Zonsezi ndizowonjezera komanso zosokoneza. Momwe mungaphunzitsire mwana malo ogona, pezani mu mutu wa mutu wakuti "Momwe mungaphunzitsire mwana kugona mosiyana ndi makolo awo."
Pamodzi kapena padera?
Kugonana kwathunthu ndi crumb kumapangitsa aliyense kukhala ndi nkhawa pang'ono. Akulu sangaimirire nthawi iliyonse yomwe mukufuna kudyetsa, kusintha, kapena kungokukumbatira ndi kulimbikitsa wamng'onoyo. Makolo akugona bwino, osatopa kwambiri. Ndipo kugonana kwa mwanayo ndi amayi ake, kukhudzidwa kwake, kutentha, fungo, chizoloŵezi chachizolowezi cha mtima kumapereka chidziwitso cha chitetezo, chitetezo ndi kukhazikika kwa dziko lake. Nthawi izi, mwazing'ono, alibe ana ndi amayi okwanira, omwe kuyambira masiku oyambirira atabwerera kwawo akugona mosiyana. Komabe, ana sayenera kuyamwa kuchoka pamtima kwa makolo awo. Koma kugona pambali pa amayi nthawi zina kumakhala nthawi yolekanitsa. Kwa zinyama zazaka ziwiri (pafupifupi zaka zino ndi funso la kugona pa bedi linalake limatuluka), ichi ndi kusintha kwakukulu kwa moyo.
Kuti iye asakhale amphamvu kwambiri kwa iye, mukufunikira kuthandizira kwanu ndi kukhala chete mtima pa zomwe zikuchitika. Kotero, kuyambira pachiyambi, musalole zolakwa zazikulu ziwiri, zomwe zikuchitika nthawi yovutayi. Musadere nkhaŵa za mwanayo pasadakhale, musati muwonetsetse "kupatukana" kwanu, musadzizunze nokha ndi mantha omwe angakhale nawo popanda mayi. Inu simukupereka kugulitsa konse ndipo musasiye aliyense mu dziko lopanda ntchito. Kumvetsetsa, chirichonse chiyenera kukula mwa njira yake komanso nthawi yake! Kugona mokwanira sikulekanitsa, koma ulendo wopambana. Kotero, ntchito yanu ndi kuphunzira kukonzekera mwana kumalo komwe maloto amalota amamuyembekezera. Samalani zinyenyeswazi zodetsa nkhawa. Iye amalira, amakukumbatira ndipo sakufuna kupita ku chipinda chake chokwanira chogona. Fuula, walanga, usiye mmodzi. Kroha nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi zoopsa, amawopa chinthu chosamvetsetseka, safuna kuti akhalebe mu chipinda, ngakhale pali kuwala pamenepo? Pangani chiyanjano ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, amuthandize mwanayo kuchotsa mantha, kunena, palibe chowopsya, angagwiritsidwe ntchito - osati chisankho chabwino. Izi zingachititse kuti mwanayo ayambe kuopa, kumusokoneza maganizo, nthawi zina ngakhale kusowa chakudya, kukhumudwa nthawi zonse, kusowa chidwi ndi zidole. Choncho, tiyenera kumvetsera nkhaniyi.
Timasambira m'dziko lamatsenga
Ngati muli ndi vuto ndi kugona ndi kugona, yambani pokonza malo ochepetsetsa ndi otetezeka. Osachepera ora lisanayambe kugona. Chotsani mwanayo pa TV, musokoneze maseŵera osangalatsa. Muwerenge buku, khalani mukukumbatira. Ndipo akuchenjeza kuti lero adzagona pabedi lake. Lolani kuti phokosolo liwononge malingaliro anu onse okhudzidwa pazomwe mukuyembekezera. Amalira, amati "Sindikufuna", amamatira khosi lake mwamphamvu? Musayese kukopa "kukhala wamkulu", musayese kumukakamiza kuti "adzikonda yekha", musakwiyire ndipo musachite bwino
manyazi chifukwa cha khalidwe loipa. M'malo mosiyana, onetsani kumvetsetsa ndi kumvetsa chisoni: "Ndikuwona, simukufuna, simukuzoloŵera kugona monga choncho. Inde, mwakhumudwa kwambiri, ndikukumverani chisoni, mukukumva chisoni kwambiri. " Mudzadabwa kuti ndi mawu awa omwe angathandize mwanayo kukhala wotsitsimula komanso wogwirizana. Ndipo misonzi idzaima. Pambuyo pake, molimba mtima, koma mwachikondi, nenani kuti: "Uyenera kugona pabedi lako." Mwanayo amvetsetsa kuti mumavomereza zosankha, munthu wamkulu, komanso kupanikizika kotereku sikungakhumudwitse, sichikukweza udindo wake. Pemphani mwanayo kuti azindikire momwe angapangire kusintha kwake mu chifuwa chake ndikuyembekezera kugona kosangalatsa. Pambuyo pake, munthu, ngakhale wamng'ono kwambiri, amakula kwambiri komanso amadzimva ngati sakuona kuti ali ndi vuto, komabe ali ndi mphamvu zogwira ntchito pamoyo wake. Karapuz ali ndi manyazi, sakudziwa zomwe akufuna kuchokera kwa iye? Ndipo mwangobwera nthawi ndi ndondomeko yomwe ingavomerezedwe kale popanda kukana. Lolani mwanayo kapena mwana wake wamkazi asankhe chidole kuti, akumbatile, kugona naye. Mwinamwake wamng'onoyo adzasintha kuwala kwa nyali za usiku, zomwe zidzasunga tulo lake. Akupempha kuti asamuke pamalo enawo? Musalepheretse chilolezo. Ngakhalenso makonzedwe atsopanowa sakhala abwino komanso oyenera.
