Kaŵirikaŵiri gwirizaninso ndi mtsinje wa ukwati

Ndinayenera kulowa mu mtsinje waukwati kawiri, chifukwa mgwirizano wamuyaya ndi mwamuna woyamba sunathere? Palibe amene amanena kuti izi zimachitika nthawi zonse, koma zimachitika nthawi zambiri. Chikwati choyamba nthawi zambiri chimachitika pa chikondi chachikulu (chachikulu chabe padziko) chikondi ndi kwanthawizonse. Wokondedwa amawoneka ngati wangwiro ... ndipo mwamsanga amatsika kuchokera ku chida ichi kupita ku dothi lenileni, ndipo kuchokera kumeneko nthawi zambiri mpaka kumapiri. Pambuyo pa kupatula mbale, kulumikiza manja, kugawaniza mapepala ndi ziwonetsero zowawa pa mutu wakuti "Munthu ndi chilango chochokera Kumwamba," mphindi ya chidziwitso imakhala mkati. Mukuwona kuti zomera zokongola zikuzungulira maluwa, ndipo amuna sali owopsya monga momwe alili ndipo amakusamalirani mwachidwi. Mukuona kuti mukufuna kuti wina akhale pafupi ndi chimwemwe ndi chisoni! Komabe, ndi munthu amene amawonekera limodzi, timakhala osamala kwambiri. Ndicho, ndithudi, chikondi. Ndipo kukwatira, komwe kumakhala kosalekeza nthawizonse, kuitana. Koma mwanjira ina mumaganiza: ndi ichi, kachiwiri kudalira? Zimatanthauza - kachiwiri kukangana? Kapena mwinamwake dikirani? Kapena mwinamwake "mwanjira ina"? Koma mwinamwake ndi zoyenera kuyesa-basi mwanjira yina ^ mwinamwake?

Khalani osamala
Kulowa mumtsinje waukwati kaŵirikaŵiri ndizovuta kwambiri kuti sizili zophweka kupanga. Kuchokera pambali iyi ya chikwati chachiwiri - kulemera kwakukulu kwa zosankha zonse - zonse zabwino ndi zoipa zomwe zikuwonekera.

Zabwino:
1. Kuyesera kusabwereza zolakwitsa zapitazo. Sitikuchitanso kanthu koyamba. Medlim, timayang'ana pang'ono, timayesa tisanadule ndi kusoka.
2. Kuchokera kwa mwamuna wachiwiri sichiyembekezeredwa chikondi chosatha ndi lingaliro m'zonse. Kumabwera kumvetsetsa kuti aliyense ali ndi zofooka zawo, ngakhalenso chikhumbo chofuna kukhala nawo pamodzi.
3. Mwamvetsetsa bwino zokhumba zanu, muli ndi malo omveka bwino pazochitika zonse za moyo wanu, osati chabe "kuti zonse zikhale ngati nkhani yamatsenga." Choncho kukonzekera moyo ndi zomveka komanso zomveka.

Zoipa:
1. Mwamuna wokayikira akhoza kutenga chisamaliro ichi kuti azizizira. Ndipo mkazi mwiniwake kwinakwake mu mtima wake akufuna kuti "awotche" kachiwiri, ndiyeno_chikhalidwe chanzeru ndi chiyani mu nkhani za mtima, makamaka!
2. Nthawi zambiri pamakhala kuyerekezera kosagwirizana pakati pa "limodzi" ndi "wina". Ngati chatsopano sichinali choyamba, chimakhala chonyansa. Ndipo ngati amva za izi, zimamukhumudwitsa kwambiri. Kenanso, kuti ndione kuti "izi zikhoza kutha monga momwe zinathera zomwe zinkawoneka zosatha, kapena mwamsanga," sangakhale omasuka.
3. Iye, mwachiwonekere, ndizinthu zonse zakhazikitsidwa kale ndi kupanga. Pamene mfundo zikhala zolimba, zimakhala zovuta kuzikonza molingana ndi momwe zilili ndikusinthira wina. Ngakhale kuti maximalism yachinyamata yayamba, ngati, kuchepetsa ...

Apanso zomwezo
Ngakhale - kungakhale kosavuta kunena kuti zonse zopanda malire zimayamba kukhala ndi chibwenzi chatsopano. Pankhaniyi, banja lachiwiri lidzakhala, monga lamulo, lomalizira - motero, pambuyo pawo sichidzasudwanso. Ndipo iwo, mwatsoka, nthawizina sali amphamvu kwambiri kuposa woyamba ... Zonse chifukwa "pakati pa nthawi yoyamba ndi yachiwiri" yozizira ndi kuganiza "sizimayi onse. Kawirikawiri atsikanawo amatayidwa kuchokera pamoto kupita kumoto - kungoiwala wokhumudwitsa, kapena kumukhumudwitsa, kapena kusakhala wosungulumwa. Kubwerezabwereza kotereku kumachimwa mobwerezabwereza pobwereza zomwezo. Zimapezeka kuti watsopanoyo ali ndi maganizo ofanana ndi akale - ngati osati ndi thupi, ndiye kuti ndizochita zenizeni! Ndipo mkhalidwewo, mwachimvekere, umamveka. Pomwe kusintha sikukusintha ife, njira zomwezo ndi zofananazo zimakhalabe ... Akatswiri a zamaganizo amachitcha kuti "gestalt yosatha". Mwachizoloŵezi, ikhoza kusewera nthawi iliyonse. Zoona, kink kumbali ina sizingakhale bwinoko: pofufuza "mosamalitsa" "zomwe ndinkakhumudwa nazo panthawiyo", mayi angasonyeze kukhulupirika koteroko ndikutsatira kuti iyeyo akudziphatika yekha mumatunthu ovuta ... Nanga mumatani , ngati mukufuna kupeza pakati pakati pa "kufufuza ndi kulingalira zomwe simukufuna kubwereza" ndi "kuyeretsa bukhu lakummbuyo kuti lisapititse patsogolo zomwe zatha kale"? Uwu ndi luso lalikulu lolowera kawiri mu mtsinje wa ukwati, ndiko kuti, muukwati wachiwiri!

Mapulogalamu Opanda
Kuwonjezera pa mitima iwiri yomwe yatenga chisankho chimodzi, zifukwa zingapo ndi ophunzira atsopano akuwoneka m'banja lachiwiri:
1. Ana ochokera m'mabanja apitalo. Nthaŵi zambiri, amavomereza kusintha kwa moyo wawo ndi makolo awo. Koma kawirikawiri izi sizowononga kwenikweni, koma chitetezo-kutsimikizira zomwe zimachitika. Kuti mukhale osachepera anu, koma kuti musakhale chidole chofewa, wina ayenera kukhala ndi chipiriro chochuluka. Kulowa mumtsinje waukwati kaŵirikaŵiri ndi gawo loyenera kwa inu ndi okondedwa anu.
2. Theka la magawo anu atsopano. Pangakhale ndi mavumbulutso ("Mukugwiritsabe ntchito, ndikuyeretsa nsapato zake nthawizonse") kapena ndi malangizo ("Musaphike zakudya zamtundu, zimathamanga kwambiri"). Ndi bwino kuthetsa zokambiranazi: mumvetsetse nokha.
3. Achibale omwe amakhala okondwa kapena osasangalala ndi kusintha. Khalani mwamtendere mpaka mutayamba kuzizoloŵera.