Mtsikana wokondedwa, kodi mumakonda anyamata? Ngati inde, ndiye nkhaniyi ndi yanu. Zimapezeka kuti anyamata ndi osiyana ndi anamwali. Poyamba inu, ndithudi, simungakhulupirire kuti iye ndi namwali. Ndiye inu mudzadabwa moona mtima. Chabwino, pamene palibe kukayikira katsalira, zidzakhala zofunikira kusankha ngati mukufuna chiyanjano ndi munthu woteroyo. Kodi tingayembekezere chiyani kuchokera kwa iwo komanso chochita nawo?
Choyamba, ganizirani mitundu yayikulu ya anamwali. Amakonda kwambiri asungwana ambiri. Timadziwa mwamsanga kuti malingaliro otchuka pa zachinyengo za achinyamata omwe alipo tsopano si zoona zenizeni. Zomwe mukuganiza zogwirizana ndi nkhani zogonana nthawi zambiri zimabisira chowonadi chenichenicho.
Pseudo-macho.
Podziwa kale muphunzire za "kupambana" kwake koyamba. Kotero, koma malingaliro ake, amuna enieni amakhala ngati hamovato ndi amwano. Onetsani mtima wawo wonyansa kwa kugonana kwa atsikana, iye adzakhala ndi vuto lina lililonse. N'zotheka kuti gawo limodzi la bile lidzagwa ndipo iwe - pamaso pa omvera ang'onoang'ono palimodzi ndi anzanu kapena abwenzi anu. Koma ndibwino kuti phokosolo likhale ndi inu nokha, m'matumbo a "mnyamata wolimba" adzasanduka wachinyamatayo. Njira yeniyeni yothetsera mavuto ake ndikum'kondweretsa iye, "ntchito zake" komanso kutchuka kwa amayi. Tsindikani yanu - ndi malo anu - pazifukwa zopanda pake ndi ubwino pa amuna ena. Muthandizeni kuti akhulupirire mwa iyemwini, ndipo simungapeze wokondwa ndi wokonzeka kuti muthandizane naye ngakhale pakati pa omenyana nawo omwe ali olimbana.
Zovuta zowonjezereka: Mwamva ngati wamkulu, pseudo-macho angafune kutsimikizira kuti ali ndi mphamvu kuchokera kwa anzake. Kutsutsa kwake motsutsana ndi zomwe mwakumana nazo kapena chilakolako chofuna kulamulira, nanunso, sichikhoza kugwira ntchito yabwino.
Katswiri wa zithunzi zowawa.
Kuwoneka kosangalatsa, kuwerenga ndakatulo, kukulira pa benchi, kuyenda ndi mwezi - kutsogolo kwa iwe munthu wokalamba ndi namwali. Amanyalanyaza komanso amachita manyazi ngakhale asanamugwire, ngakhale pamakambirano achizoloŵezi pamutu. Ngati anyamata oterewa amakwatiwa ndi amayi omwe ali okondana ngati madontho awiri a madzi, amapeza mabanja abwino, omwe amati: "Kuchokera pamodzi". Mu ubale ndi mwamuna yemwe samabisa maganizo ake, ndondomeko yabwino ndizowona mtima ndi luntha. Ngati mwavomereza poyera kuti mumadziwa chifukwa cha manyazi komanso osayang'ana kanthu koipa, adzakuyankhani mwachikondi ndi kuyamikira.
Zingatheke zovuta: ntchito yake yosasangalatsa idzamukondweretsa kwambiri kotero kuti mtsogolomu nthawi zonse muyenera kuyesetsa. Ngati muli ndi chibwenzi cholimba, kulimbikitsa aliyense, ngakhale zochepa, zochita za mnzanu wogonana.
Tsopano tiyeni tifotokoze mitundu yayikulu ya anamwali achimuna aakulu. Inu mumaganiza kuti iye anali atakwatirana kwa nthawi yayitali kapena ngakhale atasudzulidwa kale - ndi zaka, izo zinayikidwa. Koma zinapezeka kuti izi ndi zolakwika. Ndipo zimachitika.
Wasayansi kapena wimbo.
