Kunyada
Iwo amanena kuti ndi kosavuta kwa munthu wodzitama, koma zowona ndizovuta kwambiri, chifukwa kuyambira nthawi zonse anthu oterewa amachoka mwaulere. Ndipo monga mukudziwira, m'moyo muli zochitika ngati dzanja losaphunzitsidwa la wokondedwa silingathe kuchita. N'chifukwa chiyani anthu oterewa amakana kuvomerezedwa? Chowonadi ndi chakuti kunyada ndi khalidwe labwino komanso loipa. Munthu wonyada amatha kugwa m'maso mwake. Ndipo mwa lingaliro lake, izi ndi zomwe zimachitika pamene atenga thandizo la wina. Ngati anthu ambiri amadziwa thandizo ngati labwinobwino, ndipo ena amaliona ngati chinthu choyenera, ndiye munthu wonyada amadziwa thandizo pokhapokha ngati akunyozedwa. Iye akuwona mu izi kunyalanyaza ndi kunyalanyazidwa. Zikuwoneka kuti mwa njira iyi ena amasonyeza kuti ali wofooka, kuti sangathe kuchita kanthu payekha. Anthu onyada amatha kuzindikira kuti ziweruzo zawo ndizolakwika, komabe iwo adzachita chimodzimodzi. Iwo sangathe kuchita mosiyana, chifukwa amadziwika ndi khalidweli. Choncho, n'zotheka kuti wokondedwa wanu ndi wamkulu kwambiri, chifukwa chake sangathe kudzikakamiza kuti avomere thandizo kuchokera kwa inu. Ndipotu simunamukakamize, simunamukakamize kapena kumufotokozera, sikudzasintha kanthu. Adzapitiriza kuchita zinthu motere, koma pamapeto pake adzakutsutsani, koma simukufuna kulowa muzochitika zake. Choncho, ngati mumvetsetsa kuti munthu akusowa thandizo, yesetsani kuthandizira, koma kuti wokondedwa wanu asamvetse kumene amachokerako ndipo atenge zinthu zonse monga mwazidzidzidzi. Kupanda kutero, nthawi zonse mudzafunika kukana kukana.
Kulemekezeka kwambiri
Pankhaniyi, zidzangokhala za anyamata. Mwa njira, ndi amuna omwe amakana thandizo nthawi zambiri. Ndi kosavuta kuti amayi athe kulimbana ndi kunyada, komanso ndi zovuta zawo. Amuna amavuta kwambiri kulandira chithandizo ngati ali mwana kapena atakula amakhala ndi katemera wovuta, akuwatcha ziphuphu, atsikana, kuchititsa manyazi ulemu wawo. Kukula, munthu woteroyo amaopa kuti adzakhalanso wofooka, osakhoza chilichonse. Choncho, mukamathandiza munthu woteroyo, amayamba kuganiza kuti ngati mutenga, makamaka kuchokera kwa mkazi, zidzakhala zomwe poyamba zinatchulidwa. Ndipo kuchokera m'makumbukiro oterowo, munthu amamva kupweteka kwambiri ndipo amamimba kwambiri. amafuna kuti chirichonse chichitike kachiwiri. Ndi chifukwa chake anyamata amakana kudzithandiza okha ndikufuna kuthetsa mavuto pawokha. Zikuwoneka kuti mwa njira imeneyi n'zotheka kutsimikizira kuti ali ndi mphamvu komanso mphamvu. Ndipo ziribe kanthu kwa anyamata konse ngati mukuganiza za iwo ngati amuna enieni, chifukwa mwatsoka iwo samadziona okha. Ndipo pafupifupi pafupifupi 100 peresenti ya milandu, ziweruzo za achinyamata za iwo eni ndizolakwika kwenikweni. Ndi amuna awa omwe ali olimba, okondera, oona otetezera ndi othandizira, okoma mtima ndi olimba mtima. Koma chifukwa chakuti nthawi zina ana ena sanaganizire makhalidwe amenewa, ndipo chifundo ndi chikhumbo chothandizira zinkatenga zofooka, tsopano munthu nthawi zonse ayenera kutsimikizira ku dziko lonse kuti ali ndi mphamvu zambiri.
