Kwa iye, wosankhidwa wake ndi wokongola, ndipo sangathe kumudziwa chabe za izi. Koma pano palokha funso loti kuli kofunika kuyamikila okondedwa anu ndikoyenera. Makamaka kwa omwe sakudziwa momwe angalankhulire zokondweretsa zokhumba zawo.
Kugwirizana ndi ziyembekezero.
Nanga bwanji mukuyamikira mtsikanayo? Ndi zophweka: ndiye kuti akuyembekezera ndemanga zabwino izi kuchokera kwa wokondedwa wake kapena amuna ena omwe akuwakonda. Kodi ndibwino kuti tiyankhule za zomwe zingasokoneze kusiyana pakati pa ziyembekezo za woimira kugonana? Chilichonse chiri chotheka pano: kuchoka mwakachetechete mwakachetechete kupita ku chisautso chachikulu. Koma mavutowa ndi osavuta kupewa, kupanga zochepa chabe zokometsera zokometsera.
Palibe zodabwitsa kuti opambana kwambiri a smoothies amatha kugwiritsa ntchito chipangizochi mosavuta. Akatswiri a zamaganizo amakhulupirira kuti kukwanitsa kupanga machitidwe oyamikira amenewa kumapatsa iwo mwayi wopambana 50%. Zina zonse - mwazimene aphunzitsi a psychology adalangizidwa, D. Carnegie - kumwetulira ndi kukumbukira dzina. Ndipo msungwanayo ali wokonzeka kumupangira wokondedwa yekhayo. Kupatulapo kuti sanachenjezedwe pasadakhale malingaliro ake osayenera kuti azikhala ndi usiku umodzi wokha, ndipo kuyamikiridwa kwake kumawoneka moona mtima.
Kwa aliyense yemwe adayamba kale kukondana, palibe kukayikira kuti ndikofunika ndi kotheka kupereka mayamiko. Zoonadi zenizeni zenizeni zikuwonetseredwa: kudzera mu luso lowazindikira ndikudziwitsidwa bwino mu chithunzi chake ndi kuyamikira kwake chifukwa cha kuyamikira kwakukulu. Kuthokozedwa - ngati chinsinsi cha chidwi chake: ngakhale wokonda chinsinsi chake sakuzindikira, adzalandira chiyamiko kuchokera kwa iye. Ndipo kale mwachitapo chake zingatheke kusankha ngati pali mwayi woyanjana ndi iye kapena kulibe kwathunthu.
Chikumbutso cha kumverera.
Ngati mukukumbukira kulemekeza, ndiye pali zifukwa zingapo zoyamikirira atsikana. Choncho, malinga ndi malamulo a ulemu, mkazi akhoza kuphedwa kokha ndi chiyamiko. Ndipotu, mawu okondweretsa, makamaka ngati ali owona mtima, sadzangowonjezera chidwi cha mayi, koma amathandizanso kuti ayendetse njira yoyenera. Kutamanda mosamalitsa panthawi ya mkangano kungasinthe kwambiri maganizo a mtsikana. Ndipo ngati mumagwiritsa ntchito makambidwe anu ndi abwenzi anu okondedwa, mukhoza kuphunzira pafupifupi chirichonse chokhudza zokonda zake, zokonda zake, zosangalatsa komanso ngakhale zinsinsi.
Kuwonjezera apo, sikutamanda kukukumbutsani kwa wodzikuza yekha za makhalidwe omwe poyamba anayamba kugwirizana ndi chilakolako chake. Kulankhula ndi kuyamikira kwake, iye motero amathandiza moto osati mumtima mwake, komanso amachititsa chidwi chake. Komanso, kuchokera kwa munthu yemwe amatha kuyamikila mnzake nthawi zonse, sikoyenera kuti nthawi zonse azidziwitseni chikondi chake pa iye, chomwe chigonjetso chonse cholimba sichimakonda. Umetsa mwa nthawi yake kuti adziwe chilakolako chake, zinthu zabwino sizidzasokonezedwa ndi mafunso okhudza zoyenera ndi zofooka za chiwerengero chake. Ndiponsotu, mafunso okhudzidwawo si kanthu koma chilakolako cha mtsikana kuti atenge zomwe akufunikiradi - kuyamika.
