ayenera kukhala ndi chimwemwe cha mwana wanu. Maganizo amenewa ali ngati katemera odzidalira. Atsikana omwe anawafotokozera sadzadziimira okha ngati nkhono zoipa, koma monga zolengedwa zokongola, opulumutsa anthu onse ochimwa!
Nthawi yofunika
Pakadutsa zaka ziwiri kapena zitatu, msungwana wamng'ono akhoza kunyada kapena manyazi chifukwa cha thupi lake. Amaphunzira, "zowonjezera", ngakhale amapeza kukondwa kuchokera ku mphamvu zake.
Kawirikawiri, ubwana woyambirira ndi nthawi yachisokonezo kwa mwana. Ndi pamene "I" wa mtsikanayo akuwonetseredwa, akukumana ndi zovuta za Mgetsi (mwanayo amayamba kuchitira nkhanza bambo ake, amamukonda, akuyesera kum'teteza mwanjira iliyonse kuchokera ku chikondi cha amayi ake). Zonsezi zimakhudza kwambiri munthu wamng'ono, makamaka momveka bwino kuti ali ndi zibwenzi zogonana. Udindo wa abambo pakupanga ubwana ndi wofunika kwambiri. Ntchito yake ndi kumupatsa mwana wake chidaliro mu mphamvu yake yachikazi. Ndipo safuna kuti akhale wangwiro kapena wodabwitsa (iye ali pamaso pake). Ndikokwanira kuti amangomvera chisoni. Yegovischischenie (kumvetsa kwathunthu kwa chisangalalo kwa iye) kumathandizira kunyada kwake ndi kudzidalira kwake.
Mayi ayenera kuchita chimodzimodzi. Pa zochitika za Elektra zovuta, akazi akulu ndi aang'ono sayenera kuchepetsa kuthetsa mikangano. Ndipo, mwatsoka, padzakhala ambiri a iwo, komanso mobwerezabwereza kuposa, mwa kuphwanya kochepa. Koma sakufuna kukhumudwa. Choyamba ganizirani nokha pa malo ake: pokhala mtsikana wa zaka zitatu, ndi zopweteka kuti mutenge nawo mbali yofunika kwambiri yopanga mapepala, nsanje kwa papa komanso panthawi yomweyo ndikudzimva kuti ndinu wolakwa pamaso pa mayi! .. Onse awiri ndi amayi ayenera kukhala omasuka komanso omvetsera mwatcheru, omasuka kulankhula ndi okonzeka kulimbikitsidwa ndi kuvomerezedwa . Ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo, pitirizani kukhala odzidalira komanso osapatuka pazomwe mukuchita (mwachitsanzo, mwamuna-abambo). Kotero inu mudzagonjetsa gawo lovuta.
Kupanda kutero - kubwezeretsanso, kubwereranso kwa amayi anga ndi kukhazikitsidwa kwa makhalidwe ngati kudzipatulira ndikutsatira, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti atsikana a zaka zitatu omwe ali ndi zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi, omwe ali ndi zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi.
Adzidziyesa bwanji?
Kudzidalira kwa atsikana amakono kumapangidwira kale m'kalasi yoyamba, koma nthawi zambiri sichitha.
Kudzidalira kumatsimikiziridwa kuti mupereke chisokonezo pakati ndi m'kalasi yakale kwambiri. Poyamba, atsikana samangoganizira zolakwika zomwe anthu akulu amakumana nazo. Amatha kukhala ngati mnyamata, osasamala za maonekedwe awo.
Komabe, pofika zaka khumi ndi ziwiri (10-12), iwo amasiya chidaliro chimenechi ndikubisala kumbuyo kwawo. Atsikana amamvetsera momwe amachitira ndi ena, amawoneka ofooka komanso ochepa kapena, ali ndi thupi lolimba.
