Ndipo madokotala amadziwa bwino kwambiri kuposa wina aliyense. Aliyense akudziwa udindo waukulu wa mawu mu maubwenzi pakati pa anthu, koma sikuti aliyense akumvetsa momwe angagwiritsire ntchito mphamvu yake. Tiyeni tiwone zitsanzo zina, pamene mawu ali ndi tanthauzo lapadera m'moyo wathu.
Mfundo zosasinthika zikutsutsana: kulankhula kwa fyuluta
Mabanja onse amakangana, monga akatswiri a zamaganizo amati. Mabanja okondwa okha amakangana molimbika, osasangalala - mwawononga. Kusiyanitsa kwakukulu pakati pa mkangano umene ukuwululira ndi kuthetsa vutoli, ndi mkangano umene umapangitsa kuti kugonana kusokonezeke, uli ndi kuthekera kuti usakwaniritse mfundo zosasinthika.
Mfundo zosatsutsika mukumenyana - izi ndizo mawu kapena mawu omwe amatha kuyika mfundo ya mafuta mu chiyanjano. Chimodzi mwa zitsanzo zochititsa chidwi kwambiri ndi uthenga wotsutsa. Ngati okwatirana kapena okonda kukangana, ndipo mu fuse, mmodzi wa iwo akunena kuti wasintha, zikhoza kuwononga maubwenzi ovuta kwambiri.
Mfundo yosalephera nthawi zonse imafunika yokha, nthawi zina ikhoza kukhala ellipsis. Mwachitsanzo, akukhulupirira kuti chifukwa cha kusamvana kwa banja, mfundo yosatsutsika ndi mawu omwe amachititsa kuti makolo awo azilemekeza. Koma mosiyana ndi nkhani za kusakhulupirika, muyenera kuitana makolo anu makolo nthawi zambiri ndi mawu osayenerera kapena kuwadzudzula chinthu chofunika kwambiri musanasankhe chisankho.
Mfundo zotsutsana m'mabanja osiyanasiyana zimasiyana. Nkhani ina yonena za chiwembu ndi yosamvetsetseka, ena ndi ofanana. Ena samakhululukira zokangana ndi makolo awo, ena amatha kukhala mumtsutso kwa zaka zambiri. Choncho nthawi zambiri zimatenga nthawi kuti muzindikire zomwe zimapangitsa kuti mnzanuyo asakhale wosakhulupirika.
Musanene konse "konse"
Chinsinsi china cha kupambana mikangano, kubwezeretsa ubale, ndi mphamvu yosadziwika. Mawu a mawonekedwe: "onse", "nthawizonse", "nthawizonse", "kosatha", "palibe", "palibe" ayenera kuchotsedwa mu mawu anu ngati mukufuna kusunga ubale. Ponena za ana, mawu awa ndi olakwa. Kuwuza mwana chinachake monga: "Nthawi zonse mumachedwa" kapena "Simunaphunzire kulankhula Chingerezi mwachizolowezi" - mumakonza pulogalamuyi. Mwanayo alibe kudzidalira ndipo sangathe kudziyesa yekha. Sadziwa ngati amayi ake ali otopa komanso okwiya, kapena kuti sali wophunzira komanso wolemekezeka, kotero kuti chirichonse chimawonetsedwa pamtengo wapatali. Udindo wa mawu pa kulera kwa mwana ndi waukulu, ndipo wina sayenera kuzunza ulamuliro wa makolo pa nkhaniyi.
Musamafanizire munthu ndi wina aliyense kupatula iye mwini
Njira yothandiza yosonyeza kusakhutira ndikutetezera kuzipanga komanso kufananitsa. Zimagwirizananso pakati pa anthu pazochitika zilizonse: kunyumba, kuntchito, ndi mabwenzi, ndi ana, ndi okondedwa.
Ngati munthu mmodzi amapereka maluwa, ndipo wina amasonyeza chikondi posamalira thanzi la mkazi kapena ntchito zapakhomo, musawafanizire. Izi si zoipa ndipo si zabwino, zokhazokha kapena zooneka bwino za khalidwe ili timadzimangiriza. Kodi mukufuna kupatsidwa maluwa? Konzekerani munthu wachuma omwe ali ndi mndandanda wa masitolo, omwe ali ndi "maluwa a mkazi wokondedwa." Kapena mungowirizitsa ndi wekha: "Mukandipatsa maluwa, mumakhala munthu wokondana kwambiri pa Dziko lapansi." Musamamuphunzitse moyo ndikumuuza nkhaniyo "Koma Man'kin Vasya samayiwala kupereka maluwa ake."
