Ngakhale, moona mtima pamtima, ndikufuna kunena izi chifukwa cha zolakwa zina, timatseka maso athu: popeza aliyense angapeze chinachake chimene mungamupeze. Choipa kwambiri kwa dongosolo lathu la mitsempha ndi kudzidalira kwathunthu ndi kupeza pansi pa chigoba cha "chabwino" cha pacifier. Choncho, atsikana ali ndi mafunso ambiri, momwe angasiyanitse munthu ndi "kuvomereza kwake"? Kodi mungawone bwanji ngati pacifier? Ndipo chochita ndi chigwirizano cha kugonana kolimba, chomwe chinasanduka zero? Izi ndi zomwe nkhani yathu ikufotokoza.
Mwini mwini wa nyumbayi
Kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa mwamuna wamwamuna ndi chilakolako chosasunthika kuoneka ndikuwoneka bwino (wanzeru, wokongola, wokondweretsa, wolemera, etc.) kuposa momwe zilili. Munthu woteroyo, ngati mwana wamng'ono, amakonda kudzitamandira kuti ndi wopambana, ngakhalenso wodzichepetsa kapena wopindulitsa. Pofuna kutulutsa gwero la malingaliro, amadzimangira yekha khoma lachinsinsi. Zili mwa amayi oterewa omwe amatha kukhala ndi zofuna zapadera: kupambana pachitsogolo chachikondi, ndi ntchito yake, ndi kavalo woyera ndi chophimba.
Inde, anthu oterewa amatha kugwirizanitsa fano la munthu wina yemwe ali ndi ufulu wosankha, zovala, zomwe mosakayikira zidzakwaniritsa zofunikira zake. Chifukwa amanyadira zinthu zomwe iye alibe: galimoto yake, malo enieni kapena pasipoti, mungathe kuchilingalira. Kodi mukufuna kudziwa chomwe chimapangidwira? Mwadzidzidzi, pitani kuntchito! Inu, ndithudi, mudzawona kumeneko "pacifier", yomwe imatulutsa mathalauza, panthawi yawo yopanda pake anthu oterowo nthawi zambiri "amamangirira" mu chikhalidwe. mawonekedwe, kotero iwo samapangitsa kukhulupirira kwakukulu kwa akulu awo ndipo samayang'ana mu kuwala kopambana. Muofesi ali ndi chigawo chapakati, palibe chodabwitsa mu ntchito yake, komabe anthu otere amakhulupirira kuti ntchito yake ndi yosangalatsa komanso yofunika. Zonsezi, ziyenera kuvomerezedwa kuti "dummy" mwakutanthauzira alibe nzeru ndi nzeru.
Nkhani yosiyana imayenera kufunsa funso la ndalama. Pazifukwa zomveka, iwo alibe, kotero, sizidzakhala zodabwitsa kuti ngati mutangoyamba kukondana mudzayenda kudutsa m'nyengo yozizira, mukakwera malo okondwerera, muzisangalala ndi mphepo yamkuntho, malingaliro achikondi, zokambirana zopanda malire. Malo odyera oyamba komanso ngakhale maluwa kuchokera pamenepo sangathe kudikira. Kawirikawiri malire amodzi amanyamuka, matikiti angapo a mafilimu ndi mabala.
Kuwonjezera pamenepo, n'zotheka kuzindikira mamuna wamwamuna pogwiritsa ntchito mawu monga dreaminess - amamangika nthawi zonse kuchokera kumalo osungidwa. Nthawi zonse amakonza bizinesi yake ndi maloto, pambuyo pa miyezi 6 adzakhala mamilioni. Adzadziwika mosavuta mayiko khumi ndi awiri ndi malo ogulitsira malo, kumene inu mudzapitadi ndi iye. Ndipo pamene, patatha chaka, mukakhala ndi chidwi ndi iye, mukapita kukatenga matikiti, "dummy" idzakupatsani zifukwa milioni, anthu ndi zochitika zomwe zalepheretsa mapulani ake opindulitsa kwambiri.
