Komabe, ngakhale kuti anthu ambiri amatha kulankhula, mwatsoka, sikuti tonsefe tikhoza kukhala ophatikizana okondweretsa omwe anthu ena angakonde kuti azigwiritsa ntchito maola ambiri a nthawi yaulere, kuti amve mawu otsatirawa pamilomo yathu. Ndiye tingatani kuti tikhale olankhula bwino omwe angathe kuchitapo kanthu, kupanga kuseka ndikungokonda ndi omvera ndi mawu ochepa chabe?
Chodabwitsa kwambiri, ndi kosavuta kuti ukhale wolemba bwino, ngakhale kuti padzatenga zaka zopitilira chaka kuti agwire ntchitoyi. Pamtima pa zomwe zili zosangalatsa kwa anthu oyandikana nanu, koposa zonse, lingaliro la "kudabwa". Inde, ndi chifukwa chakuti amatha kudabwa omvetsera ndi chiganizo chilichonse ndipo tikukhala osangalatsa komanso, okonda okamba nkhani. Mwachitsanzo, zingakhale zosangalatsa kuti muwone zovuta pamene mumadziwa bwino momwe chidutswa chilichonse chachinyengochi chikuchitikira ndi zomwe muyenera kuyembekezera pamapeto pake. Ayi ndithu! N'chimodzimodzinso ndi luso loyankhula - mukhoza kudziona ngati munthu wokondwa kwambiri, koma ngati mumanena nthabwala zomwezo tsiku ndi tsiku lomwe mumawerenga mu bukhu la "101 nthano zonyansa kwambiri," palibe amene adzamwetulira, koma pitani mukamvetsere , mwachitsanzo, pa zokhazokha zowonongeka kapena fizikia ya quantum mu moyo wa munthu wamba.
Phunziro lachiwiri lofunika kwambiri kuti muphunzire musanayambe kulota kuti mukhale luso lalikulu ndiloti musayese kukambirana za zinthu zomwe simukuzidziwa. N'zotheka kuti mulibe chidziwitso chakuya, ziribe kanthu, kupatula imodzi. Choncho yesetsani kudabwitsa anthu ndi zomwe mumadziwa pa nkhaniyi, ndipo musayang'ane kuzindikira kwina konse, pothandizira kuyankhulana pa nkhani zomwe mwamvapo kale m'moyo wanu. Anthu ambiri amafunsa momwe angachitire pa nthawi yomwe mutuwo, kwa wina ndi womveka kwa inu, sangasinthe, monga momwe simungathe kukhalira chete. Yankho, monga nthawi zonse, liri losavuta - kudzidzudzula kudzakuthandizani. Mwachidule, ngati mukukumana ndi vuto pamene mukukakamizika kukambirana za chinachake chimene simukuchidziwa, yesetsani kugwiritsa ntchito kusadziwa kwanu ndipo mmalo mofunsa mafunso kwa ena za mutuwo, mutha kuyesa kugwiritsa ntchito chinyengo chanu ndikufunsani ena, ndiye izi pa mutu uwu, zomwe adzayenera kulingalira ndi kuyesa kupeza yankho, kusiyana ndi momwe mungaperekere pang'ono, komanso chidwi cholankhulana kwanu. Ngati simungathe kuchita izi, mungathe kumasulira funso lomwe mwafunsidwa, monga nthabwala kwa munthu wina aliyense pagulu lanu.
Ndipo, potsiriza, luso lachitatu lofunika kwambiri lomwe wokamba ndi wotchuka kwambiri pakati pa anthu ali nalo ali olimba mtima ndi kusowa kwa kudzichepetsa kwambiri. Nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti pamene mukunena chinachake, mumanena mawu, mawu ndi mawu onse kwa anthu omwewo monga momwe mumadzikondera nokha, amene angoyimirira ndi kuyamba kulankhula kuti adzakumbukire msanga za inu ndipo adzakakamizika kukhala Pambuyo pake ndikudya tiyi, koma ena a Vasya Petrov ochokera ku chomera adzakondweretsa ndi kuwasangalatsa, ndi kuwadabwitsa ndi makina ena. Choncho, ndikofunika kwambiri kukumbukira kuti mutangotsegula pakamwa panu ndikutchula mawu oyambirira - kuyambira pano mukukhala mfumu yachigonjetso ndipo ndizoti mutenge nthawi yaitali bwanji musanatulutse. Ndipo mfumu iyenera kulamulira motani? Kulondola - mofuula, momveka bwino, wochuluka, wochenjera, ndi wofunikira - mwachilungamo. Kupitiliza kuchokera ku izi, timapanga ndondomeko yoyenera yolemba: zabwino rhetoric = mawu okweza ndi omveka bwino + malingaliro, zachidziŵitso ndi zosangalatsa kwa ena.
Pomaliza ndikufuna kuzindikira kuti chinthu chachikulu sichiwopa kulankhula ndi kufotokoza malingaliro anu, chifukwa anthu omwe amatha kugwirizana ndi ena sakhala okonda, ndipo sakonda. Ngakhale ngati malingaliro anu amatsutsana kwathunthu ndi malingaliro a ena - fotokozani chirichonse momwe mukuganizira, ndiyeno mudzalemekezedwa chifukwa cha kulimbika mtima kwanu kuti mupite motsutsana ndi ena, ndipo ngati "muwonetsa" maganizo anu otsutsana ndi chithandizo cholankhulidwa momveka bwino, ndiye otsogolera sadzanena chilichonse choipa, koma ndikukuthokozani nthawi zabwino kwambiri pamene iwo ankamvetsera mawu okongola, omveka bwino.