Momwe mungasonyezere kusakhutira ndi kusakhumudwitsa
Masters m'mabuku a mabuku m'nthawi yathu ndi olemba mapulogalamu a NLP. Mapulogalamu a chinenero cha Neuro amakulolani kuti muphunzire mwatsatanetsatane udindo wa mawu mu maubwenzi pakati pa anthu. Nchifukwa chiyani anthu omwe amaliza maphunziro a NLP amapambana pa malonda? Chifukwa chakuti amaphunzitsidwa kuti athe kupititsa kumadera ovuta poyankhulana, yambani kuyankhulana, mwamsanga mupeze malo okhudzana ndi oyankhulana.
Choncho, mu NLP pali njira zambiri zosangalatsa zokwaniritsira zofuna zanu. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukufuna kukopa wina kusintha, koma safuna kukhala wothandizira komanso munthu amene amaphunzitsa akuluakulu kumtima, mukufunikira kulankhula mwachidule.
Kulongosola momveka bwino, mosiyana ndi mawu omwe "atchulidwa pamphumi," kumamupangitsa munthuyo kumvetsa vuto lake komanso kufunafuna njira zothetsera vutoli. Nthawi zina mumakhala ofatsa mosavuta kupeza uthenga wanu kusiyana ndi mwachindunji. Ngati mmalo mwa lamulo kuti musachedwe, mudzakambirana ndi wogwira ntchitoyo momasuka, mudzakwaniritsa zambiri. Mawu ophatikizidwa ali ndi mafanizo ambiri, mafanizo ndi njira zina. Chitsanzo cha iwo ogwira ntchito mochedwa chidzakhala: "Mutha kusintha mochedwa kuchepetsa, chimodzi chimawoneka chizindikiro cha kusokonezeka, ena amawona kuchedwa ngati chizindikiro cha ulesi ndi chilango. Ndikanakondwera ngati inu, Larisa Mikhailovna, mudapeza mwayi wapadera kapena pagulu, kukambirana mwachidule kapena kukambirana za vuto linalake lomwe limabwera. "
Chinyengo cha kuyankhulana kungakhale kuti simumapatsa wokakamiza kusankha - kukambirana kapena kukambirana nkhani yosasangalatsa. Mumamupatsa kusankha ndi njira zoyankhulirana, kuyambitsa zokambirana, osati kumukakamiza kuti achite.
Kugwiritsa ntchito zofalitsa mobwerezabwereza
Pali ntchito zochepa kwambiri mu chiyanjano, zomwe zingathetsedwe mothandizidwa ndi mawu. Taganizirani mwachidule chitsanzo cha mkazi ndi mwamuna.
Mzimayi amene mwamuna wake amachotsedwa ndipo sangapeze ntchito ayenera kuiwala kwamuyaya mawu aliwonse otsutsa. Mawu a chithandizo, kuvomereza ndi chikhulupiriro mwa okhulupirika, pokhala palibe kuyesera kumuthandiza iye kwenikweni, adzabweretsa zotsatira mofulumira kwambiri. Inde, kukhala yosungirako zinthu sikumakhala kosavuta. Komabe, mawu okoma okoma pamkhalidwe wa umphawi wamwamuna angathe kuchita zozizwitsa.
Amuna ayenera kukumbukira kuti ngati mkazi akupempha mphatso yamtengo wapatali - malaya amoto, galimoto kapena chokongoletsera, ndipo alibe ndalama kwa izo, akhoza ... kuyankhulapo. Izi siziri nthabwala, ndizoona: zokamba zokongola ndi kuunika kwa kandulo kapena mwezi zimatha kwa nthawi kapena ngakhale nthawi yaitali kuti zisawononge mkazi zokhumba zonyansa. Chinthu chachikulu ndikukhulupirira mwa inu nokha, ndipo phunzirani kuyankhula bwino.