Muli ndi mwana yemwe akukula, ndipo pamakhala mphindi pamene pali mafunso: momwe mungalerere mwana wamkazi, momwe mungasokonezere bwino chitukuko chake cha kugonana ndi zakuthupi, pa msinkhu womwe muyenera kuyamba maphunziro a kugonana. Maphunziro a chiwerewere a atsikana ayenera kuyamba kuyambira ali aang'ono. Thanzi la mwanayo liyenera kuganiziridwa kuyambira pomwe mukuyamba kukonzekera.
Zambiri zimakhudza thanzi la mwanayo. Zimatengera thanzi la makolo, kuyambira pamene mayi ali ndi mimba. Ndiponso kuchokera ku zizindikiro za cholowa. Mchitidwe wosavomerezeka wa mimba (zizoloŵezi zoipa, matenda osiyanasiyana opatsirana), makamaka m'zaka zitatu zoyambirira za mimba, zingakhudze thanzi la mwanayo. Kawirikawiri nthawi imeneyi imakhala ndi matenda osiyanasiyana a mwanayo. Izi zikhoza kukhala matenda a umuna, zomwe zingachitike muunyamata kapena msinkhu.
Pa nthawi yomwe atsikana amayamba maphunziro a kugonana.
Amayi ambiri amakhulupirira kuti phunziro la kugonana liyenera kuyamba ndi kuyamba msinkhu. Koma lingaliro ili si lolondola, chifukwa chiwerewere chimagwirizana kwambiri ndi dongosolo lonse la maphunziro auzimu. Ziyenera kuyamba ndi kubadwa kwa mwana. Maphunziro ayenera kuchitika poganizira zizindikiro zina - kuganizira makhalidwe a mwanayo, poganizira zochitika zakale. Koma pali magawo ambiri omwe makolo ayenera kudziwa. Pa gawo loyamba la maphunziro a kugonana, atsikana ayenera kuphunzitsa luso laukhondo. Kusamba, kusinthana, kusamba, ndi zina. Ndiye, pamene mwana akukula mumayenera kumuphunzitsa momwe angagwiritsire ntchito pepala la chimbudzi, kudziyeretsa kwa ziwalo zoberekera.
Ndi kukhazikitsa tsiku ndi tsiku njirazi, asungwana ali ndi chizoloŵezi chosintha zovala nthawi zonse. Izi ndi zofunika kwambiri pa maphunziro a kugonana kwa mwana. Ndi ukhondo wabwino, chiopsezo cha ziwalo zoberekera zamkati ndi zakunja zotupa ndizochepa.
Zaka 4-6.
Ali ndi zaka 4-5, ana amafunsa mafunso, omwe nthawi zina sitingapeze yankho lolondola. Mwachitsanzo, ndinachokera kuti ndi ena. Sikofunika kuti tipewe yankho kapena kuganiza nthano zamtundu uliwonse. Ngati simungayankhe nthawi yomweyo, nenani kuti mumalankhula mtsogolo. Ganizirani momwe mungayankhire funsoli kuti mwanayo amvetse, popanda manyazi, komanso asunge lonjezolo. Ngati mwana wanu sadzalandire yankho, adzalidziwa kuchokera kwa ena. Ndipo sizikuwonekeratu kuti ndani adzayankhe ndipo ndi yankho yanji limene lidzayankhidwe.
Ali ndi zaka zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri, pakhoza kukhala kale chifundo komanso chikondi. Musawope kuwonetsera kwa malingaliro otere mwa mwanayo, chifukwa pa msinkhu uwu palibe chidwi kwa anyamata ogonana.
Zaka 10-11.
Ali ndi zaka 10-11, asungwana ayenera kudziwa zochitika za thupi. Ayenera kukhala okonzeka kusamba. Atsikana a msinkhu uwu sayenera kuwopsya pamene tsitsi likuwoneka pamimba komanso kukula kwa ziwalo za mammary. Msungwana ayenera kukhala ndi lingaliro la kusintha kwakukulu asanayambe izi. Ayenera kudziwa momwe angasunge ukhondo nthawi ino. Ndikofunika kukamba nkhani pa mutu uwu. Kukambirana kukambidwe ndi mayi, kapena katswiri wa zamaganizo, kapena mphunzitsi. Kukambirana kotereku kuyenera kuchitidwa m'njira yofikira kumvetsetsa. Ndikofunika kuphunzitsa mwana kuti kusamba kuyenera kutsukidwa kangapo patsiku, kuyang'anira ukhondo wa zovala ndi thupi lawo. Muyenera kudziwa kuti kusamba magazi ndiwo malo abwino omwe amaberekera. Popanda ukhondo, chiopsezo cha matenda opweteka chimakula. Phunzitsani mtsikana momwe angasunge kalendala mosamala, kuti atsatire ndondomeko ya kusamba. Ngati kusamba sikuchitika nthawi zonse, ndiye kuti mufunsane ndi azimayi.
12-14.
Kuchita mwamsanga kwa thupi kumapezeka achinyamata omwe ali ndi zaka 12-14. Mu thupi pali kusintha, ndipo pali chikoka chogonana. Kawirikawiri ana omwe salankhulana ndi makolo pamitu yosiyanasiyana amapeza yankho kwina kulikonse. Kawirikawiri amalandira zambiri zopotozedwa. Atsikana ali ndi chikhumbo chofuna kudziimira komanso kudzivomereza. Mavuto ambiri angapewe ngati ubale wodalirika wapangidwa ndi makolo. Atsikana ali ndi chikhumbo chokondweretsa anyamata, ndipo chilakolako chimenechi ndi chiwerewere. Ngati makolo amakhudzidwa ndi ana awo pa msinkhu uwu (chifukwa achinyamata ali ndi ufulu wodziimira okha), ndiye kuti n'zotheka kupeŵa mayina osafunika a mwanayo ndi anzake osadziwika. Muyenera kulola mwana wanu wamkazi kudziwa kuti mumamuona ngati umunthu - ndiye sangabise abwenzi ake kwa inu.
Kuyambira ali ndi zaka 15.
Kwaunyamata umabwera nthawi yozizira kwambiri. M'badwo uwu umakhala zaka 15 mpaka 18. Kusintha kwa mvula kumachitika m'thupi panthawi ino. Pamapeto pa nthawiyi, kutha msinkhu kumachitika. Poyambira msinkhu uno, asungwana ayenera kuzindikira kuti nthawi yayitali yothetsa kugonana imatsogolera mimba yosafuna. Amayi, akatswiri a maganizo, madokotala ayenera kudziwitsa ana njira zogwiritsira ntchito njira zoberekera (kutetezedwa kuchokera kumimba). Atsikana ayenera kudziwa kuti kuchotsa mimba m'nthawi ino n'koopsa. Izi zingayambitse kusabereka, ndipo matenda a mthupi angathe kuyamba pambuyo pa izi. Koma ngati pali mimba yosakonzekera - mwanayo sayenera kuopa kuuza makolo ake za izo. Maphunziro a atsikana ndi ndondomeko yamakono. Khalani mwana wanu osati amayi okha, koma monga bwenzi. Muzikhala ndi nthawi yambiri ndi ana anu, pita nawo ntchito zosiyanasiyana. Ngati mukulenga chikhulupiliro mu ubale wanu, mwanayo sangabise mavuto ake kwa inu, ndipo mudzadziwa bwalo lakulankhulana kwake.