Inu simunaganize za izi, koma pano ndinu: wokondedwayo "adadabwa" kapena muyenera kuphunzira udindo wa bambo abambo ... Chosankha chowawa - yemwe angakhale: Papa "mwachangu" kapena "motsimikiza"? Ndipo momwe mungakhalire bambo weniweni? Njira zopanga kukonzekera kwa abambo zingathandize pa izi.
Mimba yosakonzekera
Mu moyo wa munthu pali mau angapo omwe angayambe kuyendetsa - ndipo izi ziribe zodabwitsa. Mwachitsanzo: "Chinachake sindingakukumbukire m'makambirano ... Tidzatha bwanji kupitilira?" Kapena "Muli ndi mayina ochokera ku ofesi yolembetsa usilikali ndikulembetsa ofesiyo." Ndipo makamaka: "Wokondedwa, posachedwapa udzakhala bambo!" Momwemo? Mukungofuna kukhala komweko: Ndili ndi ntchito yabwino, ndinakonza kayak ulendo (nthawi yonse ya chilimwe), ndinalota galimoto yatsopano ... Ndipo mumapatsidwa kupereka ndalama zam'tsogolo mimba (abwenzi anandiuza), akugwedeza mwana akulira usiku ndi kusintha kosatha kwa ma diapers.
Ndizosalungama! Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani ?!
Zomwe amachitira amuna ndizosiyana, chifukwa chibadwa cha atate awo sichikudya ndi mkaka wa amayi (mosiyana ndi kugonana kwabwino). Kumbali imodzi, mungadalire kuti posakhalitsa chidziwitso chidzadziwonetsera - kwa zaka 35-40, chifukwa, malinga ndi asayansi, ndi nthawi yomwe mlingo wa hormone oxytocin, womwe umayambitsa maganizo a atate, umakhala pampamwamba kwambiri. Komabe, mu zochitika zomwe abambo akuyandikira mosavuta, sizikanakhala zopweteka kuchita zambiri. Mwachitsanzo, kuyamba kumvetsa.
Kuopa "Papal"
Ndidali wamng'ono kwambiri (osati 20, komanso zaka 30)! Maphwando asanafike m'mawa, ulendo wopita ku "m'mphepete mwa dziko lapansi" ndipo kulankhulana ndi mabwenzi akuyenera kuchotsedwa ... kwanthawizonse?
Sindikukonzekera ndalama: chiyembekezo chogwira ntchito "chachitatu" chimakondweretsa pang'ono. Ndipo ngati mukufunikira kutenga gawo la ndalama pazofuna za ana ...
Ndili mwana kwambiri! "Amalipiritsa" ana aamuna okondana ena mwa mitundu ina amafotokoza izi "zoopsa": colic, teething, kusintha maonekedwe a mkazi wake. Ndipo mwachizolowezi kuganiza: "Zikomo Mulungu, siziri ndi ine" - sizidzagwiranso ntchito. Mwina izo ziri. Kapena mwinamwake ayi: ndi mwana wanu yemwe adzagona mwamsanga ndi kulandira maulendo apanyanja ... ndipo mkazi wake mmalo mwa mapaundi owonjezera adzabala "mawere a chic. Ndipo kawirikawiri, mavuto onse ndi osakhalitsa - mosiyana ndi chikondi chimene mwana amapereka!
Udindo wa amayi
Konzani bambo anu kuti awathandize pang'ono pang'onopang'ono. Musabweretse chidziwitso chodziwitsa za mimba ndi makanda nthawi yomweyo. Koma musamulole kuti apite, chikondi chokha chimapangitsa chikondi.
Perekani zitsanzo za makolo okondwa kuti apeze njira yokonzekererera ana. Tayang'anani pa alendowo kwa anzanu omwe amakula ana osirira - osasuntha. Ndipo mwamunayo amvetsetsa kuti: ana sali tsoka.
Sonyezani chikondi chanu! Kawirikawiri munthu amapeza: "Tsopano ndili" gawo lachitatu ", malingaliro ake ndi malingaliro ake tsopano ndi a mwanayo." Koma izi siziri choncho!
