Amayi, Bambo ndi ana awiri abwino kwambiri. Mtendere ndi chikondi zikulamulira m'nyumba ... Kodi n'zotheka kukwaniritsa
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Pomaliza, munaganiza zobereka mwana wachiwiri - lingaliro lalikulu! Koma, ndithudi, musamadalire mtheradi wonse.
Kuti tisakhumudwe, tiyeni tikonzekere mavuto ena kale. Sitikukamba za zinthu zakuthupi ndi za tsiku ndi tsiku, zomwe zimaganiziridwa kawirikawiri choyamba: zomwe mungadye, kumene mungakhale, komwe mungapeze nthawi yokweza ana awiri ndi zochitika zapakhomo ... Komabe, palinso chimodzi, osati chodziwika, koma chochepa Vuto ndilo lingaliro la mwana wamkulu. Tangolingalirani izi: Anakhala mwamtendere, akukondedwa ndi wina aliyense, wapadera komanso wosapindulitsa, ndipo apa pali "mphatso" kwa inu! Amalira, sapereka tulo, aliyense ali naye, sakudziwa, ndipo amamukakamiza! Mungathe kusewera ndi iye, chabwino, ndi ndani yemwe angasewere pano? Ndipo atakhala munthu wamba! Amalumbira, akunena kuti ndakhala woipa.Eya, palibe amene amandikonda, palibe amene amamvetsa ... malingaliro ndi malingaliro ndi wamkulu wamkulu musanayambe kuvutika maganizo, ndiye bwanji nanga munthu wamng'ono?
Momwe mungakhalire? Musabereke mobwerezabwereza kuti musamuvulaze mwana wanu? Mwachibadwa, izi sizotheka. Tiyeni tiyese kusokoneza zonse zakuthwa kale.
Sindiyenera kuyembekezera mwezi wachisanu ndi chinayi (kapena, mwakuya, kubadwa kwa khanda) kuti "chonde" mwana wamkulu. "Mwamuna ali ndi zaka ziwiri, zisanu ndi ziwiri, makumi awiri ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri (kumbukirani momwe mwamuna wanu amachitira pa nkhani ya mimba yanu) zimatengera nthawi kuzindikira ndi kuvomereza mfundo imeneyi.Cifukwa cace, ndi bwino kuyamba kukonzekera mwana kuti agwiritse ntchito kubwezeretsa banja - kotero funso la kukula kwa mimba lidzatha palokha.
Kambiranani!
Sikuti ana onse amasangalala ndi uthenga uwu, motero m'mawu, ndi m'njira, amachititsa chidwi mwana. Tiyeni tiyambe kupweteketsa mimba yanu, mvetserani misozi (onani, mwanayo akukupatsani moni!), Werengani pamodzi "chidole" cha nthano, kuimba nyimbo, ndi zina zotero. Musaiwale kuchita nawo wamkulu ndi "osagwira nawo mbali" kwa wamng'ono, popanda kumukhudza tcherani. Kawirikawiri mwanayo akufuna, chabwino, kapena amavomereza kokha kwa mlongo (kapena kwa m'baleyo) ndipo safuna ngakhale kuvomereza za mwana wamwamuna kapena mkazi! Pankhaniyi, mukhoza kuyesa njira ziwiri zokambirana.
Nambala yoyamba 1 . "Ife sitinkadziwa yemwe ati adzabadwe, koma inu munapezeka. Bambo anga komanso ndimakukondani kwambiri, koma ngati munali mtsikana, ndiye kuti sitidakondane kwambiri. "
Mwina mwakonzekera mwana wamwamuna kapena mtsikana, musazengereze kuuza mwanayo za izo. Khalani otsimikiza kuti mutsimikizire kuti mumamukonda momwe iye alili!
Nambala yachiwiri yokha . "Iwe uli ndi chibwenzi, Masha. Kodi mumamukonda? Mumakonda kusewera nawo. Ndipo mlongoyo adzakhala ngati chonchi, kodi ndi zoipa? "
Ngati simunalekanitsidwe ndi mwana wanu kuchokera pa kubadwa, ndiye kuti mayi akuyang'ana mwana wina akhoza kusintha kwambiri.
Kodi izi zingapewe bwanji?
1. Nthawi yayitali asanafike mwana wachiwiri, pang'onopang'ono mwanayo azitha kulankhula ndi anthu ena popanda kutenga mbali.
2. Ngati mukukonzekera kupereka mkuluyo ku sukulu, chitani milungu ingapo, ndipo makamaka miyezi isanakwane. Ndikofunika kuti mwanayo asagwirizane ndi kuchepetsa nthawi yomwe akhala ndi amayi ndi kubadwa kwa wamng'ono! Kufunika kokayendera sukulu, amatha kuzindikira, monga chikhumbo chochotsa! Choncho mupatseni nthawi yodziwa, yondani gululo.
3. Ngati mwana wamkulu akugona pafupi ndi inu, ndipo tsopano mutamupititsa kuchipinda china, konzani "kusunthira" pasadakhale, chifukwa adzayenera kusiya malo pafupi ndi makolo ake okondedwa kwa "mlendo"! Tsindikani kuti tsopano mkulu adzakhala ndi chipinda chake. Lolani lichite nawo pokonzanso, ganizirani zofuna zake pa kusankha mipando, mapepala.
Mukakhala mochedwa ndi kusintha kwa zipinda ndipo mwana wayamba kale kuonekera, mungathe kukhala ndi bambo ndi mwana wamkulu kwa kanthawi. Kenaka amayamba kusintha kusintha, ndipo patapita miyezi ingapo adzaphunzira kugona yekha. Kusintha ndi kusasinthasintha pa nkhaniyi sikudzapweteka.
Pali njira yotulukira.
