Yankhulani zomwe mukufuna, ndipo kugonana kumatenga malo aakulu mu moyo wa mkazi. O, maubwenzi angati anagwa atangoyenda kuchoka kumalo owongolera kupita kutsogolo! Mtsikana wina anali kukondana ndi fanake watsopano kwa milungu iwiri, koma atangopanga chikondi, monga ... "Ndizoopsa kwambiri," adatero, "pamene tinkagona, adayiwala za ine." Usiku wa usiku unamverera ngati mafuta, kodi iwo pa msinkhu wake samadziwa chomwe chisanachitike? " Eya, sikuti nthawi zonse amalumikizana ambiri amakhala okonda ...
Zogonana zogonana
Yandikirani. Egoist, iye ndi wachinyengo ku Africa. Ndipo pa kama, nayenso. Ndikutanthauza, munthu amene amadziganizira yekha komanso zosangalatsa zake. Bukuli silidzadutsa usiku kukaphunzira mabuku pa nkhani zogonana pofuna kuyembekezera mfundo kuchokera komweko zomwe zingamuthandize kupeza chinsinsi cha mankhwala anu ofunikira. Chikondwerero chake ndicho chinthu chachikulu!
Ndipo inu mudzakhala nayo nthawi kuti mupeze chinachake, chinthu chachikhumi. Egoist mwamtheradi amakhulupirira kuti mumatulutsa nthawi yomweyo pamene akukhudza milomo yanu ndi kupsompsona.
Chosangalatsa kwambiri kwa mkazi wabwino pakufufuza munthu woyenera ndi chakuti ngati sakukondwera, akuyesera kufika pamtima ndi malingaliro ake, kufotokoza kuti izi sizinali zomwe iye angakonde kulandira pabedi, yankho lake ndizodabwitsa ("Ndipo bwanji, Simunakhale ndi zolaula?! ") kapena nkhanza (" Ndikuganiza kuti mukungokhala bwino, ndi amayi ena omwe ndakhala okondwa nthawi zonse! "). Kawirikawiri, zosankha - wokondedwa, monga lamulo, ndi oyenerera amayi omwe ali ndi malamulo okhudzana ndi kugonana, osagonana.
Zotsatira za kugonana. Kodi mukusowa Narcissus wotere, dzipange nokha.
Ndibwino kuti munthu akhale ndi makhalidwe oterewa, komabe ndi bwino kukhala kutali, koma vuto ndilokuti ena mwa iwo amaoneka bwino, makamaka poyamba. Kuphatikiza apo, amayi ambiri amadzisokoneza okha ndi chiyembekezo chakuti adzatha kuphunzitsa kachiwiri "mnyamata woipa." Nthawi yomweyo tidzanena kuti njira iyi yokondweretsa ikhoza kumangidwa kwa nthawi yaitali. Popanda kutchulapo kuti kupambana kwa ntchitoyi yosautsa ndi yolemetsa ndi yosakayika, ndipo zotsatira zake, monga lamulo, ndizokhalitsa.
Kodi mukufuna kuyesa? Ndiyenera kubweretsa kwa osankhidwa anu lingaliro lakuti ngati sakusamalirani zosangalatsa zanu, simungapitirizebe kuzunzika kwake. Inde, "kusiyana" kotereku sikuli kwa aliyense wokonda, koma pankhondo njira zonse ndi zabwino. Nchifukwa chiyani mukufunikira wokondedwa wanu, ndiye muyenera kuyang'ana njira yothetsera malingaliro ake pa kugonana.
Chinthu chachikulu - musatsanzire chiwonetsero - iyi ndi njira yopita kulikonse. Pankhaniyi, muyenera kugwirizana ndi chisangalalo chamuyaya, chomwe chimadzala ndi zilonda zambiri za amayi.
Mwana wamayi
Kapena ayi: "Tiyeni tiyambe kusewera?" Yandikirani. Choyamba, mwina adakukonda iwe - wolemekezeka, wachikondi, wachikondi, wolondola, woganizira ... Anamupukuta dzanja, anapereka maluwa, anagwira chitseko - njonda yabwino (kulera amayi, koma simunadziwepo). Kokha ... wamng'ono wamng'ono ndi wosakayika, mumaganiza, zimamupatsa chithumwa, mumaganiza! Koma vuto ndiloti, popeza adzolowera udindo wa mwanayo, mwana wa mayiyo ali wokonzeka kusewera kwa moyo wake wonse.
Zimagwirizana ndi mkazi wokongola yekhayo pofunafuna munthu woyenera, yemwe amakonda kudzilamulira yekha, ndipo nthawi zonse amatenga mbali yogonana. Koma ngati mutapeza amuna amphamvu omwe akugona pabedi monga opondereza komanso amphamvu, ndiye kuti moyo wapamtima ndi mwana wamwamuna wokoma ndi wachikondi udzasanduka chizunzo. Chifukwa chiyani? Kutupa, mwatsopano, wodzisangalatsa, wofatsa, wachikondi, koma ... samakhudza. Ndipo pamene kugonana kumasiya kusangalala, kumakhala kolemetsa.
