Ndizovuta kwambiri kukhala, pamene simungathe kukhululukira, simungabwerere, ndipo mukupitiriza kumukonda. Inu mumamvetsa kuti inu simungakhoze kuchita monga iye amachitira. Mwina zimapweteka munthu kapena inu chifukwa cha mavuto m'banja, makompyuta ndi zina zambiri. Inu mumabwereza izi nthawi iliyonse ngati mantra kuti mukhululukire. Kenaka kubwera kusintha, pamene kuzindikira zonse zomwe zikuchitika zikuphatikizapo mthunzi wachisanu ndi chinayi ndipo sikuthekanso kukhala nawo, ndipo popanda izo ndi zopweteka komanso zopanda kanthu. Nthawi zonse mumaganiza za kumukhululukira. Pambuyo pa zonse, simungathe kutenga chinthu chimodzimodzi ndi kupweteka kamodzi, zonse zabwino zomwe munali nazo. Koma, popeza ndinu munthu wololera, mumadziwa kuti ngati mubwerera kwa iye, kuzunzidwa kudzapitirira. Ngakhale, komabe, pamene sichikuzungulira, zikuwoneka kuti ndinu woipitsitsa kwambiri.
Ndipotu, sitiopa kuiwala chikondi. Tikuopa kuiwala zinthu zazing'ono zonsezi, zinthu zonse zomwe zimatiyika pamodzi. Kwa zaka zambiri, pamene munthu adali pafupi ndi ife, timakhala naye pafupi, timamaphunzira. Tikudziwa kuti amamukonda, ndipo amadana naye, timadziwa momwe angatithandizire kuchita izi kapena izi, timadziwa chifukwa chake ali chete komanso zomwe akufuna kunena. Mukatayika munthu wotero, ngakhale pa zofuna zanu, zimakhala zomvetsa chisoni chifukwa munthu wina tsopano adziwa, kaya inu, kapena wina angachite cholakwika, chifukwa sakudziwa. Komabe, sindikufuna kuyambiranso, kuyamba kuphunzira ndikukumana ndi nthawi zonse zomwe munakumanapo musanakwatirane. Koma, panthawi zina, nthawi zina mumayenera kuchoka zakale ndikupita patsogolo. Zinthu zabwino zimakumbukirabe nthawi zonse. Palibe amene angakhoze kuchotsa izo. Ndipo ngati tidziwa kuti sikutanthauza kukhululukirana, ndiye kuti munthuyu sali woyenera ndipo tiyenera kupeza wina. Ngakhale zidawoneka kuti iyi ndi theka lachiwiri. Kwa munthu aliyense, zifukwa zolekana zingakhale zosiyana. Mnyamata wina amanyoza ndi kumenyedwa, wina amangosiya kunyalanyaza, wina amamvetsa kuti sangathe kukhala ndi munthu wosakhulupirika, ndipo amadziwa kuti wokondedwa wake ndi wovuta kwambiri komanso akuyang'ana kwa banja lake ndi abwenzi ake. Mulimonsemo, ndicho chifukwa chake kupatukana. Kodi mungatsimikize bwanji kuti zonse ziri bwino? Ndipotu, mukakhululukira ndikukumvetsa kwa nthawi yayitali, malingaliro amenewa samangobwera mwadzidzidzi. Ndizo zotsatira za nthawi yayitali ndi zochitika. Choncho, zosankha zoterezi ndizolemera komanso zanzeru. Musadzipange nokha chifukwa chochita zimenezo. Inde, tsopano ndi kovuta kwa inu ndi kukumbukira zinthu zabwino zomwe zachitika pakati pa inu, chiyambi chimayamba, misonzi, kukwiya ndi zochitika. Musalole kuti mukhale omasuka ndi kumira muzochitika zoterezi. Ndipo ngati izi zikuchitika - muyenera kukumbukira zomwe zinapangitsa kuti asiyane. Izi sizinali zodabwitsa, koma zinthu zazikulu