Ndipo izi ndizochitika nthawi zambiri ndipo zimakhala zovuta kuchita, chifukwa kuyambira zaka 8-9, kuyamba kumatenga nthawi yaitali msinkhu. Iyamba, monga lamulo, ndi kulumpha kwakukulu mu kukula. Ndipo izi zimachitika molakwika: choyambirira - mafupa a manja ndi mapazi, nkhope, ndipo, komaliza, thunthu - kuwonjezeka. Choncho, msungwanayo nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi ziwalo zamkati, nkhope yotambasula. Kuwonjezera apo, kukula kwa minofu kumathamangira kuwonjezeka kwa mafupa, ndipo izi ndi zomwe zimayambitsa kusagwirizana kwa kayendetsedwe ka zinthu, zovuta, zovuta. Vuto lina: amene sakula, kulemera.
Zozizira zosautsa zimagwira ntchito mwakhama, kusintha kwa thupi, khungu ndi tsitsi zimakhala zonenepa. Zonsezi zimapangitsa mtsikana kukhala ndi maganizo ambiri. Amayamba kudzibwezeretsa kuti avomereze. Ndipo pakuchita izi nthawi zonse amamva zosowa ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo mantha a kuwunika anzako. Ndiyeno pali makolo omwe ali panthawiyi "akukonzekera zam'tsogolo." Pa tsogolo lake. Akusowa zotsatira zabwino, zopindulitsa mu maphunziro, okhudzana ndi mtsikanayo ndi cholinga chochikwaniritsa. Koma sakufuna kukhazikitsa zolinga. Amafuna diresi yomwe imamupangitsa kukhala wokongola.
Panthawi ino, muyenera kukhala maso kwambiri. Kumuthandiza mtsikanayo kuti ndi wabwino, amupatse zovala zatsopano ndikuphunzira zofunikira za unamwino ndi maonekedwe ake. Ndipo atapeza zonsezi, pang'onopang'ono amuuzeni kuti ndi nthawi yopitilira. Inu mukhoza kudzilemekeza nokha osati maso okongola. Zonse zomwe zingakuthandizeni kudzipangitsa kudzidalira ndizo chidwi ndi chilakolako cha ntchito iliyonse koma tiyeni tigwirizane: choyamba chovala, ndiye cholinga! Kudalira kwakukulu mwa iyemwini kudzaperekedwa ndi bizinesi yomwe akupeza. Masewera, masewera olimbitsa thupi, machitidwe a nyimbo, kuyesa kudzidalira kwa mkazi wamtsogolo.
Komanso, chinthu chochititsa chidwi chimakulolani kupanga bwalo, kusonkhana mozungulira anthu, kuyankhulana komwe kumapereka mankhwala. Inde, mawu ofunika apa sikuti akukwaniritsa cholinga, koma chisangalalo Kumbukirani: kavalidwe ndi zosangalatsa zimapangitsa mtsikana kukhala wokongola.
Njira zovomerezera nokha
M'malo mwake, kukhala ndi chikhumbo chogonjetsa mavuto ndi ndalama. Izi ndizofunika kwambiri zomwe makolo ayenera kuphunzitsa mwa makolo awo. Mawu oti "Ndikhoza kuchita" amathandiza mwanayo molondola kumasulira zolephera ndikukhala ndi luso.
"Lowani m'thupi"
Pafupifupi akatswiri oganiza zamaganizo amaitana kumenyana ndi makompyuta pogwiritsa ntchito kusintha maonekedwe awo. Inde, mungalole msungwanayo kuti athetse zipikazo ndikuzisintha ku "chigoba chokongoletsera", kusintha kwambiri zovala, koma konzekerani kuti asakhutire kwa nthawi yayitali. Asanayambe kukwera kwa mpikisano.
Ndikofunika kuphunzira momwe mungasonyezere malingaliro, ngati msungwanayo alibe, amapeza zinthu zonse mkati mwake. Pankhaniyi, amafunika kuthandizidwa komanso kumvetsera. Zochitazo zidzamupangitsa kuti zikhale zosavuta kuti apirire mavuto ovuta.
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