Kodi mungapulumutse bwanji kugwa kwa banja? Mmene mungapezere mphamvu kuti mupitirize kupatsa mwana chikondi ndi chikondi, ngakhale kuponderezana ndi zomwe anakumana nazo? Ndi momwe mungayankhire funso lofunika kwambiri, limene mwamsanga mudzamva kuchokera kwa mwana wanu mayi wosungulumwa: ali kuti bambo anga?
Zilibe chifukwa chake kugwa kwa banja, kwa mwanayo nkhaniyi idzakhala yovuta nthawi zonse. Choncho, amai ambiri amasankha yankho losavuta kwambiri kwa ana awo, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimakhala zabodza. Kotero, iwo mosamala amayesetsa kuwawateteza iwo ku zatsopano. Koma kodi kusankha koteroko kulidi kolondola? Pambuyo pake, mwanayo adzayenera kuthana ndi choonadi, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti kukhumudwa kwa maganizo sikungapewe pakadali pano. Ndiye, kodi wina angamufotokozere bwanji mwana wake wokondedwa chifukwa chake alibe bambo, popanda kuwonjezera vutoli?
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amalangiza kuti afotokoze nkhaniyi ndi udindo wonse. Mudzayenera kuphunzira moleza mtima kwa nthawi yaitali ndi moleza mtima chifukwa palibe papa. Musakhale ndi ziyembekezo kuti mwanayo adzatenga banja losakwanira - m'kanyumba kapenanso pabwalo adzakumana ndi ana tsiku ndi tsiku, osati amayi okha, koma ndi amalume, ndikudabwa kuti alibe abambo ake. Konzekerani mafunso ngati amenewa, ndipo choyamba - musachedwe ndi yankho. Sikofunika kuti tipewe kukambirana - ndi izi mudzangokhalira kuyang'anitsitsa vutoli ndikupangitsa kuti mukhale ndi maganizo ambiri pa nkhaniyi. Koma musamangowonongetsa mwanayo zonse zenizeni, molemetsa ngati momwe zilili. Choyamba, yesetsani kufotokoza kuti "nthawi zina zimachitika" ndipo "si mabanja onse omwe ali ndi abambo." Musaiwale kuti kugwirizana pakati pa mayi ndi mwana ndi kolimba kwambiri, choncho musamangokhalira kukhumudwa mukamayankhula ndi mwanayo pamitu imeneyi. Ngakhale kuti bambo ake akhoza kukupweteketsani kwambiri ndikupusitsani, kumbukirani kuti mwanayo sakusowa kudziwa zambiri zokhudza nkhaniyi, ndipo ali ndi chidwi chosiyana ndi panthawiyi.
Pambuyo pa kukambirana koyambirira, mwanayo azikhala chete kwa kanthawi ndipo adzakhutira ndi yankho limene analandira. Koma ali ndi zaka zisanu ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri mphambu zisanu ndi ziwiri adzayesa kubwerera ku mafunso awa, ndipo yankho lanu lapitayi silidzamutsatiranso, monga momwemo. Akufuna kudziwa chifukwa chake papa adachoka kumene ali tsopano ndipo zokambiranazo zidzafotokozedwa bwino. Pano muyenera kumamatira chithunzi chosalowerera cha bambo - ili ndi lamulo lalikulu lomwe muyenera kutsatira. Mwachitsanzo, molongosola momveka bwino ndikumuuza mwanayo kuti zinachitika kuti papa ayenera kupita kumzinda wina. Pewani kufotokoza maganizo anu omveka pa zomwe zinachitika! Musanene kuti bambo anga anachita chinachake choipa - ndiuzeni kuti ayenera kungochita. Potsata mfundo za choonadi, yesetsani kunena zinthu zomwe zingamuvulaze mwanayo. Ndikofunika kuti mutatha kulankhulana ndi iye, palibe chifukwa choti maganizo akuti papa anasiya banja, ali ndi mlandu.
Komabe, musayambe nkhani zamatsenga. Yesetsani kunena zonse monga momwe zilili, m'mawu osavuta komanso ophweka ngati momwe mungathere, kukhala chete pompano zomwe zingamuvulaze. Patapita nthawi iye adzakulira ndipo adzakhala wokonzeka kulandira chidziwitso chatsopano, mozindikira komanso mopweteka kwambiri. Adzakhalabe wosowa kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake mumamunamizira, ndipo simudzadzimva kuti ndinu wolakwa chifukwa mwakhalabe wokhulupirika kwa iye.
Koma nkofunika kukumbukira kuti ziribe kanthu kuti ndinu mayi wabwino bwanji, mwanayo nthawi zonse amafunikira dzanja la munthu wamphamvu, ndipo popanda mwamuna m'banja sangathe kuchita. Muloleni munthu uyu akhale bwenzi la banja lake, mbale wanu, mwana wake, ndiyeno kusowa kwa makolo kumamudetsa nkhawa pang'ono. Ndikofunika kwambiri kuganizira nthawi ino mu maphunziro a anyamata.
Momwe mungayankhire kwa mwanayo, bwanji palibe bambo? Kulera mwana yekha ndikovuta kwambiri. Choncho, ngati mutatenga gawo lofunika komanso loyenera, kumbukirani kuti ndinu mkazi wamphamvu. Mukhale oyenera kuthana ndi mavuto ambiri, dziwani kuti mumatha kupirira nawo. Kupanga zolakwa zirizonse, musadzisokoneze nokha, chifukwa palibe yemwe ali wangwiro. Musaope kuchita monga momwe mtima umakuuzani, chifukwa palibe wabwino kuposa momwe simungapezere njira yopatsira mwana wanu chilichonse. Titha kungofuna kuleza mtima ndi mwayi pa ntchitoyi.