Pamene yaying'ono yayamba kale, vuto lalikulu limayambira: kugwiritsa ntchito katundu wa mkulu (kubisala, kuyala, zidole, mabuku, etc.). Gwirizanani, ndi zopusa kugula bulangeti yatsopano kuti igwe, ngati wamkulu kwambiri mwa iwo atakula bwino. Ndipo chifukwa chiyani mwana wazaka zinayi akulira? Koma pazifukwa zina, uthenga umene uyenera kugawana ndi wamng'ono kwambiri, umachititsa mkuntho wamantha ndi kulira. Makolo ena samamvetsera ("Will perebesitsya!") Zina, m'malo mwake, kuti asakhumudwitse mwanayo, akugula chirichonse chatsopano ("Ana ayenera kukhala ndi zinthu zawo, sangathe kuchotsedwa!"). Mwachibadwa, makolo amafunika kuganizira zofuna za mwanayo. Koma apa apa amataya nyumba, nayenso, mwinamwake safuna kutero. Ndipo, moona, sizotsika konse ... Kotero kachiwiri ife tikuwonetsa zamachenjera ndi luntha. Timabwera ndi njira zingapo kuti tisabwereze.
Nambala yoyamba 1 . Nthaŵi zina munganene kuti: "Iwe watha kale, posachedwa udzakhala ngati Adadi!" Koma kumbukirani kuti kudzikuza sikungapangitse chilakolako chokhalabe wamng'ono komanso wokondedwa kwambiri.
Nambala yachiwiri yokha . Tiyeni tiyambe kusewera ndi zidole zakale zowonongeka. Khulupirirani, chidwi chawo mwamsanga chidzatha. Ndiyeno timapereka kupereka zabwino kwa wamng'ono. Pang'ono ndi pang'ono, mosaganizira, kuti njirayo ikuyambira, ngati kuti ichokera kwa iyemwini. Sitidzaiwala, ndiye kuti (mwanayo) papa kapena agogo ake, ndi mwana wamwamuna wodala, osati wachisangalalo (kapena mwana wamwamuna), ndipo ndibwino bwanji kupereka mphatso yoteroyo!
Nambala 3 . Timagula mabuku awiri kapena zidole za mwana wamkulu. Koma "timagawaniza mofananamo" - chimodzimodzi ndi imodzi, kenako timapereka ndalama m'malo mwa wamng'ono. Iye sanawerenge buku lakale la Kolobok, choncho lingasinthe.Zotsatira zake, mwagula mkulu uja zomwe mwasonkhanitsa kale, ndipo chinachake chokha.
Pang'onopang'ono akuluakulu adziphunzira kugawana nawo, adzizoloŵera kugawana chikondi ndi chisamaliro cha makolo ndi mwamuna wina wamng'ono, ndipo posachedwa adzakondana ndi zovuta. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti amayi ndi abambo samafuna izi, koma mokoma mtima kumuthandiza chikondi ndi chifundo. Ndipo, ndithudi, ndikofunikira kuchita chilichonse chomwe chingatheke kuti tipewe nsanje ya ana, chifukwa ndicho chomwe chimayambitsa mikangano yambiri. Vutoli limakwera patsogolo pa makolo onse. Ndipo zimadziwonetsera mwa njira zosiyanasiyana.
Mwana wamkulu akhoza kukhala wokwiya, wofulumira, kapena angayesedwe yekha. Sikofunikira kuyembekezera kuti pakapita nthawi zonse zidzadutsa palokha. Nsanje ndikumverera kosokoneza komwe kungayambitse mantha osiyanasiyana ndi zovuta.
Kawirikawiri, amayi amafunika kusanthula mosamala khalidwe lake, kenako amvetsetsa zomwe zimasokonezeka mu ubale wake ndi ana ndipo amatha kubweretsa mtendere ndi mtendere ku banja.
Tiyeni tipereke zitsanzo zina.
Nambala yoyamba 1 . Amayi akhala miyezi isanu ndi iwiri atavala choponderezeka pansi pa mtima wake, tsopano akudyetsa mwana wake, samagawana naye usana kapena usiku. Ndi zachibadwa kuti amadzimva yekha. Koma pochita izi, amatsutsana ndi wamkulu (ife ndi inu). Pazifukwa zabwino, papa alowa mu "msasa" moyang'anizana ndi amayi ake, panthawi yomwe mkuluyo amakhalabe yekha payekha.
Nambala yachiwiri yokha . Amayi amaopa kuti wamkulu akhoza kuvulaza, choncho sichimakulolani kuti muyandikire, osati zomwe mungakhudze. Kuyankhulana kuli ndi malangizo ndi malangizo: "Usabwere! Musalankhule mokweza! Pitani ku chipinda china! ", Etc.
Nambala 3 . Pali mawu opusa ngati awa: "Choyamba nthano, ndiye lilk." Koma chofunika kwambiri cha vutoli mu mwambiwu chikuwonetseratu bwino, nthawi zambiri amayi amasintha zina mwazochita kwa mwana wamkulu, amene mwinamwake nthawi yomweyo amakhala "kale." Ndikhululukireni, koma munabala ndani? Inde, amayi amafuna thandizo. Pano pano pokhazikitsa kukondana ndi ntchito zapakhomo ndi bwino kuchita palimodzi, osati mmalo mwa amayi.
Okondedwa amayi, yang'anani nokha kuchokera kumbali. Mukawona zolakwa zanu, mudzapeza njira yothetsera. Ndipotu palibe amene amadziwa bwino ana anu kuposa inu. Kondani ana anu mwachidule, muwapatse chidwi chokwanira, ndi palimodzi, ndi wina aliyense. Ndiyeno banja lanu lidzakhala lolimba komanso lachikondi.