zomwe simungathe kuziyanjanitsa nazo, ngakhale kuti mumafuna. Choncho, ganizirani kawirikawiri, ngakhale kukumbukira kukupangitsa mkwiyo. Ndi bwino kukhala wokwiya ndikutemberera munthu kusiyana ndi kulirira iye usiku, kugwira foni m'manja mwako ndi kudana nokha popanga chisankho ndikuponyera munthu wokongola. Inde, mwinamwake sizoipa, kapena kale. Koma, pakali pano, khalidwe lake ndilolakwika ndipo simukuyenera kulipirira. Choncho, nthawi zonse uzikhala wekha, musalole kuti muitane ndi kumulembera. Muyenera kusunga kwa miyezi ingapo yoyamba, ndipo zonse zidzadutsa. Chabwino, ndithudi, si onse ndipo osati nthawi yomweyo, koma zidzakhala zosavuta mosavuta. Pakapita nthawi, mukhoza kukhala mabwenzi, ngati, ndithudi, mumafuna. Pambuyo pake, zimachitika kuti munthu samakukwanira ngati theka lachiwiri, koma, panthawi imodzimodziyo, ndiye bwenzi labwino kwambiri, yemwe mumamukonda mwachibadwa. Choncho, musasiye kwathunthu anthu pamene chikondi chikudutsa. Koma kuyambiranso kukondana, sikoyenera. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti ngati kugawidwa kwachitika kale, ndipo sikuchitika mwadzidzidzi, koma molingana ndi chikhumbo chanu komanso mutatha kusinkhasinkha kwa nthawi yaitali, zimangotanthauza kuti zonsezi zimachitidwa molondola. Ngati mubwereranso kwa mnyamatayu, ayambiranso kuchita zinthu mofananamo ndipo izi zidzabwereza. Ndipo mudzapwetekedwa kachiwiri, mudzazunzika kachiwiri, mukupatukana nawo. Choncho, ululu uwu ndi bwino kupulumuka kamodzi, osati kusangalala nawo nthawi zonse. Khalani owona pa zosankha zanu ndipo musadzitsimikizire nokha kuti mnyamatayo adzasintha. Inde, pali zochitika zoterezi, koma ndizokhaokha. Kwenikweni, munthu amangoyesera kuti adziyerekeze kuti wasintha kuti abwerere. Ngati atero, poyamba amagwira ntchito, koma zonse zimabwerera kuzinthu zachilendo. Zimatenga nthawi yaitali kuti zitsimikizire kuti munthuyo wasintha. Choncho, ngakhale mutasankha kubwerera, muyenera kuyembekezera nthawi yaitali kwambiri. Koma si zoona kuti izi zidzachitika. Choncho, musadzipatse chiyembekezo, ngati simukudziwa kuti zonse zidzachitika monga mukufunira. Lolani nokha kuti mukhalebe patsogolo, pitirirani patsogolo ndikudziwana ndi amuna. Ngati munthu amene wamusiyadi ndi tsogolo lanu, lidzasintha ndipo moyo udzakufikitsani pamodzi. Koma, ngati angangokumana kuti mukhale ndi zochitika zinazake, ndiye kuti musamamugwiritse manja ndi mapazi anu. Phunzirani kuti musasiye zochita zanu, ngakhale zitakhala zowawa komanso zoipa. Moyo samatibweretsera ife mphatso nthawi zonse, koma mayesero samangoperekedwa. Nthawi zina muyenera kuzindikira kuti munthu sali woyenera chikondi chathu ndi kumusiya iye. Onetsetsani kuti ngakhale tsopano mukuda nkhaŵa chifukwa cha chisankho chanu, m'kupita kwanthawi mudzadziŵa bwino lomwe chomwe chinali cholondola kwambiri, ndipo pamene chichotsedwe, chirichonse chikanakhala choipa kwambiri.