Iye yekha anakulira ana awiri, anagwira ntchito mwakhama ndipo anatha kupeza zofunika. Ndipo pafupi zaka 45 - pamene ndiyambe chinthu chatsopano, ngati pang'ono mochedwa - ndinalemba buku langa loyamba. Ndipo kuchokera apo iye anayamba moyo wina ...
... Buku la Barbara Cher "Kulota sikuli kovulaza" kwa zaka 35. Izi zimasuliridwa ku Chirasha kwa nthawi yoyamba, koma m'mayiko ena akadali wogulitsa kwambiri. Ndipo chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa chake, zikuwoneka kuti mibadwo yatsopanoyi iyenera kuti ikhale yodalirika kuti ikhale yodziwa maloto awo, malingaliro awo osadziwika ndi zilakolako zawo ndikufotokozera momveka bwino momwe angawathandizire kuti apeze malo awo. Tikukupatsani inu pano kuti muchite masewero asanu a m'bukuli ndi Barbara Cher "Kulota sikuli kovulaza", komwe kukuthandizani kudziwa chinthu chomwe mumakonda.
Zochita 1: Kubwerera kuunyamata
Anthu onse omwe akupita kumalowa amatha kusintha chinthu chimodzi: anthu ambiri ali ndi maluso a chifukwa china chomwe akuwonetsera kuyambira ali mwana. Inde, monga mwana, munthu sangathe kunena motsimikiza kuti akufuna kukhala wolemba njoka yamagetsi, koma, mwachiwonekere, akuwonetsa chidwi pa kukonzedwa kwa chinachake. Kumbukirani zomwe munakonda kuchita kwambiri muubwana wanu? Mwinamwake inu mumakonda kujambula, kapena mumachita chidwi ndi ndege, kapena mwinamwake mumakonda kusewera masewera atsopano? Oprah Winfrey, yemwe ndi wodziwa bwino TV, amakonda kufotokozera momwe adayikiramo zidole polemba ana ake. Lembani magawo asanu omwe mumakonda kuchita mukakhala mwana. Ngati simukumbukira, funsani amayi anu, abambo, mchimwene wamkulu, amalume kapena amalume.
Kuchita masewera 2: 20 zochita zozikonda
Chinsinsi cha tsogolo lanu ndizo kudzera mu ntchito yomwe mumakonda. Ndiko kuti, komwe mukupita simungakhale chinthu china, chomwe inu, munganene, ndi chonyansa. Tengani chinsalu ndi cholembera ndikulemba 20 zomwe mumazikonda. Komanso, mndandandawu ukhoza kuphatikizapo makalasi omwe akuwoneka kuti ndi oletsedwa (mwachitsanzo, "kudya zokoma"). Zomwe tikuphunzira ziyenera kukhala zosachepera 20. Pambuyo pa mndandandawo, mutafunika kuchita zinthu ziwiri. Choyamba: kupeza njira. Tawonani, ndondomeko zotani m'ndandanda wanu? Mwinamwake ndizochitika zomwe zikugwirizana ndi kuthandiza anthu kapena mtundu wina wa masewera? Kapena, mwinamwake, mukumvetsa kuti mumakondwera ndi kuphika? Ndipo chinthu chachiwiri chochita ndi mndandandawu. Dzifunseni nokha: nanga za zonsezi ndikukonzekera kuti ndiphunzire mwatsatanetsatane. Mwachitsanzo, mwalemba kuti: "Ndimakonda kumwa khofi." Muli okonzeka kuphunzira mwakhama chikhalidwe cha khofi, mitundu ya khofi ndi zina zotero. Ngati inde, mwina, cholinga chanu, ndithudi, chikugwirizana ndi kulenga khofi yapadera ya khofi.
Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi 3. Amene akuzungulira ine
Tangoganizani izi: muli ndi ufulu tsiku limodzi kuti mukhale ndi anthu omwe mukufuna. Mumadzuka m'mawa ndipo mzinda wadzaza ndi anthu omwe mukupempha. Kodi anthu awa adzakhala otani? Kodi ndi makhalidwe ati omwe ayenera kukhala nawo? Mwinamwake mukufuna kuzungulira ndi anthu nthawi zonse, "Einsteins", kapena "Dalai Lama"? Kapena mukufuna kuwona ojambula, oimba, oimba m'malo anu? Kodi mukukambirana za chiyani ndi anthu awa? Nchifukwa chiyani inu mumawakonda iwo? Kumbukirani kuti chilengedwe ndi chinthu chofunikira pakupanga tsogolo lanu.
Kuchita Zochita 4. Moyo Usanu
Zochita zina zozizwitsa. Tangoganizirani kuti muli ndi miyoyo isanu. Ndipo aliyense wa iwo mungathe kukhala nokha, koma ndi moyo uliwonse muyenera kupereka ntchito imodzi. Kodi ntchito izi zidzakhala zotani? Mukangopanga masewerowa, mudzazindikira kuti pali matalente ambiri mwa inu ndipo, motsimikiza, mudzasankha miyoyo yonse isanu yosiyana. Mwinamwake, kuthamanga kudzakhala kochokera kwa sayansi yayikulu kupita kwa woimba nyimbo. Ndipo izi ndi zachilendo! Mwachitsanzo, Albert Einstein, monga amadziŵika, sanali katswiri wodzinso wodzinso, komanso wankhanza wanzeru kwambiri! Anayimba violin kuyambira ali mwana ndipo nthawi zina amalankhula ndi ophunzira ake.
Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi 5. Tsiku limodzi pa 5+
Ndipo tsopano tiyeni tiganizire: kodi tsiku lanu ndiloti? Muyenera kudutsa mumalingaliro anu ndi kumvetsetsa kuti, ndi ndani, mumachita chiyani tsiku lanu lokongola? Kodi mumadzuka kuti? Mukuvala chiyani? Mukupita kuti? Kodi mumaganiza chiyani masana? Ganizirani tsiku lino mwatsatanetsatane. Musamachepetse malingaliro anu. Mkulu! Ndipo tsopano tiyeni tichite izi. Zidzakhala zofunikira kugawana maloto anu a tsiku lothandizira m'magulu atatu: "chomwe chiri chofunikiradi," "zomwe zili pamwambazi ndi zofunika, koma zosafunika," ndi "kupitiliza." Gawo loyamba lokha, zinthu ndi zochitika zidzakusonyezani zomwe ziri zofunika kwambiri kwa inu ndi kumene ntchito yanu ingabisike. Pafupifupi zonse zomwe mukuchita mwatsatanetsatane ndi momwe mungakwaniritsire zolinga, mungapeze m'buku "Kulota sikuli kovulaza"