Zaka khumi zapitazi, kapena makumi awiri, anali wotanganidwa kwambiri. Iye analemba zolembazo, anayesera kupeza dipiti ya pyrite yodalirika kapena mwachangu kuti akufuna kukhala woyang'anira woyenera wa dera la Perm. Mwachidziwikire, iye sadali payekha. Zodzazidwa ndi mabuku ndi mafoda tebulo lapfumbi ndi masokosi osakhala ofunika ndi zizindikiro zapadera za namwali. Iye ndi mnzake wokondweretsa, ndipo simudzasokonezeka naye. Inde, chiyembekezo chokhala bwenzi la moyo wa munthu wanzeru ndi wolenga, makamaka ngati wafika pamlingo winawake pa ntchito yake, akuyesa kwambiri. Nanga bwanji za kugonana? Mwamuna yemwe alibe kunja kwa amayi nthawi yaitali amakhala wokondwa ndi mawonekedwe a cholengedwa chokongola mu bedi lake losungirako. Chinthu chachikulu ndikugawana zofuna zake zauzimu, zina zonse ndizo njira, zomwe inu mosiyana ndi iye simukuziwona.
Zingakhale zovuta: dongosolo la zinthu zofunika kwambiri lakhazikitsidwa kale. Ndi zopusa kuyembekezera kuti pakufika kwa moyo wanu, ntchito ya moyo wake wonse idzatenga mpando wakumbuyo. Mulimonsemo, mudzafunika kuchepetsa nthawi zonse zamoyo za sayansi kuchokera ku sayansi "kumwamba" kwa ochimwa (mwachindunji cha mawu) nthaka. Mvetserani, kodi mwakonzeka izi.
Amayi ali ndi chuma chamtengo wapatali.
Mwana wa mayi wamphamvu ndi kunyada kwake. Palibe amayi omwe amawonekera pambali pake, malinga ndi kholo, adayenera kukhala ndi chimwemwe cha chuma chake. Pa nthawi yomweyi, munthu wotere akhoza kukhala wopambana, wophunzira komanso wophunzitsidwa. Ndipo wokongola, yemwe ali wodzitonza kwambiri. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa milandu yovuta kwambiri. Koma zonse ndi zotheka, ngati mumatha kunyenga namwaliyo musanakumane ndi amayi ake. Iye ali ndi khalidwe laling'ono, ndipo chinthu chodalira chimatha kusiyana malingana ndi zochitika.
Zingatheke zovuta: pazomwezi zikutsimikiziridwa. Simungathe kutenga malo a mayi mu moyo wake, choncho musataye nthawi ndi mphamvu zanu. Kulimbana nthawi zonse ndi izo kungakhale kosaoneka kwambiri. Koma ngati mungathe kumupatsa ulemu, mudzakhala mfumukazi yosasinthika ya mtima wa munthu woteroyo. Ndipo simudzakhala nawo mpikisano.
Amwali otchuka kwambiri.
Zimakhulupirira kuti pali kugwirizana pakati pa talente ndi chiyero. Ambiri ambiri anakhalabe osalakwa miyoyo yawo yonse, ndipo ena anali kudziwana ndi kugonana ali wamkulu. Vuto ndi Lewis Carroll ndikuti Alice anakulira mu moyo wake. John Raskin anakhalabe namwali ngakhale muukwati. Hans Christian Andersen analemba nthano za chikondi, zomwe analibe. Nikolai Gogol amaona kuti kugonana ndi tchimo. Ndi Arthur Schopenhauer, "ichi" chinachitika ali ndi zaka 70. Ndipo potsiriza, Sigmund Freud, yemwe dzina lake limagwirizana kwambiri ndi kugonana pakati pa anthu onse, adapewa akazi kufikira ali ndi zaka 30.
Zimayambitsa ubwana.
Chofunika kwambiri monga kukonzekera mwakuthupi ndi m'maganizo kuti chiyambi cha moyo wa kugonana. Kukhazikitsidwa kwake kwa zaka 22-30 kumayankhula za mavuto oyankhulana ndi amuna kapena akazi. Kawirikawiri kudzichepetsa kwambiri kwa anamwali kumawululidwa. Medali iyi ili ndi mbali ziwiri: mwamuna akhoza kumvetsetsa kwambiri kwa mkazi, koma nthawi zina izi ndi zochitika zazing'ono. Pambuyo pa zosangalatsa zoyamba, kufufuza zokhudzidwa kwatsopano kumayambira. Choncho, ngati chiyanjano ndi namwali chimazikidwa pazinthu zachilendo, sizidzakhala zothazikika. Kudziona kuti ndiwe wolemekezeka mwa munthu wodzala ndi nsanje, akunena zachisoni. Ngati buku lokhala ndi namwali liri ndi malingaliro enieni ndipo onse awiri ali okhwima maganizo, chiyambi chotero chingakhale chabwino kwambiri. Choncho, ngati atsikana omwe mumakonda ndi anyamatawo amamanga maubwenzi, khalani oleza nawo kwambiri komanso kudzichepetsa pang'ono.