Tsoka ilo, mawonedwe oterowo ndi ovuta kusintha ndikukonza. Ngati munthu panthawi yomwe anapanga psyche ankangokhalira kupita kumutu ndi maganizo oti anali wofooka, kenako patatha zaka zingapo, kukhala munthu wamkulu, mnyamata wotere, kukumbukira zomwe zamuchitikira, akuyamba kuwonetsa dziko lonse mphamvu zake. Chifukwa chake, ndi anyamata omwe akuvutika kwambiri, chifukwa nthawi zonse amayesa kuthana ndi mavuto omwe sangakwanitse. Chikhumbo chotsimikizira nthawi zonse kuti dziko lapansi ndilofunika kwambiri, awonetse achinyamata awa kukana kuthandizira, ngakhale atadziwa kuti ndi bwino kulandira. Mnyamata wotereyo anganene kuti ali bwino popanda ndalama ndipo adzafa ndi njala kusiyana ndi kutenga ngongole, chifukwa amasonyeza kuti si mwamuna weniweni yemwe angapeze ndalama zokwanira ndikuyendetsa bwino ndalama zake. Choncho, ngati mukufuna kuthandiza munthu woterowo, simusowa kumuuza momveka bwino kuti zochita zanu ndizothandiza, kumenyana ndi zovuta kuti ziwonekere ngati sakuzifuna, ndipo simungathe kukhala ndi moyo, ngati palibe chomwe akufuna. adzachita. Mwinamwake, mu kuya, mnyamata angamvetse bwino momwe zinthu zilili. Koma iye amamva zosavuta kwambiri, ndipo iye, mopanda manyazi, adzalandirabe thandizo lanu.
Sindifuna kukhala ndi ngongole
Anthu ena salandira chithandizo, chifukwa safuna kuti azikakamizidwa. Pali zifukwa ziwiri izi:
- anthu nthawi zambiri ankakumana ndi mavuto pamene anthu amapereka chithandizo, ndiyeno anayamba kufunafuna zambiri. Kapena iwo amanena kuti amachita zonse monga choncho, koma panthawi yomweyi, patapita kanthawi nthawi zonse amayesa kukhala ndi chidwi chofuna kudzikonda. Muzochitika izi, anthu amangokana kulandira chinachake kuchokera kwa oyandikana nawo kwambiri. Ndizoti iwo anali kale ndi zochitika m'miyoyo yawo, pamene abwenzi pachifuwa anathamangira kukawathandiza, ndiyeno amachita ngati kuti adapeza bwenzi lawo muukapolo. Ndipo poyang'ana zofanana zomwezo, ambiri amangoganiza kuti ndi bwino kuthana ndi mavuto awo payekha kuposa kuyesa kubwezera moyo wawo kwa munthu amene amadziona kuti ndiwopulumutsa komanso wapamwamba wa moyo wa opulumutsidwa. Anthu amene amapeza "othandizira" oterewa ndi omveka bwino, chifukwa chokumana nacho chowawa, monga mukudziwa, ndicho chabwino ndikukumbukira moyo wanga wonse.
- munthu mwiniyo safuna kuthandiza aliyense, choncho amayesera kuti asakhale womvera wina aliyense. Muzochitika izi, mukukumana ndi "Scrooge", omwe amawopa kuti azigwiritsa ntchito ndalama zowonjezera pafupi ndi kukweza munthu wina. Munthu wotereyo amadzipukuta yekha kusiyana ndi mavuto kusiyana ndi kuvomereza kuthandiza, chifukwa m'tsogolomu adzatha kupempha kanthu. Ngati inu mukukumana ndi munthu uyu, ndiye mundikhulupirire ine, khama lanu ndi chabe. Anthu oterewa safunikira thandizo la wina. Iwo ndi amatsenga kwambiri ndipo samasowa kokha pazochitika zachuma. Anthu oterewa amakhalanso olemera m'malingaliro awo, kotero musadandaule nawo, chifukwa anthu sangaganize za Vastaka.