Ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo, anthu osauka omwe ali pakatiwa ali pamwamba, chifukwa amadziwa kuika nawo interlocutor. Mawu akuti "chinenero pamaso pa Kiev chibweretsa" sanabadwire m'malo opanda kanthu.
Khalidwe la makhalidwe abwino limapereka ubwino waukulu pakati pa anthu. Makhalidwe abwino ndi malamulo omwe amachititsa kuti anthu azilankhulana momasuka ngati n'kotheka. Kulankhulana mwachindunji, pamene munthu wina alankhulana ndi munthu wina, zambiri zowonjezera - nthawi zambiri zomwe wina wothandizana nawo amafuna kunena - amapita ndi makutu a wachiwiri. Chifukwa chofala kwambiri ndi kusokoneza kusokoneza kuyankhulana. Mwachitsanzo, kutukwana koyamba, kuvutitsa mphuno pansi kapena kutsegula batani pa zovala za omvera. Ngati kale adadziwa malamulo a khalidwe labwino, osalola kuti asakhumudwitse omvera ake, mwina akanatha kumukumbutsa kanthu kena. Ndipo kotero iye alibe mwayi. Malangizo amachotsa zolepheretsa kulankhulana.
Ndikofunikanso kuti chidziwitso chimapangitsa kulankhulana kwa anthu kukhala kotetezeka. Tangoganizani phwando la zaka zapakati pa nyengo: ambiri ambuye ambuye amakhala pa tebulo limodzi, ndipo aliyense ali, ndiye katswiri wamaphunziro. Ndipo amamwa vinyo, nadya ndi nyama, amene adadula ndi mikondo yawo. Mwachibadwidwe, nthawi ya moyo pa nthawiyo idadalira mwa kuthekera kwa khalidwe lopanda mikangano. Udindo wololera poleredwa ndi ana a mkalasi wapamwamba unali wochuluka kwambiri panthawiyo, koma ngati mukuganiza kuti zinthu zasintha tsopano, ndiye kuti mukulakwitsa. Ndipo tsopano ndipamwamba umatumikira ngati kudzoza kwa magalimoto a anthu.
Kudziwa khalidwe labwino kumakhazikitsa zolinga za munthu. Munthu amadziwa momwe angakhalire ndi anthu, izi zimamupatsa chidaliro muzovuta kwambiri. Si chinsinsi kuti kudalira mwazimenezo ndi chimodzi mwa zigawo zofunika kwambiri za kupambana. Mabuku a Louis Busennar, Alexandre Dumas amasangalatsidwa ndi khalidwe lofunika - munthu yemwe samasiya malamulo a khalidwe ngakhale nthawi zovuta. Iyi ndi njira ya mtsogoleri, yemwe amatsogolera ena kuzungulira, chifukwa ndi mkhalidwe wawo. Mu maphunziro a ana kumadzulo, chidwi chowonjezeka chimaperekedwa ku zikhalidwe za utsogoleri, makhalidwe amangopereka izi.
Udindo wololera pakuleredwa kwa ana ndi zovuta kuwonetsa. Poyambirira mumayamba kulongosola mwana wanu kudziko labwino komanso khalidwe labwino, bwino. Poyambirira mwanayo amamvetsa chifukwa chake "ndibwino" kuchita izi, koma chomwe chiri "choipitsitsa", zotsatira zake kapena zotsatirazi zingapangitse bwanji, kuti athe kuthandizana kwambiri ndi ena. Zochita zenizeni pochita ndi ena zimabweretsa zotsatira zolimbikitsa zomwe zimalimbikitsa bwino ndikulimbikitsa kuyendetsa patsogolo pazomwe zimakhalira komanso zomwe zimachitika. Mmalo modzimenya nokha mtundu wanu m'thumba la mchenga pamutu ndi fosholo ndi kuvutika ndi kusungulumwa, mwana wanu akhoza kupeza gulu la anzanga ndi chimwemwe ndi chisangalalo kupita ku sukulu, ndipo osadzipezera okha mavuto a maganizo.
Makolo amayesera kupulumutsa mwana wawo ku mliriwu, ndipo nthawi zambiri amayandikira nkhani ya maphunziro abwino ndichangu, "akugwedeza ndodo." Mu maphunziro, kuloweza pamtima malamulo a khalidwe labwino popanda kulingalira ndi kuzindikira kwawo sikungapangitse chabwino chilichonse-kudzakula pang'ono. Adzaphunzitsa ena momwe ayenera kukhalira kapena sakuyenera kuchita, chifukwa ali mwana adapatsidwa chitsanzo choterechi. Choncho, kuti muphunzitse malamulo a makhalidwe abwino amatsatira ndi chitukuko cha mwanayo, muyenera kuyamba ndi zinthu zophweka ndi zomveka, monga "zikomo", "chonde", "thanzi", ndi zina zotero, ndipo kenako pita ku zovuta zambiri. Mukamayankhula za zinthu zosaoneka, mwana akhoza kukhumudwa, chifukwa sakuzimvetsa, ndipo amatsutsa moyenera. Mbiri ya malamulo abwino adzalimbikitsa. Ambiri mwawo ndi okondweretsa kwambiri, mwachitsanzo, mapeto ake a mipeni yowonongeka, kuti olemekezeka asasankhe mano (njira zina zonse zowatetezera chizoloŵezi chosasangalatsa) sizinapambane).
Kumbukirani kuti ana sadziwa zomwe mumaphunzitsa, koma zomwe mumachita. Mukhoza kunena chilichonse, koma ngati mwanayo akuwona kuti malamulo a makhalidwe abwino ndi osagwirizana amamuphunzitsa njira zonyansa, ndiye mphunzitsi sangachite bwino. Mwinamwake, munthu yemwe amaleredwa mwa njirayi adzakhala akugwiritsa ntchito njira zomwezo pophunzitsa makhalidwe abwino ndi ana awo. Malamulo a makhalidwe abwino amaphunzitsidwa bwino ndi chitsanzo chanu, kotero ngati mukufuna mwana wamtsogolo wamtsogolo, yambani nokha.