Anyamata ndi atsikana amasiyana mosiyana ndi kubadwa - osati kungowoneka, komanso khalidwe. Ndipo ngakhale akuzindikira izi ali ndi zaka pafupi zaka zitatu, zofanana ndi zizindikiro za kugonana zimayambira kale. Inde, izi sizikutanthauza kuti mwanayo ndi mwana wake amafuna zosiyana maganizo. Ana onse, mosasamala kanthu za amuna, amafunikira chikondi cha makolo, chikondi ndi chisamaliro. Koma pali kusiyana kosiyana pa kulera. Ndipo muyenera kudziwa momwe mungaphunzitsire bwino mayi weniweni.
Kumvetsetsa kupanduka kwake.
Kodi mwazindikira kuti akuluakulu amachititsa kuti ntchito zolakwika za mtsikanazi zikhale zolakwika kuposa momwe amachitira ndi mnyamata? Izi zili choncho chifukwa amadziwa kuti mtsikanayo amakhala womvera, wodekha komanso wodzichepetsa. Pali lingaliro lolakwika kuti kusaganizira kotereku kwa anyamata a atsikana sikumangokulira molakwika. Koma ana onse awiri omwe ali ndi zaka pafupifupi ziwiri akuvutika, nthawi yotchedwa kupanduka. Pamene mwana wanu ayamba kuyankha mafunso anu onse ndi malingaliro anu mobwerezabwereza ayankhe "ayi", thawirani kumbali ina mutatha kumuitana kapena kutaya buku lanu lokonda kwambiri pansi, musakwiya, ndipo musamhamangire kumulanga. Musayesetse kuthetsa vutoli mwa kufuula ndikuwonjezera chiwerengero cha zoletsedwa. Kumbukirani kuti chionetsero cha mwana ndi njira yabwino yolongosolera umunthu wanu. Inu muzochitika zotere muyenera kukhala osasinthasintha ndikufotokozera bwino malire a ololedwa. Mwanayo ayenera kudziwa nthawi yomwe simungapite kukalandira.
Musatsatire zolakwika.
Musapangitse malamulo oletsa malamulo a makhalidwe awo chifukwa chakuti ali mtsikana. Makolo ambiri amachita izi mopanda kuzindikira, kulolera kuwonetseratu kuti asungwana ndi ofooka komanso oposa. Ndi chifukwa chake madona achimwenewa amamva mawu monga "Musakhudze, kapena inu mudzakhumudwa" nthawi zambiri kuposa ambuye, "Musathamange, kapena mungagwe", "Musapite kumeneko, ndizoopsa pamenepo." Ndemanga zoterezi zingayambitse mwanayo mantha zonse zomwe zatsopano ndi zosadziwika, kuti asokoneze chidwi chodziwa. Choncho, ntchito yanu ndi kukakamiza chidwi cha msungwanayo, kuzindikira zonse zomwe akupeza, kutamanda chifukwa cha kupambana pang'ono.
Samalirani chitonthozo.
Atsikana amawona kuti ziwalo zimakula bwino kuposa anyamata: amamva, kununkhiza, amasiyanitsa mitundu yovuta komanso yodzichepetsa. Choncho, oimira ang'onoang'ono omwe sagonana nawo mwachiwerewere salekerera ndi zovuta zotero monga chitoliro chakuda kapena phokoso kunja kwawindo. Koma bwana wanu wamng'ono adzasangalala ndi nyimbo zamtendere, zojambula ndi phokoso la chirengedwe, kuimba kwanu. Kusisita mukamaliza kusamba ndi kumangokhalira kugona musanagoneko kumusangalatsa kwambiri kuposa mnyamatayo.
Samalani ndi mawu.
Mu maphunziro a dona weniweni, nkofunika kuti musamangokhala ndi chisamaliro kuti mumayandikire msungwanayo komanso mawu omwe mumamuuza. Iwo amapanga chithunzi cha dziko la mtsikanayo ndikuzindikira malo ake mmenemo, kutsegula kwatsopano kapena, m'malo mwake, kuchepetsa lingaliro la chowonadi. Choncho musayese kunena mawu awa: "Atsikana sachita mwanjira imeneyi", "Atsikana sayenera." Pambuyo pa zonse, yesani khalidwe la mwanayo likhale lopanda kusamala za kugonana. Lankhulani mawu ambiri achikondi momwe mungathere. Koma kumbukirani kuti mawu okha sali okwanira. Ndikofunika kusonyeza chikondi kwa mwana wanga mwa zochita zanga.
- Perekani chidwi chanu kwa mwana wanu momwe zingathere.
- Kuyambira kubadwa, lankhulani naye, nthawi zambiri muzigwira manja anu, kumakukumbatira, kumpsompsona.
- Onetsetsani kuti muyankhe kulira. Kudziwa kuti amai adzapulumutsa pamene mwanayo akuphatikizidwa ku chitetezo ndi chidaliro.
- Musakhalebe osayanjanirana ndi kupambana kwake. Musakhale otamanda kutamanda.
- Mvetserani maganizo ake, mum'lemekezeni.
- Khalidwe loyipa yesetsani kukonza modekha - popanda kufuula ndi kukwapula.
Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti ngati muli ndi mwana, ndiye kuti ziyenera kukhala zosiyana mwanjira yosonyeza chikondi. Ana onse mofanana amafunikira chikondi cha amayi, chikondi ndi chikondi.
Perekani zidole zosiyana.
Atsikana amakonda amakonda zidole, chifukwa ubongo wazimayi amawongolera kusamalira ana. Koma nthawi zina amasewera ndi magalimoto akuluakulu, sitimayi, zida zomanga. Mwa ichi palibe cholakwika. Chifukwa cha masewera otere, msungwanayu amayesa ntchito zatsopano, amaphunzira chinachake chatsopano, amapeza zofunikira ndi zochititsa chidwi.
Musamaweruze moopsa kwambiri.
Ngakhale m'mikhalidwe yosasangalatsa kwambiri, yesetsani kudziletsa nokha ndipo musamuuze mwana wanu kuti ali wodekha, wamanyazi, kapena wamwano. Atsikana amayamikira kwambiri ena. Makamaka ngati zimachokera kwa mayi wokondedwa. Zomwe zimachitidwa kumanyozo aakulu zingakhale zovuta zosiyana, mu msinkhu wachikulire kwambiri, zomwe zidzasokoneza moyo wa mtsikana wamng'ono. Fotokozani mwatsatanetsatane momwe muyenera kukhalira, ndi momwe mungachitire izi kapena mkhalidwe umenewo.
Kumbukirani kuti kuleredwa kwanu ndi gawo lanu lolimba ndi ubale wake m'tsogolomu.