Zotsatira za kugonana. Nthawi zambiri mwana wa Amayi amasankha akazi omwe amamukumbutsa amayi ake - nthawi zambiri amai amphamvu ndi amphamvu. Ndipo, kachiwiri, ngati mbali yanu ikufuna kuti muzigonjetsa, ndiye kuti ubale wotero uli ndi mwayi wokhala wokondwa. Komabe, zowonadi nthawi zambiri zimakhala kuti mukamayesetsanso ntchito ya "kholo", kugonana kochepa kumene mumakhala nawo mu ubale wanu. Zitha kuchitikanso kuti "mwana wanu wamkulu" mwadzidzidzi apanduka, panthawi yake, atatopa ndi moyo wake wamuyaya, ndipo akufuna kuti amve maso, akuwotha msinkhu msungwana wamng'ono wosadziŵa zambiri. Mwachibadwa, si inu. Popanda kutchula njira yothetsera ubale, pakapita nthawi mukhoza kukhumudwa ndi chirichonse, ndipo, podyetsedwa ndi zokondweretsa za kugonana kwa banja, muyambe kuyang'ana zosangalatsa pa mbali yanu.
Kodi tingachite chiyani kuti tipeze zodabwitsa? Choyamba, kulimbikitsa mawonetseredwe a kudzidalira nokha pa gawo la munthu wanu m'njira iliyonse. Osati kokha pabedi, zidzakhala zothandiza kuchita pamoyo - chikhalidwe ndi banja. Musadwale mosamala ndi kusamala, simuli amayi ake! Ndipo anakwatiwa ndi mwamuna wamkulu, yemwe iwo anali kupita ngati ngati khoma lamwala. Mnyamata wanu mwamsanga akukula, mwayi waukulu kuti ubalewo sungakula ndikukhala wosasangalatsa.
O, ndi maso otani, yemwe ndi mwana wa masewera!
Kapena ayi: "Wokonda Hero". Monga lamulo, amuna achangu omwe ali ndi libido yapamwamba amakhala ndi malingaliro oipa. Amachokera kwa omwe "zonse sizikwanira." Pamene muli pachibwenzi, kugonana ndi munthu woteroyo kumangokhala nkhani yeniyeni: yokwiya, yopusa, yolakalaka, yopanda phindu ... Maloto, osati munthu! Akufuna kuti mumwazike kangapo patsiku, mwangomugwira mwapadera, ndipo ali wokonzeka kale. Kumbali imodzi, kumangokhalira kukondweretsa mkazi - mumamva ngati kukongola kotere komwe kungapangitse chilakolako choopsa. Koma, monga momwe ziliri, zomvetsa chisoni, kawirikawiri sizomwe zili za inu, koma chifukwa chakuti iye ndi wotero - amatha komanso amafuna zambiri! Ndipo adzafuna mawa, ndi mawa, ndi chaka, ndi panthawi ya mimba yanu, ndi pambuyo pa kubadwa kwa mwana ...
Ndipo ngati zofuna zanu sizili zofanana, m'kupita kwa nthawi, mukhoza kuyamba kukhumudwa ndi zochitika zoterozo, potero mutha kuchotsa ntchito za m'banja. Ndipo kodi mwamuna ayenera kuchita chiyani pa nkhaniyi? Sangathe kudzipangira yekha! Ndipo tsopano cholinga cha kusagwirizana ndi kukonzeka. Ndipo apo ndi pamaso pa kusakhulupirika ndi amuna pafupi.
Zotsatira za kugonana. Ngati mphepo yamkuntho ikubwera kwa iwe ngati nyonga ya buku la tchuthi, ingosangalala! Mudzakumbukira ndithudi ulendo umenewu kwa nthawi yaitali. Koma, posankha bwenzi lomanga nalo banja, yerekezerani nokha ndi mphamvu zake. Inde, kumapeto kwa chisangalalo chiyanjano chilichonse chimakhala ndi chizoloŵezi chododometsa, koma sizikawoneka kuti zisintha kwambiri. Ndipo ngati pachiyambi cha ubale munagonana kangapo patsiku, ndipo muli ndi nthawi yokwanira masiku 2-3, musadzizunze nokha kapena ayi. Inde, patapita kanthawi chirichonse chidzakhalitsa ndipo zilakolako zidzagwa, koma ndiye adzafunikira bedi kamodzi patsiku, ndipo iwe - kamodzi pa sabata!
Mwamuna wabwino
Kapena ayi: "Ndikukutsutsani!" Yandikirani. Apa akufunsidwa kuti ndi cholakwika ndi kulera bwino? Palibe! Izi ndizovuta kwambiri kumapeto kwa zomwe munthu angachite, kugonana kosangalatsa. Mwamwayi, maiko a Soviet ascetic maphunziro amachititsa nthabwala yoipa osati kwa atsikana okha, komanso ndi oimira mphamvu zogonana. Anaphunzitsidwa motere: malingaliro si abwino, amakondana ndi kukupsompsona - ndizoipa, kukonda - manyazi. Ndipo chifukwa chake, pa kama ndi inu mumakhala chitsimikizo chotere, chowopsya pa caresses ndi chidwi. Palibe mawu achikondi, kapena zosayembekezereka zosayembekezereka, kapena zoyeretsedwa. Chilichonse chiyenera kupita molingana ndi ndondomeko - mozama mkati mwa malire. Kuyesayesa kulikonse kumapanga zojambula pazogona pa gawo la mkazi kumawoneka mwaukali ndi mosamala. Nenani, koma chifukwa chake?