Chizindikiro chotsiriza cha "dummy" chikhoza kutchedwa maganizo ake kwa inu, komanso mfundo za amayi. Ndithudi, milomo yake imayimba za chikondi chopanda malire, kukongola, koma palibe chomwe chimayambitsa mawu awa! Amakulonjezani inu nyenyezi zochokera kumwamba, madamondi, madalitso onse a dziko lapansi, akutsimikiziranso thandizo mnyumba ndi chithandizo chodalirika, mosakayikira alumbirira kukhulupirika. Koma ikafika nthawi yochitapo kanthu, imakhala ngati udzu, womwe simungathe kukhala nawo nthawi yapadera kapena zochitika zapakhomo. Zochita zake zonse zidzatsimikizira kuti vuto lirilonse lidzagwa pa mapewa anu osalimba. Chotsatira chake, ganizirani mosamala musanatenge moyo ndi mamuna wamwamuna wotere. M'tsogolomu, mukakhala ndi ana, ngongole, bizinesi yogwirizana, kodi mudzatha kulemetsa mtolo wokhawokha?
Mndandanda wa "kuyesedwa kwa" amuna
Tiyeni tifotokoze zonse zomwe tafotokozazi ndipo tipeze mayesero omwe wokondedwa wanu ayenera kudutsa musanalowetse mgwirizano wanu ndipo adzathetsa chigoba cha kalonga.
- Kugwira ntchito mwakhama komanso ndalama. Ife mwachibadwa sitinayambe kunena kuti "akalonga" awa amalandira malipiro osapitirira $ 10,000 mwezi uliwonse. Mwachibadwa, chiwerengero chonse ndi chachibale. Ndikofunika kutsogoleredwa ndi mnzanuyo payekha la ntchito, kuyang'ana zolinga zomwe akudzikhazikitsira yekha ndi zomwe akuchita kuti azitsatira - izi ndizo zizindikiro zomwe zimasiyanitsa mavitamini ochokera ku megalomania kuchokera kwa opeza enieni.
- Chiŵerengero cha zolinga, maloto ndi zochita zenizeni. Ngati mnyamata wanu akulankhula ndikukonzekera zokha, ndiye kuti pogor ndi braggart. Zowonjezera chiwerengero chotsiriza, chiri bwino. Mwa njira, mu nkhani iliyonse yowonjezera pansi, patukani "Zakudyazi" zowona. Ife, amayi, monga tikudziwira, amakonda makutu, koma muyenera kusankha mnzanu, moyo ndi ubongo.
- Mulimonsemo zingakhale zodalirika. Kukhoza kuyankha kwa mawu a munthu ndi chizindikiro chachikulu cha Mwamuna. Ngati adanena kuti angatengere kachipupa kumitsuko yowuma ndikuchita kale kusiyana ndi chikumbutso chanu chikwi - uyu ndi woyenera woyenera. Iye amatenga mbali mwachindunji mu maphunziro a ana ndipo amakuthandizani inu mnyumba - zabwino kwambiri! Ngati mumayamba ndi iye, ngakhale chinthu chosavuta, ndipo amatenga zambiri mwa maudindo ndi maudindo - panthawiyi muli ndi mwayi! Kwa munthu amene angathe kuchita ndi manja onse awiri!
- Ngati mukulongosola zonse zomwe zili pamwambazi, zidzamveka ngati izi: "Munthu wolemekezeka" amasiyanitsa ndi chipolopolo chopangidwa ndi iye, choyimira maliro komanso kupezeka kwina kulikonse mkati mwake.
Pomaliza ..
Ngati inu, mutatha kuwerenga miyezo yathu yachitsanzo (kapena, molondola, kusowa kwa izo), anazindikira ndi mantha: Mulungu wanga, kodi mnyamata wanga akuchita chiyani? Ngati mwachidule, ponyani chinthu chopanda phindu komanso chosafunikira m'nyumba. Mwachidziwikire, mwamuna, kwa nthawi yayitali pamisonkhano yanu, amamwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo, okondedwa komanso ena amafunikira, komabe inu simuli mwana, mumamvetsa bwino kuti simungathe kumanga tsogolo ndi munthu woteroyo. Kuthetsa chiyanjano kuli bwino kumayambiriro, mpaka chifundo chanu pa "dummy" chikhala china. Pali amuna enieni padziko lapansi, amphamvu, ochenjera, odalirika! Tiyenera kudzikonda tokha ndikukhulupirirani kuti mumayenera kutero! Pamene akunena, malingaliro ali ndi katundu wokwanira!