Ndipo mungasonyeze bwanji zakuya kwa malingaliro omwe amakhudza mtima wa munthu? Mitundu? Ayi ndithu. Choyamba, ndilo, ndipo kachiwiri, sikuti aliyense ali ndi ndalama zokwanira kuti asonyeze mphamvu yeniyeni ya malingaliro. Kugwiranso sikuthandiza kufotokozera mvula yonse ya zowawa zomwe mkazi amadzutsa mwachikondi. Ngakhale kukhudza nthawi zina kumakhala kuyamika: wofatsa, wachikondi, mwachidziwitso chokhudza mosavuta, amasonyeza chomwe msungwana akufuna kuchita zambiri. Mulimonsemo, kufotokoza malingaliro kupyolera mu mayamiko ndi kusankha bwino. Kumbali imodzi, msungwanayo amalandira mawu osowa kwambiri, komabe mwamuna amadziwa kufunikira kwake kuti apange wokondwa wake. Ndipo bonasi yake ndi kumwetulira kwake kokongola ndi maso, kumene kuli kosatheka kusamira.
Ntchito yapadera ya mayamiko.
Kuti amupatse zomwe amamukonda kwambiri, kuti amusonyeze zakuya kwenikweni kwa mtima wake, kudzikumbutsa momwe mkaziyo alili wabwino, ndi gawo laling'ono la ntchito zomwe kuyamikiridwa kungakwaniritse. Kukhala chothandizira kwambiri cha Mfumu Yake ya Chikondi, zomwe sizikusowa ndalama zachuma kapena kukonzekera kwa nthawi yayitali - chivomerezo chimatsegulira munthuyo dziko lonse la mwayi wapadera. Ndi chithandizo chake n'chapafupi kusintha nkhani yosautsa yokhudza mabotolo, nsapato, abwenzi aakazi, omwe amakonda okondedwa, kuti mphamvu kuti mupitirize kumvetsera ndizochepa. Ndipo kuyamikira ndi njira yabwino yothetsera vutoli. Ingochitani mosamala.
Kuyamika kungakhale ngakhale chifukwa cholekanitsa, ngati kulimbika kwa kuzindikira moona mtima ngati kulibe msungwana wa msungwana sikokwanira. Chokha, ndithudi, izi ziyenera kukhala zowopsya kwambiri ponena za khalidwe lake kapena maonekedwe ake. Ngati mukufuna kupereka ndemanga pa zina mwa makhalidwe a mtsikanayo zingasandulike njira yothetsera wokondedwayo. Koma pano palibe chimene chingathe kuchita popanda kudzipereka. Ngati zoyamikirazo zatchulidwa, ndiye kuti mkazi aliyense adzamva ndipo adzakhumudwitsidwa kwambiri.
Mpaka wapadera wokhoza kuyamikira mtsikana ndi luso la mawu osangalatsa kusintha maganizo a mkazi. Pafupifupi munthu aliyense kapena mnyamata amaopa misozi ya akazi. Koma kupeĊµa iwo mu chiyanjano ndi kugonana kokongola sangathe aliyense. Ndiye kodi mumatani kuti mukhale ndi mtima wabwino kuti mukhalitse mtima wokhumudwa? Inde, mum'patse kuyamika. Bwino adzabweretsa kumwetulira nkhope yake. Monga mwakuya, konongani kwathunthu ku malingaliro okhumudwitsa. Ndipo mu zotsatira zake zilizonse, wotereyo adzakhala msilikali weniweni kwa mkazi wokhala ndi zida zankhondo, zomwe adzakhale nazo ndi chidaliro chakuya.
Pali ntchito ina yamabisika yovomerezeka. Ndi munthu uti yemwe akufuna kuwona pafupi ndi mkazi yemwe ali ndi chidaliro cha umoyo wake wokha? Palibe amuna oterewa. Osachepera pakati pa thanzi labwino. Sizimayi onse omwe ali ndi mphamvu zokhuza kugonana amakonda amai omwe ali odzidalira. Koma ngati wosankhidwayo akukhulupirira kuti chifaniziro ichi chimamupangitsa iye kukhala wamisala ndipo nkhope yabwinoyi, yomwe ali wokonzeka kuyisangalatsa usiku, ndi yonyansa, ndiye munthuyo akuyamba kuganiza za kuthawa. Ndipo chifukwa chake mumathawa zomwe mumakonda, ngati mungathe kusintha maganizo ake. Kutamanda. Ndipo kuyamikira kwa mtsikanayo chifukwa cha mphatso yoteroyo - kukhulupirira mu kukongola kwake - kudzakuphimba mowirikiza wokoma, wowonjezera, wowona mtima ndi wowolowa manja naye.