Cholinga chimachepetsa moyo
Kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi, muyenera kukhala ndi cholinga china. Victor Frankl, yemwe ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo a ku Austria analemba bwino za izi m'buku lake lakuti "Man in Search for Meaning". Anatsimikiza kuti m'ndende yozunzirako anthu, amene anali wamndende, iwo omwe anali ndi lingaliro la kukhalapo ndi zifukwa zomenyera moyo angapulumutsidwe.
Kuonjezera apo, kuchokera kuzipatala zambiri (komanso kuchokera pa zochitika zathu), tikudziwa kuti anthu omwe akuyesetsa kuti adziwe cholinga cha moyo wam'mbuyo amakhala odwala matenda oposa omwe adzipereka ndi kutaya chidwi chawo. Popanda cholinga pamoyo wathu, timakalamba msanga, kutaya mphamvu ndi ludzu la moyo.
Samalirani momwe thanzi la anthu omwe adapuma pantchito popanda cholinga chokhala ndi moyo umachepa. Kupanga ndalama ndi ntchito sizinali zosangalatsa. Ana anakulira ndi kudziimira. Kodi muyenera kuganiza chiyani? Muyenera kupeza zomwe mumakhulupirira ndi mtima wanu wonse. Bwerezerani mawu akuti "chifukwa chiyani" ndi mawu oti "kwa omwe". Musayese kuchoka pa siginecha pa cheke, choncho palibe chomwe chidzabwere. Muzigwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanu. Lolani kuti mukhale ndi chifukwa chodzuka m'mawa.
Mmene mungagwirire ndi zizoloŵezi zoipa
Deborah Mackinnis, Pulezidenti wa njira ndi kafukufuku pa Marshall School of Business, adachita kafukufuku wodziwika bwino wa sayansi. Ndi gulu lake, adadziwa kuti zosiyana ndi maganizo amkati zimathandiza kuthana ndi mayesero. Otsatira pa kuyesedwawa anagawa m'magulu atatu. Aliyense wa iwo anaitanidwira ku chipinda chomwe chinali chokongola komanso chokoma kwambiri chophika chokoleti.
Nkhani imodzi idakumbutsidwa za kudzimva kuti ndi olakwa ngati akadadya mkatewo. Ena adalangizidwa kulingalira momwe adzakhalire odzikweza kwa iwo eni mwa kusonyeza mphamvu. Gulu lachitatu linasiyidwa popanda malangizo. Chotsatira chake, mamembala a gulu lachitatu adadya zambiri, ndipo omwe amakakamizika kukumbukira za kunyada - osachepera.
Zikuwoneka kuti lingaliro la kulakwa silipindulitsa kwambiri ndipo limapereka mphamvu zochepa kuti zimenyane ndi mayesero kusiyana ndi kudzikuza. Munthu aliyense amakumana ndi chilakolako chochita zinthu zosangalatsa, koma osati zomveka kapena zowopsa pa thanzi. Kodi n'zotheka kuthetsa mayesero amenewa? Yankho: inde. Muyerekezere zosangalatsa zomwe mumapeza ngati simukutsutsa mayesero, ndi kunyada komwe kudzawonekera mwa inu mukakhala kutali ndi zochita zopanda pake.
Mphamvu Yachiritsa ya Chikondi
Monga momwe kafukufuku amasonyezera, ana omwe alibe chikondi amakula pang'onopang'ono kuposa momwe ayenera. Ndipo iwo omwe anali okondedwa pang'ono ali aang'ono, amakumana ndi mavuto aumunthu akakula. Popanda chikondi, timatha. Chilichonse chimene munthu amachita m'moyo, kupatula chimene chimagwiritsidwa ntchito mwachindunji kuti apulumuke, amachita m'dzina la chikondi.
Chosowa chathu cha kuzindikiridwa ndi kulemekezedwa palibe kanthu koma chosowa chodziwika cha chikondi. Ndipo kulira, kunyoza kapena kudandaula, ife timamuyitanira mwamphamvu. Chiwonetsero cha mkwiyo ndi chiwonetsero cha mantha omwe amakanidwa. Kodi mumatani ndi mwana wolira? Kodi mumulanga chifukwa cha kufuula? Kapena mumangovomereza kuti mukhale bata? Bwanji osachitanso chimodzimodzi ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wokwiya?
Zonse zaumwini, komanso mwinamwake, mavuto ndi chifukwa cha chikondi choletsedwa kapena kufufuza kwake kosapindulitsa. Kodi kawirikawiri zimachitika muzipatala za ku America kwa odwala ogona? Amabweretsedwa kwa agalu, ophunzitsidwa kuti azikhomerera manja ndi kukhala pafupi ndi bedi kuti athe kukodwa. Kodi ichi ndi chiani? Mwa kupereka ndi kulandira chikondi, timachiritsidwa.
Mfundo zowonjezereka komanso zochititsa chidwi - m'buku "Mfundo zatsopano pa chitukuko chaumwini."