Ndithandizeni kusankha nyimbo usiku. Inde, mudzawona kuti kunali bata, kulemekeza ndi chete. Musanayambe kuchoka pa bedi limodzi la bedi, onetsani kuti mupange nkhani ya nthano yomwe akufuna kuwona. Iye ndithudi adzalota kwa iye, iwe umangofunika kuti ufunse Fairy Sleep. Zingakhale zabwino kugula Fairy yoteroyo mu sitolo yogwiritsira ntchito kapena kupanga ndi agogo ake. Ndipo mupereke kwa mwana wake usiku woyamba wagona tulo tokha pamene mukukonzekera mphindi yofunikirayi. Musaiwale kuti mwanayo adzafunika nthawi kuti aganizire. Onetsetsani Chinyama kumutu kwa mutu ndikumufunsa kuti akwaniritse "malamulo" a mtsikana. Kukhazikika kwanu, chidaliro ndi maganizo abwino mosakayikira zidzasinthidwa kunthaka. Masiku awiri kapena atatu, chabwino, nthawi zovuta kwambiri, sabata yothandizira maganizo ndi kuthandizira - ndipo phokoso lidzakondwera kugona pabedi lake, ndikugona tulo popanda misozi ndi misozi.
Ndinkachita mantha
Kawirikawiri pali zinthu zina pamene mwana wagona akuphwanyika mwadzidzidzi. Mwadzidzidzi amadzuka akulira pakati pa usiku, akufuula, akuyamba kuopa chophimba chake. Lamulo loyambirira ndi lofunika kwambiri la inu silimasinthika: musamadziwope nokha, musamatsitsire mantha a mwana wanu ndi khalidwe lanu. Khalani chete, mwachikondi. Tsopano mukusowa kwambiri momwe mungathere kukhudzana. Pobobimalis? Musazengereze, kumvetsetsa zomwe zimayambitsa vuto la kugona. Zingakhale zofunikira kapena zovuta. Taganizani za izo! Pjamas, zovuta kapena zovuta, zimakhala zosokoneza. Zinthu izi ziyenera kusinthidwa. Zizindikiro zoyambirira za matenda a thupi (thukuta pamutu, mutu) zimakhudzanso kugona. Iwo angakhoze kutsimikiziridwa kokha ndi dokotala wa ana - pitani kuchipatala ndi mwanayo. Mwinamwake phokoso linawopa chinachake. Ngati mudalipo nthawi yomweyo, ndiye kuti simukuyenera kuganiza kuti nkhaniyi ndi yotani, mumvetsetsa nthawi yomweyo. Koma chinachake chingachitike mukakhala mulibe. Funsani mwamuna, agogo aakazi, namwino, onani, ngati mwanayo mkuluyo sawopseza mwanayo. Chifukwa cha mantha chiyenera kuchitika. Njira yabwino yothetsera "machiritso" idzakhala nthano kuno. Yesani nokha. Lolani zamatsenga zichitike mofanana ndi zomwe zinachitikira mwanayo: Zimayambitsa galu woopsa (chabwino, chilombo choopsa!) Kapena amalankhula (ndikutsata kuti agwire) amalume ake odzitamandira. Inde, mu nkhani yanu zonse zidzatha bwinobwino. Wopambana papa kapena wamatsenga adzabwera kudzawathandiza ndi kupirira ndi munthu wamba. Njira yeniyeni yodzimasula yokha ku mantha ndiyo kujambula pamodzi zomwe mwanayo akuwopa, kusintha chithunzichi kukhala chinachake chotetezeka kapena chosangalatsa. Mwinanso mukhoza kuphimba chirombochi ndi pepala lowala (silidzatulukanso). Kodi ndi zophweka pa moyo? Inde, chifukwa chimene chinali chowopsya kwambiri, chinatheratu, chinauluka. Zili choncho kuti mutha kupita kuchitetezo chanu mosamala. Tsopano tikudziwa momwe tingaphunzitsire mwana kugona mosiyana ndi makolo awo.