M'nkhaniyi mupeza mayankho a mafunso akulu ndikuphunzira momwe mungakhalire ngati bwana akupeza zolakwika.
Kotero, chifukwa cha izo? kuti mudziwe momwe mungagwirire ndi bwana, muyenera kudziwa mtundu umene ukutanthauza. Ndipotu, bwana wabwino akhoza kukhala wosiyana. Mwachitsanzo, pali gulu la anthu osokoneza maganizo. Munthu wotereyo akungoyamba ngati kuti ndi mwana wachinyamata amene amakonda kumverera. Bwana wotereyo sadzalephera. Chowonadi ndi chakuti iye, mwa njira yake yomwe, ndi sadist yemwe amakonda kwenikweni kuzunza anthu ake. Choncho, munthu sayenera kuyembekezera kuti adzadziletsa yekha. Munthu wotere amadzimva kuti amamukondweretsa ndipo amakondwera mukakwiya kapena kukwiyitsa.
Palinso atsogoleri otsogolera awiri omwe akuyamba kukuuzani za mtundu wanji wa wantchito wabwino, kulimbikitsa ndi kumwetulira. Ndiyeno, pamene simukuyembekeza izo, iwo amayamba kukuimba mlandu chifukwa cha zolakwa zomwe simunalole kapena kukulemetsani ntchito yanu.
Kumbukirani kuti ngati bwana sakudziwa momwe angakhalire bwino, chifukwa cha izi ndizo mavuto ake ndi zovuta zake. Anthu otere amakonda kuyang'anitsitsa chilichonse, kutsatira zonse, kufuula popanda chifukwa. Kumbukirani kuti ngakhale kupereka kupereka chiyeneretso choyenera kwa anthu otere, simungathe nthawi zonse kumatsogolera abwana. Ndipotu, ndizoipa ngati abwana atakhala munthu yemwe alibe ziyeneretso zoyenera. Pankhaniyi, gulu lonse likuvutika. Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti akuluakulu a atsogoleriwa amamwa mowa mowa. Ziri chabe kuti mitsempha yaumunthu siingakhoze kuima maganizo ndi khalidwe ili la bwana.
Koma, komabe, ndi anthu oterewa mukhoza kumenyana ndi kuwaphunzitsa kuti azichita molondola. Choncho, mutasankha mtundu wa bwana wanu, muganizire nokha kuti musinthe ubale wanu ndi iye. Kumbukirani kuti chirichonse chimene bwana wanu ali, si iye yemwe ali wodzudzula zomwe zikuchitika. Kulimbana kulikonse kumayambitsa mbali zonse ziwiri. Ndipo, pakali pano, ndiwe wa maphwandowa. Choncho yesetsani kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake bwana akunyalanyaza kwa inu, kuyankhula ndi anzanu ena. Mwina mmodzi wa iwo amadziwa njira yolondola kwa mtsogoleri wanu wotsogolera. Inde, sitinena za kukondweretsa komanso "prihlebatelstvo." Zosankha zoterozo ndibwino kuti zisaganizidwe. Koma, mwinamwake, wina amadziwa makhalidwe a bwana, omwe angagwiritsidwe ntchito kusintha maganizo ake.
Muyeneranso kukonza khalidwe lanu moyenera kuti bwana amvetse kuti ndinu wokonzeka ndipo mukufuna kugwirizana naye. Kusamvana sikukugwirizana ndi inu ndipo mumayesetsa kukonza mwanjira inayake. Yesetsani kuyankhula ndi bwana za momwe mungagwirizanitse ntchito yanu. Lankhulani naye kokha mwa mawu achikondi. Makamaka ngati musanayambe mwakwiya komanso kulumbira. Bwana adzadabwa ndi kusintha kwakukulu mukumverera kwanu. Ndipo, monga mukudziwira, anthu odabwa samakwiya.
Ndiponso, kuti izi zisachitike, nthawizonse yesetsani kukhala bata ndi kuzizira. Ngati mumatsutsana ndi bwana, musanene kuti: "Ndikuvutika ndi khalidwe lanu." Ndi bwino kunena kuti: "Unapereka ntchitoyi panthawi yolakwika ndipo ndiwe wolakwa." Momwemo, bwana adzamvetsetsa kuti mukulimbana ndipo simudzapereka maudindo awo. Choncho, iye mwini ayenera kuyamba kulingalira za momwe angasinthire mkhalidwewo ndi kukonza chirichonse. Choncho, mkangano udzathetsedwa ku mbali ziwiri. Ndipo izi ndizo zomwe mukusowa.
Ngati simungathetse ntchito yanu popanda kuthandizidwa ndi woyang'anira, funsani naye. Koma, muyenera kuchita izo kuti amvetsetse: mwafika munthu wosadziwika bwino ndipo simusamala zomwe akuganiza za inu. Mwachidule, muzochitika izi, iye ndiye kwenikweni mlangizi wapamwamba kwambiri.
Musayambe kuchita ngati sukulu yamayeso, yesetsani kufuula abwana kapena kumugonjetsa mukulankhula momveka bwino. Mwa ichi mumangosonyeza kuti ndinu osapindula komanso simungathe kuchoka pamakani monga momwe ziyenera kukhalira kwa munthu wamkulu. M'malo mofuula, ndibwino kuti mukhale chete ndikuyamba kulankhula bwinobwino. Ngati bwana akuwona kuti muli ndi chizoloŵezi, adzakhumudwa, chifukwa kufuula kwa wina kumangokhala wopusa.
Musati mupezepo mukutonthoza chitonzo cha bwana. Aliyense wa ife ali ndi abwenzi kuntchito kapena, mabwenzi abwino. Pano iwo akhoza kulankhula momasuka zomwe simukuzikonda pa bwana, ndikuuzeni zomwe adakulankhulani komanso kuti tsopano mukuponderezedwa. Koma ndibwino kuti musamakambirane nkhani zogwirira ntchito kunyumba. Chowonadi ndi chakuti mabanja sangakumvetsereni ngati antchito, chifukwa sawona chilichonse ndi maso awo ndipo samvetsa bwinobwino funsoli. Choncho, ndi bwino kusiya mafunso ndi mavuto kuntchito.
Nthawi zina, mu nthawi zovuta kwambiri, mukhoza kupempha thandizo kuchokera kwa utsogoleri wapamwamba. Koma pazochitika zotero, muyenera kutsimikiza kuti simudzapangitsa mkhalidwe wanu kukhala wovuta ndipo simudzaonedwa ngati miseche. Choncho, muzochitika zotero, muyenera kusamala kwambiri ndikuganiza kasanu ndi kawiri musanapange chisankho.
Koma ngati simungakwanitse kuthetsa mkanganoyo ndipo mumamva kuti mukugwira ntchito, mukhoza kuganizira zosamukira ku dipatimenti ina kapena kusintha ntchito yanu. Inde, iyi ndiyo njira yotsiriza, koma nthawi zina ndi bwino kuvomereza, kuti musasokoneze malingaliro anu komanso kuti musasokoneze mitsempha yanu.