Koma musapewe chibwenzi ndi zosiyana ndi poglotolotolko chifukwa cha mantha awo onyengedwa. Choyamba, ndibwino kukumbukira kuti ngakhale abodza omwe amadziwika nawo angapereke zida zodabwitsa. Zopindulitsa izi zimatsimikiziridwa mu fanizo, zolemba ndi manja a watsopano. Ndikoyenera kukumbukira zina mwazimenezi, kuti tipewe mwayi wonyenga kuti usachepera.
Ziribe kanthu momwe munthu, kuphatikizapo wabodza wonyengerera, amabisa mabodza awo, nthawi zambiri amapatsidwa "zizindikiro zosayankhula." Choncho, pokambirana, pamene wachinyamata akuyankha "inde", ndipo pamene sakugwedeza mutu wake kumbali, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimasonyeza kusuta, chizindikirochi chingakhale chizindikiro chosavomerezeka cha kuti iye sagwirizana.Koma, komabe, atawona chizindikiro chotero, osati ndiyenera kuthamangira kuyanjana ndi soslovami: "Wonyenga, wabodza, wabodza!". Ndikofunikira kukhazikitsa funso limene, monga momwe likuwonekera, silinaperekedwe yankho loona, ndipo kenako liwone lamulo la interlocutor.
Wina wamba "wonama-wabodza" - pamene wogwirizanitsa amakhudza mphuno ya mphuno, nthawi zambiri izi zikutanthauza kuthawa, kufotokoza mfundo zina, ndiko kuti, yankho loperekedwa ndi mnyamata, akhoza kusokoneza pang'ono kuti apindule yekha. Khalidweli ndilo chifukwa chakuti mphuno ya mphuno ndikumapeto kwa mitsempha.
Nthawi zina zimakhala zofunikira kuti musamayerekeze kuti wothandizana nawo, manja ake, maonekedwe ake ndi nkhope yake akukhala "mthunzi". Musati muime mu "fufuzani wamng'ono" ndikufunsani mafunso anu "woweruzidwa." Makhalidwe oterewa amatha kuzindikira ndi kusokoneza mnyamatayo ndipo nthawi zambiri amasiya kukambirana. Ndi bwino kuthandizira zokambiranazo mwachinsinsi chokondweretsa, ndikumbukira kusagwirizana kumeneku, kudzakuthandizani kupanga chomaliza pamudzi watsopano.
Koma mwachitsanzo, pangakhale zochitika zotere zomwe mnyamata wina akukambirana akupereka chizindikiro chimodzi, koma ndi zina zonse ziri mu dongosolo. Kodi ndiyenera kuchita chiyani mkhalidwe uno? Inde, pali zina "zizindikiro-zabodza."
Chokani kwa interlocutor. Ngati mnyamata wina adafunsidwa funso, ndipo atembenuka asanayankhe kapena ayankhe kuyang'ana mtsikanayo, tinganene kuti yankho lake silinali loona, komanso kuti woyimilirayo sadakonzekere kuyankha funsoli ndipo sanasangalale pang'ono. kapena wodutsa, kuchotsa foni mu thumba lake, wonyenga wanzeru wapeza masekondi angapo kuti ayankhe. Nthawi zina anthu amachita mwanjira imeneyi, zomwe zimavuta kunama.
Mvetserani kumalo a interlocutor, ngati akukambirana kuti ayambe kunama, ndiye kuti adzasankha zitseko, manja kapena miyendo idzadutsa. Munthu akhoza kutsekanso chinachake m'manja mwake, ena amachichita mwachisokonezo, koma osati odziwa mabodza, iwo amafanizira manja awa ndi controllability ya interlocutor awo, ndi inu.
Chochititsa chidwi n'chakuti pakati pa anthu ambiri nthawi zina amakumana ndi anthu omwe amayesa kunena mabodza osatsutsika, monga lamulo, iwo abodza adzalembedwa, iwo eniwo amakhulupirira kale mabodza awo, koma ngakhale akatswiriwa amaperekedwa mwa kuyang'ana kapena kusintha kusintha kwa ophunzira.
Zonsezi zidzakuthandizira kuti muzindikire kuti ndi wabodza mumnyamatayo ngati ali choncho, koma simuyenera kumasulira zolemba izi pamtundu wa paranoia ndipo nthawi zonse mumayang'ana mabodza, chifukwa nthawi zina kusonkhana mwachisawawa m'moyo wa mtsikana kungakhale kupititsa patsogolo kwa moyo wake wokondwa mu zosangalatsa za wokondedwa, yemwe kale sanali mlendo!