Chiwerengero cha ochirikiza ana obadwa nawo chikuwonjezeka chaka chilichonse. Azimayi omwe anabereka ndi amuna awo, ndipo akatswiri amanena kuti kupezeka kwa wokondedwa kumapangitsa kuti akhale ndi moyo wabwino, kumalimbikitsa amayi oyembekezera. Komanso, ngati mayi wapakati akuyamba kudandaula kwambiri, mwamunayo amuthandizira kuti ayankhule ndi adokotala. Kubereka ndikumverera kwambiri, ndipo kumverera kuti wokondedwa ali pafupi kumamupatsa mkazi chidaliro. Zindikirani: Bambo pakhomo lakuperekera si wongomvera chisoni chabe. Njira zothandizira zokwanira: Kuchotsa kumsana kumbuyo ndikuwerengera mokweza mabuku okondedwa kapena magazini pa nthawi yaitali ya nkhondo kumapeto kwa mpweya wophatikizana mogwirizana ndi dongosolo lapadera ndi zoyesayesa. Inde, ndikungotenga nthawi yambiri, yomwe mungathe kuigwira nthawi yowawa kwambiri, imatanthauzanso zambiri. Kukhalapo kwa papa kumathandiza kwambiri mwana wakhanda. Mu psychology, pali lingaliro la "kusindikiza", ndiko, kusindikiza.
Akatswiri amanena kuti mphindi 30-40 zoyambirira mwana atabadwa ali modzidzimutsa. Amaphunzira, amatenga zenizeni zowona. Momwe munthu wamng'ono angayang'anire ndi kukumbukira mu theka la ola ili lofunika, amachititsa chidwi chake kwambiri cha dziko lapansi. Amakhulupirira kuti ana omwe amavomerezedwa ndi abambo amapanga kuyankhulana kwakukulu kwapadera kwa awiri, ndipo samachoka paliponse pakapita nthawi, koma amakhala pakati pawo kwa zaka zonse. Koma papa okha, ambiri a iwo kukhalapo kwa mwana wawo omwe ali ndi sacramenti yopereka mphatso zopanda phindu popanda kanthu. Kawirikawiri chochitika ichi chimakhala chofunikira kwambiri m'moyo wawo.
Taganizirani zamtunduwu
Ngakhale zilizonse zabwino zokhudzana ndi kubadwa, akatswiri amachenjeza kuti ichi ndi sitepe yofunikira kwambiri kwa awiriwa. Njirayi ikufuna njira yeniyeni yokha. Pambuyo pake, ngati mmodzi wa abwenziwo sali wokonzekera, ubwino wonse wa kubadwa koteroko sikudzakhala wochepa, koma zotsatira zovuta m'banja lonse zingakhale zovuta.
Ngati mkazi sali wokonzeka kukhalapo kwa mwamuna wake (mwachitsanzo, iye wabisa zovuta), izi zikhoza kuyimitsa ndi kupondereza nthawi yobereka.
M'mapapa ena, kupezeka kwa masautso a mkazi kumapangitsa munthu kukhala ndi chilakolako chopweteka kwambiri, chomwe chimakhala chovuta kuchotsa. Zochitika za kubadwa kwa abwenzi zingawononge mchitidwe wogonana kwa wokondedwa.
Kodi mwatsimikiza mtima kuchita zimenezi palimodzi? Ndiye musachite mantha. Zimadziwika kuti vutoli limabuka kokha ngati chisankho cha makolo amtsogolo sichinaganizidwe bwino. Papa, yemwe akufuna kutenga nawo gawo, koma sakudziwa kuti adzalimbana ndi mayesero otere, akhoza kunyalanyaza: khalani ndi mkazi wake nthawi yayitali komanso yopweteka kwambiri pa nthawi ya nkhondo, ndipo dikirani nthawi yovuta kwambiri pakhomo la chipinda chobwerako. Musaiwale: mu mgwirizano, komanso mu kubadwa kwachibadwa, chinthu chachikulu ndicho zotsatira. Izi, ndithudi, ndi mwana wathanzi komanso amakondana makolo achikondi. Choncho palibe chifukwa chodandaula ngati ngati simunapite nthawi yobereka limodzi kuchokera ku "a" mpaka "I". Ndiponsotu, pali nthawi zambiri zodabwitsa zomwe mungadzakhale ndi banja lonse!