Zotsatira za kugonana. Ngati malo omwe mumakhala amishonale ndi omwe mumawakonda, ndipo kuchokera pamitundu yosiyanasiyana mumathamanga ngati mliri, ndiye munthu wabwino amakukonzerani inu. Muzochitika zina zonse, maulosi sali otonthoza kwambiri. Chifukwa chiyani? Inde, chifukwa ngakhale ngati wosankhidwa wanu ali ndi luso la njira ya awiriwa omwe akuvomerezeka, m'kupita kwanthawi iwo adzakubalani. Ndipo mukufuna chinthu chapadera kwambiri! Osati ndi aliyense. Chifukwa zonse ndi zosayenera, choncho sizilandiridwa.
Bwenzi lina lachisoni la kugonana ndi munthu wotero ndi kusowa kwachangu pachidwi chanu. Osati chifukwa cha dyera lomwe iwe uli. Zimangowoneka kuti iye simukusowa. Komanso, nthawi zina anyamata abwino si okonda kwambiri. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, iwo, mwinamwake, akufuna kuti azikhala osangalala, koma iwo sakudziwa momwe angakhalire. Ndipo musatenthe makamaka kuti muphunzire. Kotero zimakhala kuti kuyesa kwanu kusiyanitsa kugonana kumadziwika ndi iye ngatichabechabe, chilakolako chopeza "supernorms" - mwachitsanzo, cunnilingus - khalidwe losavomerezeka. Kawirikawiri anthu amakhalidwe abwinowa koma amuna osaphunzitsidwa bwino, pokhala ndi ana ndi ana, nthawi zambiri sakhala ndi chidwi pa kugonana, kumabweretsa kuchuluka kwake kwazing'ono. Izi zikufotokozedwa ndi mfundo yakuti, "iwo amati, pa zaka zathu, sizakhalanso zopusa." Ndiyeno zimakhala zomvetsa chisoni ndi onse, chifukwa kachiwiri pali chifukwa chosakhutira.
Mukupitiriza kufunafuna kapena kukhala naye, kodi mukufuna kusintha kwakukulu? Zolinga ndi zosasinthika? Kapena mumakhalabe ndikumverera za mnzanuyo? Ngati mumakhala okondwa kwambiri ndi iye kusiyana ndi kufunafuna njira ina, ndipo, timaona, nthawi zambiri, mosakayikira, kugwiritsa ntchito njira yabwino yakale, yomwe ingathe kufotokozedwa mu mfundo zitatu zokha:
1. Musamunene mulandu chifukwa cha machimo onse. Pamapeto pake, inunso muli opanda ungwiro. Komanso, iye ali ndi ubwino wambiri. Pano, yang'anani pa iwo, kusintha malingaliro okhwima kuti amange.
2. Pakati pa kugonana, ganizirani za momwe mumamvera m'mimba ya abambo - kugonana pogonana kumanena kuti kumathandiza kubweretsa chisokonezo pafupi. Ndipo palibe malingaliro okhudza kusamba nsalu, kunyansidwa ndi mwana wake ndi mavuto kuntchito - wokondedwa pa msinkhu wosadziŵa amawerenga mkhalidwe wanu wa malingaliro. Khalani okondana komanso omasuka - monga momwe munaliri panthawi yaukwati.
3. Sinthani chiyanjano ndi chilengedwe. Sikoyenera kugula theka la masitolo ogonana (ngakhale izi siziri zoipa), ndikwanira kuti musamagwirizane ndi masewero owonetsera. Ndipo inu mukhoza kuvomereza ndi okondedwa anu, kuti lero inu mukubwera ndi chinachake chokondweretsa, ndipo mawa_iye.
Lowani ku zabwino zabwino!
Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti musadandaule kwambiri. Maganizo omwe, apa, zomwe sindikusangalala, ndizophatikizapo zonse, aliyense amapeza chinthu chofunika, koma kwa ine - ichi, moyo sungathandize, kusasinthasintha sikukukweza. Pano, ndi kuwachotsako kutali mwamsanga. Mwachidziwikire amayi onse ali ndi vuto lomwelo, chifukwa mwana wamayi kapena playboy (ndipo mwinamwake onse), mnyamata wabwino kapena egoist (ndi zosiyana kwambiri za "matenda"), amapezeka nthawi zonse mwa osankhidwa omwe ali osankhidwa. Ndiye kodi mumatani ngati muli ndi wokondedwa? Fufuzani china chatsopano kapena mumakonza chakale? Ngati mutha kusankha pa yachiwiri, muyenera kuyamba ... ndi nokha. Kumbukirani nzeru yotchuka: mukufuna kusintha dziko - musinthe nokha!