Maphunziro a amuna
Ngakhale mwanayo alibe bambo, sizikutanthauza kuti ayenera kusiya maphunziro a amuna. Choncho, nthawi zonse yesetsani kuonetsetsa kuti mwanayo amathera nthawi yambiri ndi oimira amuna. Agogo ndi amalume ayenera kumudziwitsa zomwe amayi samaphunzitsa. Chofunika kwambiri ndi chakuti inu nokha muyenera kuzindikira kuti maphunziro a amuna ayenera kukhala okhwima kuposa maphunziro achikazi. Choncho, ngati abambo anu, abwenzi anu kapena mbale wanu akukalipira mwana wanu ndipo sakukhudzidwa ndi zomwe akukufunsani, ndipo inu nokha mukudziwa kuti akulondola - simukusowa kuteteza mwana wanu. Iye sayenera kukhala ndi ulamuliro wazimayi okha m'moyo wake, komanso mzimayi. Choncho, lolani mwanayo kuti akuleredwe kwa munthu yemwe mumatsatira mfundo zake. Ngati abambo anu amakonda kukhala pa kompyuta ndikulola mwanayo chirichonse, malinga ngati samasokoneza, sangathe kulemba kwa mwana wake. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, ngati mchimwene wanu ali wolimba ndipo sakuchita, koma nthawi zonse amachita zinthu mwachilungamo, ndipo iye mwiniyo amakhala ndi malamulo a chikumbumtima ndi ulemu, ndiye iye amene ayenera kukhala ulamuliro kwa mwanayo, ndiko kuti, funso lomwe munthu sayenera kuphunzitsa moyo, amene mwanayo amamukonda kwambiri (ndipo ana amakonda omwe amalola chirichonse ndi kuchita) ndi amene angathedi kuikapo kanthu kena kopindulitsa.
Yankhulani kuti "ayi" kwa amayi omwe ali otsika kwambiri
Azimayi ambiri amadandaula kwambiri za ana awo ndipo nthawi zonse amawamvera chisoni, amatsutsana kuti alibe bambo, ndipo n'zovuta kuti akhale ndi moyo. Izi ndizolakwika. Kusakhala kwa abambo sikokwanira. Dzifunseni nokha, ndi ana angati omwe amakula ndi abambo-zidakwa, abambo, omwe samangosamala, abambo-despots. Mwana wanu, mmalo mwake, anali ndi mwayi. Palibe amene amamukhudza. Ndipo sizingakhale zopanda pake ndipo sadzalingalira ngati simudamupatsire. Komabe, muyenera kuchita zinthu mwanjira yomwe amamvetsa kuyambira ali wamng'ono: Ndine mwamuna m'banja lino, ndipo ndili ndi udindo wa mayi, osati iye kwa ine. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti simukusowa kuthandiza mwana wanu, koma chisamaliro chochuluka sichilandiridwa. Ngati chinachake sichimamugwirira ntchito, ngati ali wopanda nzeru komanso osasamala, izi si chifukwa chakuti alibe bambo. Afunika kuyesetsa kwambiri mu maphunziro ake ndi maphunziro ake, komanso chofunika kwambiri, osadzipangira. Ngati mwanayo samva ndikumumvera chisoni, ndiye kuti asiyidwa popanda bambo ake, ndiye kuti sangaganize za vutoli. Ndipo ngati wina akunena kuti alibe bambo, sangakhale ndi maganizo oti akhumudwitse. Pambuyo pake, ali ndi amayi abwino, agogo, amalume, samangomvetsa chifukwa chake Papa sangalekerere ndikumva kupweteka kumene kulibe munthu wotero m'moyo wake.
Kufuna namwino
Kulera mnyamata, nthawi zonse muyenera kukumbukira kuti khalidwe lake liyenera kukhala lamphamvu kuposa la mtsikana ndipo sangathe kulira pa chirichonse ndikupita kwa amayi ake. Inde, izi sizikutanthauza kuti mwanayo ayenera kuchita zonse ngati msilikali wamng'ono wa chilengedwe chonse, yemwe sasamala. Koma ngati mwanayo nthawi zambiri amalira, sakudziwa momwe angapatsire kusintha ndikukuthamangitsani kuti adandaule konse, ndiye kuti mwamsanga muyenera kusintha chitsanzo cha maphunziro. Fotokozerani kwa mwana kuti ali mnyamata, iye ndi mwamuna, choncho sayenera kulira ngati anyamata ena amamukhumudwitsa. Mosiyana ndi zimenezo, muyenera kusintha, ndipo musayembekezere mpaka amayi anu abwere ndikuwutulutsa. Muyenera kukhala wokonzeka kuti mwanayo azunzidwe ndi kuvulazidwa. Ndipo ziribe kanthu kuti mumamva kupweteka bwanji kwa iye, simukusowa kulira ndi kuphedwa. Ngati izi sizidutsa malire ndipo mnyamatayo samenyedwa, mungam'tamande chifukwa choteteza maganizo ake. Ndikofunikira kuti tiyang'ane ndiye kuti mwanayo akumenyera chilungamo, komanso osanyoza ena. Mulimonsemo, mnyamata aliyense ayenera kugwada, kumenyana ndi anyamata ndi kusewera pankhondo. Ngati mutenga kuchokera kwa iye, ndithudi adzakulira ngati "muslinbear", omwe sangathe kudziyimira yekha ndi kusamba misozi ndi chikondi.