Wachiwiri bambo
Mwanayo ali kale - izi ndiphatikiza. Kotero, simungakhoze kudandaula za kugona usiku, gruel ndi diapers. Koma mavuto omwewa ndi osachepera. Mwana ndi wina ... koma ayenera kukhala mbadwa! Ndipotu, izi ndizokonda kwambiri mwana! Inde, khalidwe lake lokha ndi loipa: aliyense amatha kukhala ndi mtima wonyada, pa sitepe iliyonse yomwe akufuna kukhumudwa, amachitira nsanje amayi ake. Kodi mungaganizire bwanji mapepala? Kapena mwinamwake, pa maloto a moyo wachimwemwe, kuika mtanda wa mafuta?
Inde, sikuli kovuta kufanana ndi munthu wamng'ono yemwe anakulira popanda kutenga nawo mbali, sanalandire zofunikira zanu ... Komabe, musataye mtima: nthawi zambiri ndi munthu amene amamulera mwanayo, amamupatsa maganizo ake kudziko lozungulira, amamupangitsa kukhala wodzipitiriza yekha - kumakhala wobadwa ndithu! Inde, n'zosavuta kuthana ndi izi ngati "muli ndi" mwana. Koma ndi wachinyamata wotsutsa mungapeze kukhudzana - padzakhala chilakolako. Slyukat ndipo musamufunse - bambo wachikondi akhoza ndipo ayenera kukhala okhwima (moyenera). Ndikofunika kupeza zomwe zimagwirizana, zomwe zimakhala zovuta - sizowopsya, ngati mwamuna ayenda ndi chikondi chenicheni kwa mkazi (komanso mwanayo - monga kupitilira kwake). Musamabisire mwana wanu zakukhosi kwanu kwa amayi ake - poyamba ndi chinthu chokha chomwe chimakugwirizanitsani ndi mwanayo komanso chimene mungadalire kuti mukhazikitse mgwirizano.
Nthawi zovuta
Bambo wa mwanayo "amaika magudumu mu gudumu" - ngati banja likusudzulana, koma silinasiyanitse, ndiko kuti, ndilofunika kwambiri kwa wina ndi mzake. Yesetsani kukhalabe ozizira - malo amodzi wothirira ndi matope sizingatheke kuwonjezera kukhulupilira kwa mwanayo pa njira zamakono zopanga kukhala okonzeka kwa bambo. Ndibwino kuti ndikhale ndi bambo wa mwanayo osakondana, koma ogwirizana nawo pankhani ya kuphunzitsa wolowa nyumba. Zigawidwe, ndiye zomwe mumagwirizana nazo - chimwemwe ndi ubwino wa mwanayo.
Mwana wamba anabadwira: zinakhala zotheka kuyerekeza "wina" ndi "wake", mosadziŵa kupatsa chachiwiri. Zotsatira zake - kudzimva kuti ndi wolakwa komanso chikhumbo cholinganitsa chikondi cha ana (chomwe sichingatheke kukhala priori). Njira yoyenera: ingokonda iwo - ngakhale m'njira zosiyanasiyana (izi ndi zachilendo!), Yesetsani kulipira mofanana, mwachitsanzo, kukopa mkuluyo kuti asamalire mwana - koma popanda kupanikizika!
Udindo wa amayi
Kulumikizana kwa ubale pakati pa mwana ndi bambo abambo makamaka kumatsimikiziridwa ndi mfundo zomwe mumatsatira mukukweza mwana wamwamuna kapena wamkazi. Ngati munali mwana wanu zonse, mumakhala naye, adzakwiya chifukwa chakuti mayi anga ankalakalaka kuti afunire wina aliyense - adasinthanitsa ndi amalume ake ndipo tsopano akumusamalira! Ngati mudalera mwana nyimbo yomwe mumaikonda ya amayi osakwatiwa "Amuna onse - ake ...", mwanayo ayesa kuchenjeza amayi ake ku sitepe yolakwika kapena kunyoza: "Izi zikuwonekeranso kuti akutsutsana ndi" zonyansa "izi! Ganizirani.
Amayi ambiri amanjenjemera mantha okhudzidwa ndi mimba yosatengeka, kuphatikizapo, komanso chifukwa cha mantha omwe mnzanuyo adzatenga nkhaniyo molakwika.
Sizinthu zonse zoipa. Malingana ndi kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi akatswiri a zachikhalidwe cha anthu a ku America, anthu oposa theka la amuna omwe anafunsidwa (osakwana zaka 30!) Adzakhala okondwa kuphunzira za mimba ya theka lawo - ngakhale kuchokera mu ndondomekoyi.
