Momwe mungalandire mphatso kuchokera kwa anthu

Kulandira mphatso nthawi zonse kumakhala kosangalatsa kwambiri. Pambuyo pake, mphatso imadziwika ndi ife monga chinthu chomwe chimangosonyeza kumverera kokondweretsa kwa wolandila, komanso ndichinsinsi chachikulu pa malo enieni okhudzana ndi woperekayo. Zambiri mwa mphatso zimachokera ku adiresi ya oimira zachiwerewere kuchokera ku chiwerengero cha amuna. Chifukwa cha mphatso zosiyana, zodabwitsa ndi chidwi, amuna amasonyeza chidwi ndi kulemekeza mkazi.

Kuwonjezera apo, mawonetseredwe achifumu awa amathandiza munthu kuti adziwonetse yekha wokhala bwino, wolemekezeka ndi wowolowa manja kwambiri. Koma azimayi ochuluka amadziwa kuti "owolowa manja" kotero ndi chifukwa chake tinaganiza zokambirana momwe tingalandire mphatso kuchokera kwa anthu popanda kumva manyazi kapena kupweteka.

Mphatso ndi chiyani?

Ndipotu, mphatso zimagwirizana ndi ndondomeko yotereyi - iwe kwa ine, ndi ine kwa iwe. Cholingalira ndi cholondola, malingaliro a amayi ambiri, ndi kulandila mphatso kuchokera kwa amuna pa zikondwerero zokonzedwa (kubadwa, March 8, ndi zina). Mphatso zimenezi, monga lamulo, zimaonetseratu mwakachetechete ndipo sizikuphatikizapo malingaliro ndi tsankho. Wopereka amapereka mphatso, ndipo wolandirayo amamulemekeza ndi zakudya zonse kuchokera pa tebulo ndikukondweretsa nthawi yabwino. Zosangalatsa choncho, nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti mphindi yomweyi yopereka mphatso imadutsa mosazindikira, zikhoza kunenedwa mwanjira ina. Koma pano palibe amene akukhumudwa ndipo aliyense sakondwera nawo. Pa nthawi yomweyi amayi amalandira mphatso kuchokera kwa amuna ndipo samaganizirapo.

Mphatso zosadziƔika

Munthu aliyense, mwamuna ndi mkazi, nthawizonse amatayika ngati wapatsidwa mwadzidzidzi mphatso. Mwa njira, zamtengo wapatali ndi zamtengo wapatali mphatso, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri. Mzimayi wotere ali pomwepo amayamba kunyenga ndi m'maganizo kufunafuna chochita mwachinthu choterechi. Monga lamulo, mawu a ndondomekoyi akuwombera nthawi yomweyo kwa adiresi: "O, nchifukwa ninji mumagwiritsa ntchito zambiri, musachite izo", "sindingathe kulandira mphatso ngati imeneyi," ndi zina zotero koma osanena izi, koma muyenera kulandira mphatsoyo. Kotero zimakhala kuti mkazi amagwera kumadalira ena pa mwamuna, chifukwa tsopano akuyenera kubwezera. Ndipo njondayo "imawombera" poyembekezera kubwerera kwa mayiyo. Ndikoyenera kudziwa kuti pano palibe funso lililonse labwino, chifukwa munthu amafunikira chisomo ndi kuyamikira kuchokera kwa mayiyo. Ndi zabwino kwambiri ngati mkazi ali wokonzeka kupereka mwamuna chikondi chenicheni kwa munthu wake, koma choti achite ngati ali wosokonezeka ndipo sakudziwa momwe angapitirire? Panthawiyi ndi kofunika kuti tisachitepo kanthu ndi mphatso yomwe sitiyembekezera, kuti tisasangalatse muzovuta.

Pano mungathe kufotokozera njira yosavuta komanso yothandiza kwambiri yomwe ingakuthandizeni kuti mutulukemo: poyankha mphatso yanu kuti mupange yankho kwa mwamuna. Ndibwino kuti muchite nthawi yomweyo mutatha kupeza phindu lanu. Njira yophwekayi, koma yothandiza kwambiri imathandiza mkazi "mosavuta ndi mopanda phindu" kuchoka kudalira amuna komanso osamva nthawi yomweyo.

Mwa njira, kuwapatsa amuna ndi mphatso yowonetsera mofanana ndi mtengo kapena kufunikira sikofunikira. Mphatso yoteroyo ikhoza kukhala yowonjezera, koma imaperekedwa ndi mtima wonse, pamodzi ndi mawu ofunda ponena za chikondi, kumvetsetsa, ubwenzi, chithandizo, etc. Ngati munthu wapereka mphatso, amayembekeza zambiri, ndipo mkazi amamuwona iye bwenzi, mawu ake sayenera kudzipangira mwa iwo wokha chiwonetsero kuti ubalewu ukhoza kukhala ndi tsogolo lawo.

Ndipo chinthu chomalizira, kulandira mphatso kuchokera ku kugonana kolimba nthawi zonse ndi kopindulitsa. Ngati simukufuna kukhala ndi chochita ndi ichi kapena munthu uja, ndi bwino kusiya mphatsoyo. Ndipo ngati woperekayo ndi mnzanu wapamtima kapena wokondedwa, ngati simukuvomereza mphatso yomwe mungamupweteke nayo, pangani "malamulo" anu, musaiwale kumusonyeza kuyamikira kwanu, ngakhale mutabwerera, koma ndi mawu!