Ambiri mwa abambo azimayi amatsimikiza kuti amuna ogonana amakhala ndi zosowa zonyansa. Maganizo awa ndi olakwika. Zokhumba za munthu aliyense ndizopadera. Ngati muziyang'ana kuchokera pa maganizo a psychology, ndiye maganizo a amuna pa nkhaniyi amadalira, mbali, pa gulu lawo la msinkhu. Ndipo kotero, zosowa za abambo zimasintha bwanji pazaka zosiyana?
Zaka 20-30 - chiwerengero cha kugonana
Nthawi ino ikhoza kutchedwa nthawi yoyesera ndi zolakwika. M'zaka zino, kusintha osakwatirana, amapindula, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti munthu akhale ndi chidaliro komanso kudzidalira. Kwa amuna a m'badwo uwu, kukhumba kwa knights ndi chosadziwika ndi khalidwe. Kuchokera pambaliyi, pamapeto pake, kuti, kuti adzipangire chidwi ndikudzipangira okha, malo apadera ayenera kuperekedwa mosayembekezereka. Pankhani ya kugonana, apa, chofunikira kwambiri ndi chiyambi. Izi zikuphatikizapo, mwachitsanzo, maseĊµero owonetsera masewero ndi chirichonse chomwe chikukhudzana nawo.
Ndipo ndikofunikira kuti mufotokozere mnzanuyo, kuyamikira kwanu. Vosphischenie khalidwe lake, ntchito, maonekedwe, chifaniziro, zovala, ndi zina zotero.
30-40- nthawi yosankha
Panthawi imeneyi, kugonana sikunali koyambirira. Mu gawo la zaka izi, mwamuna amayamba kuganizira zomwe ziri zofunika kwambiri pamoyo wake, kufufuza zolinga ndi zosowa. Choncho, poyamba, palibe mawonekedwe, koma luso la nzeru.
Motero, tingathe kumaliza kuti zovala sizinayambikitse chidwi. Chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi moyo, malingaliro, luso loyankhula ndi kumvetsera, kukhala interlocutor wabwino. Choncho, poyanjana ndi munthu wa msinkhu wotero, ndikofunikira kukhala bwenzi. Landirani izo momwe ziriri. Mu nthawi ino woimira chilakolako chogonana wadzipangira yekha chomwe akuyembekezera kuchokera ku chilengedwe, ndipo, ndithudi, amadziwa mtundu wa mkazi yemwe amafunikira.
Chinthu chachikulu ndikumvetsa zomwe dzina likukuyembekezerani, komanso ngati mutha kukwaniritsa zofunikira ndi zoyembekeza. Sikophweka kugwira ntchito ya wina.
Pankhani yokhudzana ndi kugonana, nthawiyi yakhala ikufotokozedwa kale, pali zosowa zokhumba ndi zikhumbo. Choncho, palibe chifukwa chokhazikitsa chirichonse chatsopano pano. Ndikofunika kuti tipeze kukoma kwa wokondedwa, kuli ngati palibe, kaya ndi zobvuta kapena zobvala zoyambirira, apa zonse ziri payekha. Choncho, kuti ubale ukhale wolimba, nkofunikira kupeza makiyi a munthu mu zolinga zonse.
Okalamba kuposa 45
Iyi ndiyo nthawi yomwe chikoka chimayamba kutha. Choncho, kuti mukhale paubwenzi wapamtima, nkofunikira kupanga malo ena. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi ndi malo kuti mukhale nokha, mukumva mnzanu, mutenge maganizo oyenera. Komanso, polovikhotnosheny apambane amafunika kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi, chifukwa pa msinkhu uwu, chimfine chimakhudza kuzizira. Choncho, mkazi ayenera kulimbikitsa kufunika kwa amuna m'moyo wathanzi. Kugonana kuyeneranso kuchitidwa mosiyana komanso kosasinthasintha. Izi ndi chifukwa chakuti nthawi yayitali imakhala yosokoneza zomwe ziyenera kukhala zofanana. Ndipo kuyambiranso kugwirizana kwa chikhalidwechi nthawi zina kumakhala kovuta kwambiri, choncho ndibwino kuti musalole izi.
Mu nthawi ino palibe chilakolako chammbuyo, choncho nkofunika kusintha zinthu zing'onozing'ono, zomwe poyamba zimawoneka zosapindulitsa. Zingakhale zovuta kuyang'ana, kuusa moyo, kukumbatirana, chirichonse chimadalira malingaliro anu. Ingofunika kuwonjezera mtundu wa "zest" kuti udziwitse kumverera.
Ndiyeneranso kukumbukira kuti munthu wazaka 45 akuganiza kuti chilakolako chake chofuna kugonana ndi anthu ena sichifanana. Osati mu dongosolo la maganizo ndi okonzekera izi, zomwe zingakhudze zochita, makhalidwe, zilakolako. Pano mukhoza kubwerera ku chiyambi. Mofananamo, ali ndi zaka 20 mpaka 30 pofanana ndi mwamuna. Ndikofunika kuyamikira mawonekedwe ake, mawonekedwe ake, mphamvu zake komanso zogonana. Limbikitsani zilakolako za mtundu wanu wonse, ndipo musaiwale kuti mubweretse zatsopano.
Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti zaka zoposa 45 za moyo sizidzatha, koma mosiyana ndiyi, ino ndiyo nthawi yomwe mwayi watsopano umayambira patsogolo panu, mwayi woti muyambe kukhala watsopano. Kaya ndi maulendo, maulendo, zokopa alendo. Mukhoza kuyesa chinthu chatsopano, chomwe chidzabweretsere malingaliro abwino kwa wanu ndi mwamuna wanu. Musati mudzikane nokha izi. Kenaka ubale wanu sudzatha, koma chaka chilichonse chidzakhala champhamvu.