Malingaliro achikhalidwe ponena za maudindo a amuna ndi akazi: amaperekedwa kwa mwanayo panthawi ya maphunziro, ndipo nthawi zambiri mnyamata amamva kuyambira ali mwana: "Chifukwa chiyani izi zimakhala zowawa?", "Atsikana okha akusewera zidole!" Kodi ndizodabwitsa kuti, monga wamkulu, akuganiza kukangana ndi mwanayo si nkhawa ya munthu?
Zomwe anthu amayembekezera: Sizinali kale m "malo mwazinthu zonyansa kwa amuna omwe akugwira ntchito zapakhomo ndi ana (zomwe zinawonetsedwa m'maina a" mkazi "," rag "," osati mwamuna "). Chitsanzo cha "Papa Wodziwa" chakhala chikuvomerezedwa ndi anthu m'zaka khumi zapitazi.
Dogma yokhudzana ndi zofunikira za amayi pazinthu zopititsa patsogolo mwanayo.
Kwa anthu ogulitsa mafakitale, pamene udindo wa abambo unachepetsedwa kukhala ntchito za "wopatsa chakudya komanso wothandizira", izi, ndithudi, zimakhala zofanana. Komabe, musaiwale kuti zaka mazana angapo zapitazo, abambo anagwira ntchito pafupi ndi nyumba (mu shopu kapena msonkhano) adatenga mbali mwachindunji pakuleredwa kwa ana! Kwa zaka zikwi zambiri, chikhalidwe cha makolo chimalongosola kuti bambo ndi kholo loyenerera kwambiri lomwe limayang'anira mtundu wa anthu omwe ana ake amakula. Ndipo, mwa njira, mabuku onse okondweretsa pa maphunziro (monga "Domostroy") adayankhulidwa mwachindunji kwa atate!
Kuti mukhale bambo wabwino, muyenera:
Chitani choyamba mwa manja awo. Ntchito zokhudzana ndi chitukuko ndi kulera kwa mwana ndi chitsimikizo kuti zonse zidzatha (ngakhale sizingakhalepo).
Yesetsani. Paternity si udindo, ndi ntchito! Maluso omwe amapangidwa m'ntchito (sadziwa - funsani, werengani, funsani kuwonetsa).
Pezani ndondomeko yanu. Sikofunika kutsanzira khalidwe la mkazi, ndi bwino kuyesa "kudzaza mndandanda": mayiyo amatsindika za kukula kwa maganizo kwa mwanayo - kuwonjezeranso thupi; pa ntchito yophunzitsa azimayi - pitirizani "zosangalatsa", ndi zina zotero.
Musakhale wothandizira chabe, komanso mnzanuyo. Mchitidwe wamakhalidwe kwa abambo monga wotetezera ndi m'malo mwa mayi ndi chinthu chakale, papa wamakono pazochitika zonse zapanyumba zimapindulitsa kwambiri!
Kupatsa banja chisamaliro ndi nthawi. Ngakhale mutakhala otanganidwa kwambiri! Mfundo yakuti "bwalo lapafupi" ndilofunika kwambiri silimakayikiranso. Banja ndilo limene lidzakhazikika ndi inu nthawi zonse - komanso kuchokera ku chidwi chanu (nthawi zina zochepa zenizeni!) Dziko ndi mtendere mnyumba zimadalira makamaka.
Kukonzekera kwa kubala sikuli chilengedwe, koma sitepe ya kukula kwa munthu: munthu amafuna kuti akhale ndi chikondi chodabwitsa mu moyo watsopano. Mfundo yakuti amuna ndi akazi ali okonzeka kubadwa ali ndi makhalidwe enieni ndi chinyengo.
Zimakhudza umunthu wa munthu mwa kufunitsitsa kukhala kholo komanso maganizo omwe amachititsa kuti asinthe. Zithunzi za abambo ndi amayi amtsogolo zimakhala zochitika zomwe zimakhudza kugwirizana ndi abambo awo ndi amayi awo, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti: abambo omwe ali ndi abambo ndi machitidwe kudziko lakunja, amai - kutumiza mwayi wokonza dziko lamkati la malingaliro.
Kubadwa kwa mwana ndi chinsinsi cha Chirengedwe, ndipo ngati Chilengedwe chimateteza mimba, ngakhale chosakonzekera, ndi chizindikiro: ndinu woyenera kupitiriza. Musamukhumudwitse mkaziyo ndi kusasamala kwanu.