Phunzitsani ntchito yanu
Mwana wamwamuna ayenera kuchita ntchito yake yachimuna. Inde, nayenso, ayenera kumazoloŵera kuthandiza panyumba, komabe chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti angathe kuchita zomwe akazi sayenera kuchita. Choncho, ngati chinachake chiyenera kukonzedwa mnyumba, nthawi zonse zimaphatikizapo mwanayo ntchitoyi. Ngati inu mukudziwa zambiri, ndiye mum'phunzitse, afotokoze, anene kuti iye ndi mwamuna, ndipo amuna nthawi zonse amathandiza amayi. Ngati simukudziwa momwe mungachitire chinachake, funsani achibale anu ndi abwenzi a abambo kuti akuthandizeni, kuti mwanayo akhale nawo. Ndipo iwo ayenera kumuphunzitsa mwanawothandiza, ndipo ngati akufunsa chifukwa chake nkofunikira, afotokozereni kuti anyamata onse aluntha ndi amalume ayenera kuthandiza atsikana, makamaka amayi awo.
Musadzipusitse nokha kukhala chikhalidwe chachikazi
Mzimayi yemwe watha zaka makumi anayi akulera mwana, nthawi zonse amafuna kuti akhalebe wabwino kwambiri pa dziko lapansi. Choncho, amayi amayamba kudziyerekezera ndi amayi ena oyambirira, ndiyeno mwana wamwamuna, ndipo amamuuza kuti amayi anga ndi abwino kwambiri. Kotero palibe chilichonse chimene ndingathe kuchita, mwinamwake, pamapeto pake, mwanayo adzakhala mwana wa mayi, yemwe sapeza yekha awiri, chifukwa palibe amene angafanane ndi amayi ake abwino. Choncho, yesetsani kuchitira malo anu mokwanira m'moyo wa mwana wamwamuna. Ngati amakukondani komanso amakulemekezani, mumathandiza komanso nkhawa, simukumukakamiza kuti akupatseni nthawi yake. Atsikana atayamba kuonekera m'moyo wa mnyamata, musayang'ane wina ndi mnzake molakwika. Ngakhale mutakhala kuti simukuwotcha, musamangomaliza kuthamanga mwana wake ndi ziphunzitso zamakhalidwe ndi malamulo kuti asagone. Choyamba, simudziwa munthuyu momwe amachitira, ndipo kachiwiri, ayenera kuphunzira kuchokera ku zolakwa zake mwiniwake. Mukhoza kutulutsa chinachake, mwadzidzidzi kutchula zosungira zake, koma musasonyeze kusakonda kwanu. Ngati iwe urebenka mayi wochenjera komanso womvetsa bwino, ndiye kuti nthawizonse adzayang'ana mkazi wofanana naye. Koma inu, monga mayi, simudzakhutitsidwa ndi wina aliyense, choncho dzichepetseni mumtundu wotere ndikukonzekera kuti mwana wanu akhale munthu wokhutira ndipo mulibe ufulu womusankha.
Chabwino, omalizira - nthawi zonse imamukakamiza mwanayo kuti "aphunzire" maphunziro. Mulole kuti achite mpira wa mpira (basketball, rugby), apite kukayenda, ndikufunanso kuwombera. Ngakhale ngati masewerawa ali okhumudwa, mulole mwana wanu akhale wamphamvu ndi wovuta. Kumbukirani kuti simungazisunge mu dziko lokondweretsa lomwe analengedwa ndi inu, kapena iye adzathawa kumeneko, kapena moyo udzamukakamiza kuti achoke, ndiyeno, pamene akukumana ndi dziko lenileni, iye, popanda mwamuna weniweni, adzasokonezekadi.